Why I never be good enough for some poeple?

I have this lecturer at my university who was always super critical of me. Me not taking initiative in the class, not pushing through my ideas in my project, not standing up for myself, he said that I should not do a PhD cause I didn't come with the idea by myself and was comparing me to other students and how they are much better.
Well, I gave him right (cause he really was right about me not having enough confidence), and I started to do all those things, I speak up in the project meetings, adapted my PhD topic to my interests and not the interests of others, i will be defending earlier and with more publications than the students he was always telling should be my role model (and they are really great students and I've seen them as role models), and I will be having my own project abroad for my PostDoc after my defence.
And I did everything what he advised me and I wrote him about my PostDoc abroad and wanted to talk to him about it and now he's ignoring me. So why am I still not good enough for him?

AlwaysAlexis · 51-55, F

I think the question you should be asking yourself is this: Why does his approval matter so much to you? You frame your success (and you have much to be proud of) as reactions to his words. Pursuing your PhD should be for you. Your research and publications should be for you. Your accomplishments should be for you. You deserve that. Like RoxClymer said, you're never going to please everyone. Focus on the ones that matter (well said, RoxClymer!)

Amylynne · 26-30, F

I’ve had something like this before. In fact pretty much every girl has. Even though we live in America and it’s the 21st century. There are some people who just think we can’t make it. It’s really quite criminal to have a respectable authority like that suggest such a thing my best suggestion? Keep doing your work. I am I’m pre-doctoral just now but I will get there

smiler2012 · 56-60

there is encouragement and there is bullying and i think this guy trying too motivate you and get the best from you is definitely more the latter . that is not the way to get your best out of you sorry [lillyjulia]