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I'm not seeking his aproval anymore

I admired one person for 1.5 years, he is 30 years older than me and was a mentor - type person for me. He talked a lot about my personality, but was very critical of me and I've never seem to do anything right in his eyes. But I put his opinion very... See More »

The only positive thing this person has ever said to me was...

... that he described in several sentences what he thinks I'm bad at and then said, that I've become much better at it. Does that count as a compliment? I kinda feels like he really thinks about it as a compliment.

Why does he behave towards me like that?

One of the lecturers (m55) at my university have always been a cool friend / mentor type person for the students. He has high expectations and it is important for him, that students work on their ideas instead just taking the idea of others. But he... See More »

I think I might be slipping into depression. How to prevent it?

For some time, I'm waking up at night crying without a certain reason. I also feel like I'm an "observer" whenever I'm with other people. I relive all unpleasent situations in my life and remember constantly what mean someone said to me years ago.... See More »

Would you get a chin implant if you'd have recessed chin?

I have a recessed chin and really hate my profile. However, I'm worried about having to go through an op, possible site effects, recovery time and costs. For 2000-3000 dollars I could travel for at least 2 months. I'm sure a chin implant would... See More »

How does it feel like to have a strong father?

My father struggled with depression my whole childhood and teen years and our roles were often reversed. I've just always wished to have a strong shoulder to lean on. I would wish one of the alpine climbers at my mountaneering club would be my... See More »

If someone did something which hurt me, should I tell them?

I always say nothing or "no problem", but I think I'm a pushover because of that.

How to stop being angry about being hold down during my childhood?

My parents were very anxious, introverted people and that wasn't much what I could do as a child. I couldn't go swimming, I couldn't learn to ski, I couldn't play outside, couldn't go to a camp - because I would get a cold, hurt myself, people would... See More »

People find it hard to spend time with me

I kinda noticed that like 75% of the people don't feel well in my presence, they cut the conversation short, want to listen to music when waiting I'm the only person there, get upset very easily like I'd trigger something in them and generally find... See More »

Why do I want to prove something to someone who is looking down at me?

He's always critisizing me for stuff and telling me I'm not good enough. Why do I want to improve and show him I'm capable? I'm not in relationship with him, I actually don't have anything to do with him anymore, he used to be my lecturer at uni.

How to approach someone I wish to be my mentor?

I'm part of a climbing club and I like the personality of one of the club leaders. She is ten years older than me, I really like her personality, she's great with organizing kids activities at the club, and she runs a bio farm with her family. She... See More »

I'm 28 and I like a 58 year old man...

I kinda adore him I think... I'm sad that I don't have anything to give to him, he doesn't learn anything when he talks to me... He's better at everything and I'm just a stupid little Lili for him I think... He's happy and extroverted and laughing... See More »

How to stop having a crush on someone?

Rleationship would be off limits...

How should I have react?

I wanted to go bouldering by myself today afternoon and then I met there two people I went rope climbing with before few times. I really set up my mind on bouldering and didn't prepare my mind on climbing in 15 m height and was looking forward to... See More »

Why am I so intimidated by one person?

I can't get a full sentence out when he's around and freeze everytime he asks me something...

I don't want to feel sorry for my parents

I've always felt sorry for my parents. They both had issues with their dads, they both didn't go to college, they both struggled to keep a job, they both changed jobs very often, they are very shy and introverted poeple, they didn't travel... And... See More »

Why I never be good enough for some poeple?

I have this lecturer at my university who was always super critical of me. Me not taking initiative in the class, not pushing through my ideas in my project, not standing up for myself, he said that I should not do a PhD cause I didn't come with the... See More »

How to accept that someone I look up to feels poorly about me?

It makes me sad, cause I take his opinion high and he thinks I'm not that capable... Makes me doubt my choises...

Constructive critique or contempt?

A lecturer at my uni criticizes me constantly. I find his critique very helpful, but it's like 90% of the time. But, despite that, he always finds time for me. How to see if his critique is constructive critisism or if I'm just getting on his... See More »

What are the signs someone doesn't want to have anything to do with me?

Can I overcome nature AND nurture with personality?

My parents were both very anxious and my father had some health issues (disc prolapse, kidney stones). I feel like I'm more anxious than most of the people and also at school during gymnastics lessons I needed to practice longer and harder than my... See More »

Is it stalking to do something because someone I admire does it?

Hi, I'm kind of a more of an introverted and anxious person. I've always read books about conquering fears and talked about doing it, but was never completely successfull. I met someone at my university and I immediately liked his personality, he's... See More »

Is it possible that a 55 year old man would develop fatherly feelings toward me and like me like his daughter?

My father never took care of me and I always found men in my environment (teachers, professor etc.) and made them my role model and father figure. I know, some of the teachers were then also more protective of me but we of course never met outside... See More »

Why does someone who seems to look down on my always find time for me and help me?

I'm a PhD student at a university and I kind of don't understand the behaviour of a senior co-worker towards me. He's a very good researcher in his field, but sadly not in my project. Anyway, I still know him as a lecturer, so I asked him for help in... See More »

No answer is also an answer?

When someone gives you an advice and an offer, then you follow their advice and write them you'd like to accept their offer and then they don't respond, did they reconsider?