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I don't want to feel sorry for my parents

I've always felt sorry for my parents. They both had issues with their dads, they both didn't go to college, they both struggled to keep a job, they both changed jobs very often, they are very shy and introverted poeple, they didn't travel...
And now, for the past 5 years, they are both sick. My dad has back issues and needed 3 surgeries. My mom was diagnosed with cancer 3 moths ago, luckily not an aggressive one, it's gone now after a surgery, but she will get a preventive chemo.

They are both very generous, friendly, supportive poeple, they have always been there for me and my mom is the strongest cancer patient out there, always with a smile. I feel sorry for them having all of these struggles in their life.

And sometimes I feel sorry for myself and I feel guilty for wishing to have strong, self-confident parents with a stable job.
I know an older man who I wish would be my father as he would have had time for my 13 year old self, to teach me sports and show me how to find friends as he has never had to deal with financial and health issues. Sometimes when I'm overwhelmed with worries for my mom I imagine I'm at his house and he's my dad and we talk about climbing and he takes me in his arms.
dimfok · 22-25, M
Looks like they didn't do much wrong. It was life that didn't give them many options. Imagining another person to be your father seems reasonable as it highlights what you've been lacking. If you feel like it's getting too frequent or intense, I'd consider a therapist so you can find a way to deal with the whole situation in a more efficient manner
Funnycat · 31-35, F
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