What do you think of people who refer to their partners as THE gf/wife or THE bf/husband? Rather than MY gf/wife or bf/husband.

I wouldn’t think twice about anyone using “the” instead of “my”. I’ve rarely been called wife so maybe that’s why. “My person” I get, and maybe “my human” is meant to be along those lines. My brain tends to go dur when it hears “my” though. I get all


and tend to not pay any mind to what follows.

My husband has always referred to me as “the wife.” I’ve never liked it, but given that he is uncomfortable with any kind of vulnerability or emotion, it seems consistent with what he can handle. I think you have to try to understand the source.

It says to me that they don't really value the relationship.

My favourite is "Here is my current wife"

Makes her feel so valued I'm sure

I don’t like the THE instead of MY. Sounds cold.

I think it depicts a spouse as a burden. I never said "the", ... always "my".
On the other side of the coin, many women will take offense at "MY" and scold the husband with "you don't own me".
The moral of the story: marriage / relationship is often a no win situation. 🤷 Who needs it?

Never liked it, it feels like the intimacy is denied and you become a comedy character. That's how I feel it.

To me, it sounds as if they are sort of disassociating themselves from their partner. I'm glad to say that none of men I've been in a 'couple' kind of relationship with, have ever referred to me as THE wife or girlfriend. Not around me, anyway.

I've only heard men refer to their wives or girlfriends that way, myself.

I think of that as the language of my parents' generation. (And I only heard men refer to their wives that way, not the other way around.) I am surprised that this style of speaking is still in use. I never hear it among my friends or coworkers.

Here's a perfect analogy (NOW I KNOW WHY I BELIEVE IN SYNCHRONICITY... Its really LIKE GOD TALKING TO US!!)

I LOATHE the expression "Have a GOOD ONE" you always get in any store. It once was "Have a good day."
But the change is so bloody SINISTER.

"ONE" means "your special day"

But the clerk doesn't know the customers. So who knows about anyone's "special day". But the PRETENSE and phony stab at "intimacy" is so blatantly insulting I could PUKE every time they hurl that at me.

Nobody knows if its my birthday (for instance) and Christmas comes but once a year, BUT THE CLERK IS SUPPOSED TO ACT LIKE SHE KNOWS ITS YOUR BIRTHDAY so she asks u to HAVE A GOOD ONE, even if you are not even celebrating anything and nobody ever cares if or when its your bloody "special" day at all..

So the disrespectful and sneering position is built in and we are all supposed to lap it up and never recognize the implied eff-u feel of it.

And just YESTERDAY I was kinda joking about this to some dim store clerk who actually said "have a nice DAY" and the fat trashy bi*ch behind him went totally batshit PSYCHO and ordered me to GET OUT OR SHE WOULD CALL THE EFFING POLICE

so I told her a thousand people I knew would be happy to BOYCOTT THAT DUMP and then I left. Laughing.

I'll bet nobody here really understands as well, hope I'm wrong though. But I wont try to explain any further.

ok that's it from me

ANYTHING TO DEHUMANIZE THIS WORLD A LITTLE MORE OR BREAK PEOPLE FROM THEIR OWN RIGHT TO MEANINGFUL BASIC REALITY seems to be the main rule.

and of course lonely people should ALWAYS be made to feel even lonelier any way shape or how!!!!!

I'm neutral about it. I'd guess the choice mainly comes from what they were used to hearing in their childhood.

It’s just a play on words and not a big deal I don’t think.

Honestly? That's between them and their S.O., not my business.

I say the hub instead of his name online only.

Hmm idk, seems a bit disrespectful and like a detached non connected reference.

I don't think much about it,I guess

“The” is the low class version of “my”.

I think the latter is really sweet

Just a way of differentiating between the wife and my concubine.

It doesn’t matter.

The wife or the girlfriend just seems like guy talk among their long time friends. It would be weird in mixed company. Even weirder if that mixed company included them. My opinion of course. People are different.

My wife let me know early on that she was not enamored of the phrase "the wife".
"My human" is affected and absurd. What? As opposed to your favorite quadruped or amohibian, or piece of furniture?

Meh...

Some people might do so around certain acquaintances. It sounds odd to me, but some people are shy about their personal attachments

I don't see anything wrong with it it's just like me referring to someone as bae as long as it's the term of endearment I don't see an issue

I think it is odd and done by people who feel it is fashionable to be indifferent towards their spouse.

Just different. I just refer to such people as 'the ex' or similar.

I refer to my wife as The War Department...LOL

sounds detached.

I don't like it. She is MY wife.

Ball and Chain. 😬

My Human??? That’s preposterous!!!

I guess it’s better than cumcatcher. Marginally

There's nothing wrong w/"the" or "my human", but that's in relation to the cats. I'd say that the nuances of "the wife" can make it appropriate or inappropriate.