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Why Bother Commenting On Other SW User's Posts?

How do you feel when there is no response to your comments? No reply, no emoji, nada, nothing?

I realize that some posts get a number of responses so you may not be able to reply to everyone. But how about a simple smile or thumbs up acknowledging another SW members comments? I have written some genuine encouraging responses to posts, and i see the post.has comments and replies to other comments, but i see nothing. Is it a popularity contest here? Do people lack basic social graces.

Well that is my rant for today. I hope you have a good one.
Sometimes my comment comes in late and isn’t seen and I might see others in the same situation. Sometimes the OP isn’t around after they post and no one gets a reply for days. Other than that, if it’s like you describe and the OP makes a habit of it, I stop responding to their posts. Lol…. and if I’m really in a mood, I’ll delete my comment.
WillaKissing · 56-60, M
@OlderSometimesWiser Ah you're a solid goody for great replies to Luv! 💐
@WillaKissing Aww…. thanks! As are you my friend. 🫂
WillaKissing · 56-60, M
When I post a post, I reply to each and every comment it is given even if it is a negative comment (I do not let the negativity stand either without addressing it)

Now when I reply to other folks post like yours here, if the poster responds to me then I reply back as to how the response to my reply was taken. If I offended a poster I will apologize and try and clarify what my response was meant to be, because I either reply with 100% humor or genuine heart felt experiences trying to help out.

But I reply to everything involving me here 100% of the time, I ignore no one, not in pride but out of good social graces.

Sincerely,
Willa

PS: I make no excuses for what other's do. Because I am not in their head/situations.
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@WillaKissing Great approach to take.
WillaKissing · 56-60, M
@OverTheHill Thank you!
Yeah not going to lie, posting with no likes/reactions and a bunch of views is disheartening and makes me feel conscious about posting; one thing that is worse is posting a serious post and getting jokers and trolls replying - we need a reddit-type [serious] tag so we can report these edge-lords from making keyboard warrior-drama on the more vulnerable posters posts
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@MySpaceCatFish09 trolls are annoying, but that is why they are called that.
LadyGrace · 70-79
You are absolutely right, my dear. Everyone deserves to be seen and heard. If I have mistakenly overlooked you, please forgive me. Sometimes it does seem to be a popularity contest here. Even on birthdays, some get two or three hundred votes while another may get only seven or eight responses. It's weird. I'm very grateful you're here. You are a shining light in this world and I very much appreciate you. I want you to know that. I never mean to overlook you. I have always been so appreciative of your responses to my posts. I'll try to be more mindful of yours. ❤🤗🙏
LadyGrace · 70-79
@OverTheHill oh I know that honey. But I did want you to know that I have been lack and I'm so sorry. You always and I mean always comment on my post and you will never know how much I appreciate you. I hope I will be as supportive as you have been to me. You are dear to me. There will be a time at the end of this month and probably maybe most of next month when I will be having cataracts removed from both eyes so I won't be able to come on SW as much as I like to. I have to let my eyes heal. Just wanted to give you a heads up.
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@LadyGrace Thank you. Let us all know before you have your cataract surgery, so we can pray for you. 😇
LadyGrace · 70-79
@OverTheHill oh you're so sweet. Thank you. I will. My first appointment is the 23rd of this month but that's only for the tests and then I will find out when my first surgery is.
I usually try to respond when I do notice comments. But I miss a few now and then. Though, I'll ignore a comment if it comes off as trollish or if its just a response like 'lol'or something along thoes lines.

I still don't really understand why some people choose to respond to posts about topics/groups they're not fans of considering they can simply choose to block the groups or just ignore them.
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
4meAndyou · F
I am sorry if you have felt a bit neglected. If it makes you feel any better, I have seen posts where the person posting responds to absolutely no one...and I have seen the opposite, where the person posting tries to type in a response, to every comment, or at the very least, an emoji.

Yes...this is a microcosm of the world, and many people here do not seem to realize that their lack of response is a bit rude.
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@4meAndyou Thanks.
Madmonk · M
My favorite is when someone comments on someone else’s comment without interacting whatsoever with the original post.

No feedback on posts was primarily a male problem. Lately I see it happening to females too, although to a lesser degree.

It sucks when you really put an effort into a response and all you get back is nothing or next to nothing. I’m guilty of this too. Full disclosure. It wasn’t always the case though. I’ve become jaded by the lack of empathy, by the lack of humanity. In studying humans for the past decade I see through just about everything now. I can see the motives behind the motives. Humanity sickens me by its predictability. I also love humanity by its simplicity and inherent beauty. I get to glimpse that now and again. It makes my soul swoon and that’s why I stay.
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@Madmonk Good and true observation.
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
I try to reply if I get a notice.
@Fungirlmmm Yes, you do! 😊😊😇
smiler2012 · 61-69
@OverTheHill🤔yes there maybe nothing too really too be added but yes you are right even a simple gesture as heart even just too give the comment at least some recogntion
Musicman · 61-69, MVIP
@smiler2012 Exactly!
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@smiler2012 Thank you
Magenta · F
It does bother me a bit when "friends" or those who follow me do not comment or support. Why even follow then?

On a side note: I do try to acknowledge responses on my posts as I do appreciate them. Sometimes we don't get notifications, or a comment gets missed or I am not here, and so on.
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@Magenta Thanks for your answer. Of course, we can miss comments especially when we are on here periodically. But we should support the people who we have as friends here.
Magenta · F
@OverTheHill I concur.
HannahSky · F
Unless it's really out there or rude, I at least acknowledge the response, unless it's an older post and some weirdo is responding to everything.
HannahSky · F
@OverTheHill as long as you're not being negative, I'm not sure why they're not responding or hearting.
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@HannahSky You never know what goes through people's minds, especially on SW.
HannahSky · F
@OverTheHill very true
Cassieeeee · 31-35, F
I'm actually horrible at responding at times, but I usually try to go back and answer when my mind calms down. Still read and appreciate it tho.
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
Aysel · F
I had a similar conversation with one of my DFs yesterday. He's a writer, and his poetry is excellent. He's posted some of it on SW, and he does have a few upvotes. However, I see people posting the most insignificant things, and they receive like twenty upvotes. I can't help but feel offended when my DF doesn't receive the same number of upvotes. It's reasonable to say that things aren't the same on SW as they once were, which is unfortunate.
BigGuy2 · 31-35, M
@Aysel sad state of affairs, but a reflection of the World we live in now:

Someone commenting on what they had for dinner the day before, with get more upvotes than poetry ... ☹☹☹
Aysel · F
@BigGuy2 It really is. 😔
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@Aysel If I read a poem, or see a pretty picture, I like to acknowledge the contribution.
Because of the algorithm. I don't always see certain people's questions .
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@pripyatamusementpark Yes SW's algorithm is a bit strange at times.
@OverTheHill and other times I don't know what to say
ninalanyon · 61-69, T
Sometimes I have nothing to say to a comment but I generally hit the heart button to indicate that I have read it.
I usually take it as an invitation to not respond to anything else from them anymore
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@stound Yes
Blondily · F
I agree
When I post something I always give an emoji and reply.
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@Blondily i give at least an emoji.
Blondily · F
@OverTheHill Its appreciated!☺
Lilymoon · F
Yeah it's a little rude and thoughtless imo it's like your comment meant nothing
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@Lilymoon right.
akindheart · 61-69, F
i try to post on every comment but i have to admit, sometimes they get buried and i don't see them right away.
BigGuy2 · 31-35, M
@akindheart yep, i agree ... it's akin to someone being nice to someone but not get'n an acknowledgement for being nice {not that they look for an acknowledgement} ... but it's happened to me quite a few times and i've said to myself:

"Why do i bother"
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@akindheart if they are long enough, understandable.
akindheart · 61-69, F
@OverTheHill i reply or try to to everything regardless of size
Gibbon · 70-79, M
Late again to reply. Seems to becoming habit. I recently left what I consider a clever reply and yet no response. You have to pay attention to the number of reads. This post was made 7 hours ago and only has 6 reads. Which tells me it's not in the feed and I can't find it without reviewing my replies. No matter how I setup my feed filter it doesn't show up in the feed. That's on SW and it's stupid feed algorithm. There's nothing about the post that should limit it from showing up.
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@Gibbon Thanks for your comments. I made this post sometime this morning. The algorithms are different here at SW.
Gibbon · 70-79, M
@OverTheHill Yes but you have 154 reads showing at the moment and many replies. The post I'm talking about finally has uped it's reads to thirty which is still pitiful and I don't know how because nothing I do makes it show up in the feed.
Also, I would like to add....

Some comments are not open ended so it's difficult to respond . If I don't have a response I will usually heart it
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
SophSmiles · 22-25, F
I don’t care, I comment and move on. Sometimes I comment on loads of posts I don’t even remember which ones
RubySoo · 56-60, F
I get where yr coming from. I used to reply to all comments on my post, but these days, im not here as often ad i once was, so i might only check in once or twice a day and what i ranted about or was uoset about earlier in the day may no longer seem so important.
Im more bothered by the fact people post and SW share those posts with so few people nobody even gets chance to read them and reply!!
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@RubySoo Yes, SW is a strange site. What you end up seeing makes you scratch your head at times.
I reply to a posting because I feel like it or because I feel I can help answer. Mostly I get responses back. That is common etiquette. Some people lack that. Sometimes people on here are all about popularity. That doesn't matter to me. Some people need validation and more. That is on them. Online is a weird world that is for sure.
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@PoetryNEmotion I try to be positive to others here. There time and comments are worth acknowledging.
@OverTheHill @OverTheHill You can be whatever you want to be. For the record, it is "their". I have a busy life and I do not need to validate everyone online.
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OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@SomeMichGuy I like to try to create dialog, but many do not.
@OverTheHill I agree, and I know what you mean.
TheShanachie · 61-69, M
I do try to at least click a reaction to let them know I read the comment.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
Boobs. If you don’t have them, your response rate will be dramatically lower.

It’s the “M” after your name/age. It’s not going to change without considerable effort on your part.

Don’t consider it an affront. It’s just a reality.
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@Adogslife Yes. Very true.
Convivial · 26-30, F
Couldn't agree more... If someone can take the time to respond to a post you make, acknowledge it
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@Convivial Yes, thanks.
Convivial · 26-30, F
@OverTheHill sorry about the typos lol
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@Convivial No problem, I make more than my share of typos here.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
I don't usually care,but I do hope you get some nice comments.
Some of the comments I have gotten, I rather have not gotten.
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@Justmeraeagain Some people don't always have kind words to say even on innocuous posts.
i just skip over their Questions in the future..

everyones worth at least a heart.
shows acknowledgement innit...
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout Yes, and respect.
MasterLee · 56-60, M
My life doesn't revolve around other people's comments so I don't give a flying eff
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@MasterLee I get that is the case for some. Thanks.
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
I comment quite a bit.
pancakeslam · 41-45, M
because half the manSWhoes here will not ever respond to your posts because you're not female... don't worry you don't want them to. many of the SWhoes won't respond for similar reasons, like if you seem too virile. they prefer beta males.
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F
I totally agree with you and hopefully from now on SW users will respect my expert comments.
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@Donotfolowme Nice to have an expert.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
I try to reply to everyone who comments on my posts.
Musicman · 61-69, MVIP
That's the way it is. Especially if you are not a girl or a popular user. ☹ It is very depressing though.
Musicman · 61-69, MVIP
@WillaKissing Oh wow! You definitely stay busy and in shape. God bless you 🙏🙏🙏
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@Musicman your posts are positive. Especially the food morning ones.
Musicman · 61-69, MVIP
@OverTheHill Thank you very much 🙂🙂🙂
BigGuy2 · 31-35, M
So true ... i try and thank when each person 'hearts' my comments on all posts
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@BigGuy2 Yes! Thank you.
@BigGuy2 have a heart ❤
It bothers me a little bit, but such is life, I'm not going to let it ruin my day.
OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@NativePortlander1970 good attitude
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OverTheHill · 56-60, M
@CheezeburgerBrown Thanks, you have a good one too.
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