How to make friends as an adult?

To be honest I struggle with making new friends. It’s not that I’m not friendly and approachable. I have to socialize all day for my job. So I feel to tired to do it after work. I have to approach people, ask them deep questions to best be able to help them. So I have to be an extrovert.

But when it comes to not being at work I resort back to my normal nature of being an introvert. Where I don’t want to approach people. When someone from work invites me out I rarely want to go. And yet I sit here wishing I had more friends.

I guess I am just looking for my people. The ones where it feels natural and not a forced effort. So many people are fake now a days. I can’t be bothered pretending to like someone because I have no one. I rather be alone.

As an adult how do you make new friends? Do you find it as difficult as me?

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MaBalzEsHari · M

In many ways SW is educational....as it represents a cross section of society not all of us can relate too. Like introversion.........to the point of a complete feeling of loneliness. Even when you know introversion is shooting yourself in the foot and there is a way out.......introversion wins as a lifestyle. ?? And depression and how that affects a person. And perversions that are self-seen as huge turnons while the rest of would puke if we were with someone who just pee'd themselves in public because THEY think that is the coolest, sexiest thing ever. Or how many on social media beg for someone to PLEASE PM them because they are so lonely..............and yet if anyone does they never respond back.

As bad as social media can be it does open up doors to seeing just how screwed up a LOT of people around us actually are. That is good and bad............but it does expose an "other side" of society that many of us would never even know existed normally. Just thoughts.......

rocknroll

@MaBalzEsHari im definitely a introvert, and i dont really want the way out
Its who i am

MaBalzEsHari · M

@rocknroll I understand that is you.......but not for me.