How to make friends as an adult?

To be honest I struggle with making new friends. It’s not that I’m not friendly and approachable. I have to socialize all day for my job. So I feel to tired to do it after work. I have to approach people, ask them deep questions to best be able to help them. So I have to be an extrovert.

But when it comes to not being at work I resort back to my normal nature of being an introvert. Where I don’t want to approach people. When someone from work invites me out I rarely want to go. And yet I sit here wishing I had more friends.

I guess I am just looking for my people. The ones where it feels natural and not a forced effort. So many people are fake now a days. I can’t be bothered pretending to like someone because I have no one. I rather be alone.

As an adult how do you make new friends? Do you find it as difficult as me?

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PrestonJ · 36-40

Yes, it takes a lot of effort and time to develop friendships. I’m currently trying to make new friends by going to a yoga studio for a month straight. They have an unlimited yoga package so it’s relatively cheap and it’s a place I can go everyday and see the same people. I think repetition and consistency is key.

DayDreamer3 · 36-40, F

@PrestonJ I did the same. I signed up for yoga too. You’re right though I stop going after a few classes. You have to consistently go to get to know people. Some places are just so expensive though!

PrestonJ · 36-40

@DayDreamer3 I think that’s why if you’ve ever gone to a camp or participated in something with the same people that you become friends. We’re all suspicious even if we don’t mean to, when letting new people in, but if we can see them over and over again and they don’t change we can trust them a little more. They are expensive… if they have an unlimited plan than it’s easier to justify it because going everyday drops the price per class to nothing, like $3.83 cents for mine.