How to stop being angry about being hold down during my childhood?

My parents were very anxious, introverted people and that wasn't much what I could do as a child. I couldn't go swimming, I couldn't learn to ski, I couldn't play outside, couldn't go to a camp - because I would get a cold, hurt myself, people would laugh... The whole world was declared dangerous...

I now go climbing and see all those kids being supported by their parents and trainers to be brave. I so wish there would have been one person in my life during my childhood who would dare me to try such things as climbing or jumping into the sea...

Sometimes I'm very upset about it because I think I could be a different person if I wouldn't have been that severely restricted for the first 16 years of my life. How to get over this anger? Thanks!

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Amylynne · 26-30, F

There is only one way through this. You have to quietly and in private forgive them. Not to their face they don’t have to hear you. But you need to forgive that they did you wrong without meaning to do you wrong. Once you’ve done that a weight will come off your heart

sexyjigsaw

I know this pain very well

You just have to move on because they decided what they decided. But you can pick how you move on and experience the things you didn't get to experience :)

swandfriends · 41-45, F

Now you can do what you want. I try not to hold grudges with my parents too much. I somewhat feel now that I'm an adult, I didn't get much heads up about the real things in life, drugs, sex, how men can be, or the importance of college or good grades. I was the oldest, so I didn't have any older siblings to learn from. My mom was one of those who acted like bad things didn't exist in the world. Now that I'm an adult, I realize I was a bit sheltered, not too bad, but in a small way I probably was.

ProfessorPlum77 · 70-79, MVIP

Try looking at it this way.
You were held down for sixteen years. Now, in spite of that, you are overcoming all of those barriers your parents put in front of you.
Also, they set those barriers in an attempt to protect you.

Pretzel · 61-69, M

you don't. but you realize your parent(s) were very scared for you. and you go out and swim and climb and ride your bike - and enjoy yourself

WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F

Maybe if you were pushed to try those things… you wouldn’t have been ready and/or wouldn’t have experienced them the same

I dunno

badminton · 61-69, MVIP

Just let it go. I have a refrigerator magnet that says, "Don't let a good today be spoiled by a bad yesterday. Let it go."

SW-User

You can focus on the present.

And be grateful that you have your freedom now. And enjoy everything life has to offer.

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