How to make friends as an adult?

To be honest I struggle with making new friends. It’s not that I’m not friendly and approachable. I have to socialize all day for my job. So I feel to tired to do it after work. I have to approach people, ask them deep questions to best be able to help them. So I have to be an extrovert.

But when it comes to not being at work I resort back to my normal nature of being an introvert. Where I don’t want to approach people. When someone from work invites me out I rarely want to go. And yet I sit here wishing I had more friends.

I guess I am just looking for my people. The ones where it feels natural and not a forced effort. So many people are fake now a days. I can’t be bothered pretending to like someone because I have no one. I rather be alone.

As an adult how do you make new friends? Do you find it as difficult as me?

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zonavar68 · 51-55, M

The only place I interact with lots of people regularly away from my work is school pickups and drop offs for my daughter. I'm way older than all the other parents of kids in my daughters class and it's not really possible for me to make much conversation as I'm not in the 'social crowd'.

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

@zonavar68 I hear you. As a granfather I do the school pickup once a week and the old guy just doesnt fit. Even though I also tag in on some other parent activities as my daughter and son in law both work.😷