What have you regretted the most in your life?
it is important to note that some degree of regret is normal and can even be a valuable learning experience. The goal is not to completely eliminate regret, but rather to minimize it and learn from it
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CookieCrumbs · F
I have some regrets that are more like “I wish I had done more of this, said more of this to certain people, etc”. Those I cannot really undo or bring back time. I can only do better with the present opportunities.
There are regrets that affected the turn of my life in a major way. I can only accept what is and move forward.
When I think about the lessons and the experiences, a part of me does not regret the choices at all. The heartaches and disappointments have all made me who I am — flawed but real.
There are regrets that affected the turn of my life in a major way. I can only accept what is and move forward.
When I think about the lessons and the experiences, a part of me does not regret the choices at all. The heartaches and disappointments have all made me who I am — flawed but real.
Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F
@CookieCrumbs Beautiful. Well said. Good share..
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Magenta · F
@Coldplay Oh yes. I don't wallow, but I remember. It keeps us real, more honest and teaches us about ourselves and what NOT to do. We're human, not robots or saints. It's why it should also make it easier to show grace towards others blunders as well. We don't just know how we will be or behave in a situation until we are right in the throes of it. 💙
SammyJo · 51-55, F
Hmmmm....nothing, really. There were things that happened to me that I really didn't wish for, so as an example, getting raped and terrified that I caught AIDS was a very major one.
But, I really wanted to be a biology teacher...and ended up a prostitute. Bit of a different fork in the road there, but nothing that I am not proud of. I'm happy enough with how things are.
I have 2 lovely daughters, great in-laws, grandchildren....and the love of my life...so what's to regret?
SJD xx
But, I really wanted to be a biology teacher...and ended up a prostitute. Bit of a different fork in the road there, but nothing that I am not proud of. I'm happy enough with how things are.
I have 2 lovely daughters, great in-laws, grandchildren....and the love of my life...so what's to regret?
SJD xx
Hassanovic007 · 36-40, M
@Ferric67 That's a great perspective. Life is full of lessons, and our experiences shape us into the people we are today. It's important to embrace those lessons and use them to grow and improve ourselves. Every mistake or challenge we face can be an opportunity for learning and personal development
akindheart · 61-69, F
TexChik · F
Of course I was only a child, but my repeatedly going back home and hoping that sick SOB wouldn't hurt me anymore. My worst ptsd rage is over that very thing...Why? Why did I go back there knowing he would hurt me? I was all alone in the middle of nowhere on a farm and I needed human interaction according to the docs. Its still a sore subject 29 years later
QueenOfZaun · 26-30, F
PatKirby · M
@QueenOfZaun
Same here. Most of my reasons for regret are part of a defense mechanism. I think we all have them, some more than others.
When I asked my old car sales manager I worked a short time for if he had regrets, he said he had none. Told him everyone does, but he insisted. Now that's a mark of a great salesman, hahaha 😂
Same here. Most of my reasons for regret are part of a defense mechanism. I think we all have them, some more than others.
When I asked my old car sales manager I worked a short time for if he had regrets, he said he had none. Told him everyone does, but he insisted. Now that's a mark of a great salesman, hahaha 😂
Hassanovic007 · 36-40, M
@QueenOfZaun It's okay to feel that way. Everyone has their own journey and experiences. It's important to focus on the present and future, and learn from our past mistakes
Hassanovic007 · 36-40, M
@meggie Possible regrets of getting married too young can include missing out on personal growth and development, feeling trapped or limited in the relationship, and the possibility of the marriage not lasting
smiler2012 · 56-60
Hassanovic007 · 36-40, M
@smiler2012 I'm sorry to hear that. It's never easy to lose a loved one, and it can be especially difficult when we have unresolved feelings or regrets. While it's natural to feel remorse about not being able to reconcile with your father, it's important to remember that you can still honor him by living in a way that would have made him proud. Maybe you could also find solace in writing a letter to him, expressing your thoughts and feelings, even if it's just for yourself. It's never too late to make peace with the past, even if it's in your hear
ChiefWalksWith40oz · 26-30
Hassanovic007 · 36-40, M
@ChiefWalksWith40oz thanks for sharing thought ,
It's great that you're able to see the positive side of your past experiences and use them as lessons to help you grow and improve. but it's important to remember that it's not always a bad thing. Sometimes regret can help us learn from our mistakes and make better decisions in the future. It's all about finding a healthy balance between acknowledging the past and moving forward with a positive attitude
It's great that you're able to see the positive side of your past experiences and use them as lessons to help you grow and improve. but it's important to remember that it's not always a bad thing. Sometimes regret can help us learn from our mistakes and make better decisions in the future. It's all about finding a healthy balance between acknowledging the past and moving forward with a positive attitude
Hassanovic007 · 36-40, M
@SW-User don't think that way keep yourself strong think for future :)
dancingtongue · 80-89, M
I would say I regret I wasn't a better father and more involved in my two sons' upbringing; ; particularly my eldest who had a troubled adolescence. Those 16-hour workdays and being on-call at all hours even when I was home sort of cut into a lot of quality time. Despite that, both have turned out great and both keep bringing up stuff they say they learned from me, mostly by example, so perhaps I wasn't that bad a Dad. But really the credit goes to their mother, God rest her soul.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
Because I’m older, I look back on my time when I was an athlete, D1 college wrestler. I wish I was more driven, better trained, and knew what it meant to win. It’s not the record, or individual accolades or the team. It’s for your soul. Did you push yourself as hard as possible and succeed?
It’s a life lesson that I would’ve valued had I learned it earlier in my adulthood. Being driven is just the base of the mountain. Being mentally sated is the peak. That’s the real goal in life.
It’s a life lesson that I would’ve valued had I learned it earlier in my adulthood. Being driven is just the base of the mountain. Being mentally sated is the peak. That’s the real goal in life.
nonsensiclesnail · F
Hassanovic007 · 36-40, M
@nonsensiclesnail Feeling unproductive, need to manage time better
nonsensiclesnail · F
@Hassanovic007 thank you for clearing that up for me. 🙄😁
Hassanovic007 · 36-40, M
@nonsensiclesnail you're welcome anytime :)
taneegoan · 31-35, F
I did started few things in my life b4 proper time as per maturity and culture of society , I never think about consequences or may be I didn't have enough mind for that and these few things taken me to some other different things that made me life dark and darker and I lost in to that dark from where I have no way return .
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
FoolishLuna · 56-60, F
Jeephikelove · 46-50, F
I have many unfortunately, I was stupidly chasing others to fill a huge void when I was younger (part of me still is). I should have focused on myself 30 years ago instead and put myself in the position I am now, and thankfully the void is A LOT smaller.
calicuz · 51-55, M
I actually have no regrets. I've lived my life the way I've wanted to, without hindrance or caution. Any poor decisions or mistakes I've made I simply own up to them and move on.
Hassanovic007 · 36-40, M
@calicuz That's a great mindset to have! It's important to live life on your own terms and not let fear or hesitation hold you back. Owning up to mistakes and moving on is also a valuable trait as it allows you to learn from the experience and grow as a person. Keep living your life the way you want to and don't let regrets hold you back
Barny52 · 56-60, M
Mostly things i didn’t do like having more self confidence as a teenager, spending more time with my parents, going to Wigan casino for the dancing, not climbing more mountains.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
I only have small regrets. The worst things that happened to me were out of my control. Regrets are a waste of emotion to me anyway.
goliathtree · 56-60, M
wish in one hand and shit in the other and we all know which one will fill up first.
No sense dreaming about that which we cannot change.
No sense dreaming about that which we cannot change.
iamelijah · 26-30, M
Regret it so bad I wish I could time travel to fix my own mistake and mentally prepare myself for future me.
WandererTony · 56-60, M
Too many regrets… let’s not disturb the dead..let’s move on with life. Else we will have more to regret!! 😊
Colonelmustardseed · 36-40
I most regret how I’d treated certain people in my life over the years.
Rhode57 · 56-60, M
Moving to the uk . The only good thing to come out of my move was my kids and grankids the rest was a total disaster .
thepreposterouspanda · 36-40, M
I really regret stopping antidepressants cold turkey when I was 22. It messed me up for the rest of my life.
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
No regrets, I see everything I didn't like as feedback to prevent it in the future.
TheFragile · 46-50, M
No, just about a year when I strayed from my path.
ExperienceDLT · M
All of it
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F
Hassanovic007 · 36-40, M
@Donotfolowme It's understandable to have such thoughts and feelings, especially when it comes to the impact of our parents on our lives.
However, it's important to remember that we can only control our own actions and choices, we can focus on making the best of what we have and creating a better future for ourselves. It's never too late to work towards a happier and more fulfilling life.
However, it's important to remember that we can only control our own actions and choices, we can focus on making the best of what we have and creating a better future for ourselves. It's never too late to work towards a happier and more fulfilling life.
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F
@Hassanovic007 its not entirely true
Hassanovic007 · 36-40, M
@Donotfolowme what's make it not entirely true ?
