How to make friends as an adult?

To be honest I struggle with making new friends. It’s not that I’m not friendly and approachable. I have to socialize all day for my job. So I feel to tired to do it after work. I have to approach people, ask them deep questions to best be able to help them. So I have to be an extrovert.

But when it comes to not being at work I resort back to my normal nature of being an introvert. Where I don’t want to approach people. When someone from work invites me out I rarely want to go. And yet I sit here wishing I had more friends.

I guess I am just looking for my people. The ones where it feels natural and not a forced effort. So many people are fake now a days. I can’t be bothered pretending to like someone because I have no one. I rather be alone.

As an adult how do you make new friends? Do you find it as difficult as me?

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PhoenixPhail · M

OMG, I could have written this post. Yes, I find it [i]very[/i] difficult to even [i]find[/i] prospective friends. And the dating sites are the [i]worst[/i] places to look.

I'm an introvert, too, and do the best I can when I'm with other people. It's not easy sometimes, but I get through it. Then, I can't wait to get home, wishing I had more true friends to be with.

I've never found my tribe. It would be so great to find even one or two members of it. But, they don't seem to be around.

I wish I had some suggestions for you. If you think of anything, let me know.