I’ve tried quite a few already— deep breathing, meditation, hot bath, extra sleep, etc. I’m still getting knots in my stomach and tension headaches. What are your tried and true de-stressing activities?
I do some quirky things. Like taking a sheet of notebook paper and writing in cursive in mirror image filling up the entire page. For some reason it helps. I also like to take a thin Sharpie and doodle scrolls and vines and flowers, filling in the doodles with highlighter colors…or take plastic grocery bags and cut them into strips and crochet them into balls, stuffing the insides with more grocery bags. They make good stress balls or good nerf-ball substitutes to toss around in the house. I also like to go outdoors and sit out in the sun and let it warm my face. Or drive out to the lake and sit and watch the water sparkle and listen to the sounds around me….birds, fish flopping up out of the water, boats on the lake etc. A Sunday drive is also good.
@atlantic59 I started doing that on my first break after seeing 9-1-1 live on TV at work. Every break and lunch period I took my spiral notebook and colored markers and did scrolls and doodles. And I did it for an entire year. The stress of hearing that just overwhelmed my mind. I also didn’t watch any national news for an entire year. I had a very strong feeling for a week before 9-1-1 that something tragic was going to happen and it would be broadcast all over the world and affect us in various ways. On the Sunday before it happened my sister called me. I told her something big was going to happen and it was going to be tragic. She said “I have enough to take care of today to worry about tomorrow”….basically blew off what I told her. The day after it happened she calls excitedly and says “You were right, you were right!!!” I told her I’d never tell her anything like that again and hung up.
I have this Muse gadget the wife and kids bought me. It’s used in conjunction with meditative sounds. You let your mind go and just relax to the sound of the odd bird chirping. It’s very relaxing. This won’t help you much.
I do a check in with myself and then confront what comes up. Challenge it.
I also do a visual thing pretending there are windshield wipers in front of my eyes and when the thought comes up I turn on the windshield wiper and wipe it away.
Listen to Meditation Oasis this one when I’m struggling [media=https://youtu.be/YZK2R5afZ90]
I listen to Calm Radio Classical music to calm myself.
Scents can work. I use incense to settle myself.
Go for a walk and talk to the trees. I know it sounds weird, but it may help.
Talking with someone that will listen and not respond also helps. I never like to be fixed when in the state I’m presuming that you’re experiencing.
I know you’ve tried most of the above. I hope you feel better soon.
Well, as you already know, for me it's traipsing off across the river in to the woods, or a brief ride to the shore's edge and a bench with an outlook. For you my friend, my hope is that you have a close friend you can spend some ftf with.....breakfast/lunch date? Here where I live, within an hour or so's drive, we have a wild animal place where, wild animals either who have been brought in for rehab, or animals whom for whatever reason cannot be reintroduced in to the wild have a home. I know you love of animals buddy, and maybe a respite....a trip to one of those if you have one not overly far away might be a balm.
It's probably going to sound really stupid, and its not something I would typically ever let anyone know, but it's my odd go to..... Whenever I'm stressed out, I'll take my one car out for a drive, then park somewhere quiet and leave the engine running. This particular car is 40 years old and it shakes and vibrates a lot while its idling, which relaxes me every time. I will also admit that it has had a very different effect with a few women who were with me times when i forgot to turn off the engine after parking somewhere, but thats another story.
No,no,no..not hitting yer head against the wall..no wonder you have headaches😢
I guess coffee,friends,movies,meditations in cathedrals of my own 🙏,exercise...did I mention coffee?? Friends may be best and my least favorite..doing thee things I've been putting off
@SimplyLogicalDiscipline Transferribg an Llc from my deceased mom’s name into mine. Dealing with banks and lawyers and all sorts of government agencies. Unavoidable, but necessary stress.
@NerdyPotato Absolutely. I know the stress will be less in time, but the timeline is out of my control. I think that adds to the stress of the situation.
Alone time, in a dark room. I sometimes get headaches from my neck so I'll press my thumb pretty hard into the sore muscles which hurts but then relieves the tension