How to make friends as an adult?

I am certainly finding it just as difficult. I've posted about it before.
Try a club, class, exercise class, hobby that meets weekly or something. You can try meetup, though I haven't had much success with it.

It's hard.. you sound like me. Try and do something social that takes the pressure off.. like a club or similar interest meeting.. keep focused on the activity and relationships will naturally form. Easier said than done, like most things hard in life.

I’m much the same way. I’d just rather be at home relaxing after working all week, it’s our down time. But that’s why I come here, can try to have conversations with new people while doing what I want at the same time.

Don't stress about it. Get on with life. If you meet good people and they become friends that's great. If not, that's still great. Wake up every day and be happy you're alive. Live for you.

OMG, I could have written this post. Yes, I find it [i]very[/i] difficult to even [i]find[/i] prospective friends. And the dating sites are the [i]worst[/i] places to look.

I'm an introvert, too, and do the best I can when I'm with other people. It's not easy sometimes, but I get through it. Then, I can't wait to get home, wishing I had more true friends to be with.

I've never found my tribe. It would be so great to find even one or two members of it. But, they don't seem to be around.

I wish I had some suggestions for you. If you think of anything, let me know.

In many ways SW is educational....as it represents a cross section of society not all of us can relate too. Like introversion.........to the point of a complete feeling of loneliness. Even when you know introversion is shooting yourself in the foot and there is a way out.......introversion wins as a lifestyle. ?? And depression and how that affects a person. And perversions that are self-seen as huge turnons while the rest of would puke if we were with someone who just pee'd themselves in public because THEY think that is the coolest, sexiest thing ever. Or how many on social media beg for someone to PLEASE PM them because they are so lonely..............and yet if anyone does they never respond back.

As bad as social media can be it does open up doors to seeing just how screwed up a LOT of people around us actually are. That is good and bad............but it does expose an "other side" of society that many of us would never even know existed normally. Just thoughts.......

Do the things you enjoy... Then look around... Chances are the people doing the same things are potential friends 🤗

The only place I interact with lots of people regularly away from my work is school pickups and drop offs for my daughter. I'm way older than all the other parents of kids in my daughters class and it's not really possible for me to make much conversation as I'm not in the 'social crowd'.

I've been finding it very difficult to find new friends for a long time. Partly that's been due to my personality; my lack of self-confidence and how difficult I find it to make conversation with strangers. But the alternative avenues I used to have for making friends, such as placing personal ads in music magazines and swapping letters with penfriends, no longer exist. I've found it almost impossible to make friends with people via the internet, and dumbed-down, shambolic social media sites like Facebook are the most useless of all. There's no meaningful communication there.

The only thing that's really worked for me was when I joined a band and played regular gigs. That way, people came and introduced themselves to me, and I didn't have to make the effort to speak to them, feeling like I was an unwanted intruder.

As an adult making friends usually branches off some form of interest. So you meet at a common interest group or as part of a tour/travel group or study course. Then you break the ice organically and see a more genuine version of the person. Its not so far from people who meet at work and form close relationships..😷

Mostly on similar interests at this point. I wouldnt say its difficult, I just don't try too often

You sound exactly like me. But my favorite time is when I'm alone. People totally stress me out. I'm an empath and being around people, I absorb all their emotions and it's absolutely overwhelming

I understand at least part of your issue. For many years, thirty or so, I held roles where I was meeting many people each day, working hard to build up relationships for business purposes, and like you I frequently felt drained and reluctant to open up to other people outside of a business environment. What worked for me was joining clubs and getting into activities where I met people with similar interests who weren't looking to judge me. It worked and I made a number of long-term friendships.

It’s because you want a serious relationship/friendship from start. That builds up as you get to know someone.

It does seem really difficult, it feels like my friends have disappeared since we left school/college.

Don't know, I only seem to lose them! It's lucky I enjoy my own company, or I'd be royally Rogered.

Yes, it takes a lot of effort and time to develop friendships. I’m currently trying to make new friends by going to a yoga studio for a month straight. They have an unlimited yoga package so it’s relatively cheap and it’s a place I can go everyday and see the same people. I think repetition and consistency is key.

It's a lot of work to make new friends in this age. I am having same issues

Just be yourself 😀 If you find someone to your liking, strike up a conversation.

I've lived in Montana now for 9 years. No friends since i left New Mexico. We're still considered outsiders here.
Maybe why i spend so much time on SW...searching. 🤗

I like talking to people and making friends is very easy for me.

I have lots of real life friends, lots of weekends we get together and play cards, have a cookout.

We're all like extended family.

There like 20 of us but its about its about 10 that it to the card games and cookouts. Every weekend its someone else's turn to host

It’s so hard !

I'm in the same boat myself.

I hear you. The other day, i wanted human interaction with other human adults. I walked into a tavern I'd never been in before. It was totally packed. No room at the bar or anywhere for that matter. I walked out, and went to a quiet restaurant

Just be yourself.

Being part of a social organization like a church or synagogue helps a great deal.

No idea
And i dont care to make friends though

As many others have said it can be about joining clubs and stuff like that. But one thing that’s overlooked is that you may need to go a few times to really get to know anyone and become friends. So pick something affordable and that you’re into so you keep going

Good luck 🤗
Here if you’d like an online friend

I think this is why people often build friendships through other circles: work, church, activity groups for one's kids, or other recreation / hobby interests.

What activity or other interests do you have? Or do you need a person to just hang out with as you decompress from work?

Yes it is difficult. Can we chat

I've given up trying, tbh.

Androids are tricky, try Lego first

Best friends listen

Trying to

It takes time to make friends, with whom you can sit and relax , but some people are just so open that you make friends with them in short time

Would love to be your friend, Miss, but you would have to reply on my private message, I sent you a while ago.

Go to a Church Social

Just do drugs.

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