People find it hard to spend time with me

I kinda noticed that like 75% of the people don't feel well in my presence, they cut the conversation short, want to listen to music when waiting I'm the only person there, get upset very easily like I'd trigger something in them and generally find it hard to be with me, sometimes I can see how they are relieved when a third person joins, so that they are not with me anymore. I've never known why but it's a repeating pattern, so it's on me.

There is one person I would like to be friends with but I kinda feel like I should stop wanting to be friends with them and leave them alone. They didn't say anything but I don't want to make their life hard by them having to spend time with me in the long run.

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Soossie

Things like this should motivate us for change … maybe not who you are but to change the circle of people that you usually find yourself in ….

DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F

try to find more people who are more like you :)

Ynotisay · M

Or maybe 75% of the people you encounter have their own issues with communicating in social settings. Might want to focus on the 25% of people you can relate to. That's a big pool.
But just to toss it out there? If you go in to any relationship or friendship thinking you'll make that person's life harder then you're pretty much setting yourself up for failure. Thoughts become things, right? So feeling like it's on you, which is pretty self-aware, might be a good reason to ask yourself why. We get what we give. That's how the whole game is played. Give what's important to you and you'll receive it in return. For sure. Not every time. But enough. Good luck.

TheEight · 36-40, M

Has anyone ever said you have an intense presence?

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TheEight · 36-40, M

@LillyJulia Not sure a good way to define without simply saying intense.

LillyJulia · 26-30, F

@TheEight ok, well, the question was if someone have ever said that to me, so no, no one did.

ThoughtfulOne · 31-35, M

@LillyJulia a presence that demands attention would be a good way to describe intense I would think. Or perhaps even intimidating although I don’t think that’s quite as accurate

SW-User

I used to think that from time to time.

Remember that you can't make everyone happy and it's not your job to.

PoeticPlay · 51-55, M

Ok.
Yes?
Were you about to give the recipe for your awesome sauce?
Bless your heart.

TeirdalinFirefall · 31-35, M

That's super interesting.

PoeticPlay · 51-55, M

I'm busy.

MonaReeves86 · 36-40, F

Yesterday I felt like none liked me but today I don’t give a damn

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