How to make friends as an adult?

To be honest I struggle with making new friends. It’s not that I’m not friendly and approachable. I have to socialize all day for my job. So I feel to tired to do it after work. I have to approach people, ask them deep questions to best be able to help them. So I have to be an extrovert.

But when it comes to not being at work I resort back to my normal nature of being an introvert. Where I don’t want to approach people. When someone from work invites me out I rarely want to go. And yet I sit here wishing I had more friends.

I guess I am just looking for my people. The ones where it feels natural and not a forced effort. So many people are fake now a days. I can’t be bothered pretending to like someone because I have no one. I rather be alone.

As an adult how do you make new friends? Do you find it as difficult as me?

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swirlie · 31-35, F

I manifest people to come into space by utilizing the Art of Manifestation. Only those who I manifest into my reality are the ones who show up in my space.

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zonavar68 · 51-55, M

@swirlie Is manifesting like a cult? How does the so-called 'Law of Attraction' mix with the so-called 'Art of Manifestation'?

swirlie · 31-35, F

@zonavar68
No, Trumpism is a cult. Manifestation is about controlling or directing energy with your intent.

zonavar68 · 51-55, M

@swirlie Agree about Trumpism. Sadly I'm totally lost when it comes to what you say about energy directing/controlling. It's outside my ability or scope.

swirlie · 31-35, F

@zonavar68
No actually, it is not outside your ability or scope. And, you are not lost either.

Back to your original question, "How does the so-called 'Law of Attraction' mix with the so-called 'Art of Manifestation'?". I will start by saying they are essentially one in the same, though different by definition.

The Law of Attraction (which is a natural law within the universe itself) is governed or is at least influenced by the Art of Manifestation (which is the human input of influence) because those two entities are always connected together with each other in every transaction. One does not exist without the other.

Keeping it simple here, the Law of Attraction states: 'like attract like'. That however is not to say, that it's the same as a magnet attracting a metal object. Though both are made of metal, both are not magnetic, nor are both non-magnetic. Only one is!

More simply put, 'minds attract like minds'. Minds do not attract it's opposite, unlike a metal object and a metal magnet does.

When people are attracted to one another, they are NOT therefore, 'magnetically attracted to each other' which is a common misperception. They are in fact attracted to each other because of 'sameness', not because one is opposite to the other like metal and magnet. Like attracts like within the universe Proper.

Therefore, the Law of Attraction has nothing to do with opposites, but everything to do with sameness.

Are you with me so far?