How to make friends as an adult?

To be honest I struggle with making new friends. It’s not that I’m not friendly and approachable. I have to socialize all day for my job. So I feel to tired to do it after work. I have to approach people, ask them deep questions to best be able to help them. So I have to be an extrovert.

But when it comes to not being at work I resort back to my normal nature of being an introvert. Where I don’t want to approach people. When someone from work invites me out I rarely want to go. And yet I sit here wishing I had more friends.

I guess I am just looking for my people. The ones where it feels natural and not a forced effort. So many people are fake now a days. I can’t be bothered pretending to like someone because I have no one. I rather be alone.

As an adult how do you make new friends? Do you find it as difficult as me?

in10RjFox · M

The first thing one needs to do to make friends, is being open with a friendly disposition. We can't see our own face or how we look, but others can.

Our outlook is determined by our inside.

You can gauge this by the way you approach people as you assess by the way they look. When approaching someone to ask something, you can ask yourself why you chose the one and not the other

So being approachable, wearing a smile, hiding the worries can give you the friendly disposition.