How to make friends as an adult?

To be honest I struggle with making new friends. It’s not that I’m not friendly and approachable. I have to socialize all day for my job. So I feel to tired to do it after work. I have to approach people, ask them deep questions to best be able to help them. So I have to be an extrovert.

But when it comes to not being at work I resort back to my normal nature of being an introvert. Where I don’t want to approach people. When someone from work invites me out I rarely want to go. And yet I sit here wishing I had more friends.

I guess I am just looking for my people. The ones where it feels natural and not a forced effort. So many people are fake now a days. I can’t be bothered pretending to like someone because I have no one. I rather be alone.

As an adult how do you make new friends? Do you find it as difficult as me?

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Howudoin · 41-45, M

I hear you. The other day, i wanted human interaction with other human adults. I walked into a tavern I'd never been in before. It was totally packed. No room at the bar or anywhere for that matter. I walked out, and went to a quiet restaurant

DayDreamer3 · 36-40, F

@Howudoin yeah that’s like me. I know I need to socialize but a lot of the time when I’m in it I just want to get out of it and go home lol. I think we just need the find the right people. It seems like now a days everyone is trying to have a lot of friends instead of just a few good quality ones.