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GF had a threesome whilst we were on a break…

We had a break but I didn't expect this. There were no clear indication that we broke up and ready to see other. Can't believe what just 6 months can do? I really love her, should I take her back since we are on a good terms again(talking again)?

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Spoiledbrat · F

You said you were on a break.🤔

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@Spoiledbrat
We decided to take a break, thinking it would make us miss each other, but I never expected that she would start dating someone else. She never clearly stated that she would see other people and reassured me that if anything happened, she would inform me.

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Ynotisay · M

I'd ask yourself if "breaks" ever work. There's a reason for the break in the first place. The solid relationships don't typically include breaks.

Fluffybull · F

@Ynotisay 👏👏👌

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@Ynotisay @Fluffybull That's the best option was given to me if I have any chance again

GohantheThird · M

I mean, you were on break right?

You can't hold her accountable for something she did when you two weren't together. It's not cheating, so she really did nothing wrong. It could be that you were in denial about the breakup, or maybe she miscommunicated her needs. Either way, I say let it go.

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@GohantheThird "
thinking it would make us miss each other, but I never expected that she would start dating someone else. Would say her involvement in sugarbook changed her mind.

Mindful · 56-60, F

@lim1212 this is what she wanted to do but wasn’t sure… she told you she would be honest AFTERWARDS and she was. I think YOU need time to decide how you truly feel about this. Sounds like she needs this type of ego boost. Make sure she gets tested after these “breaks”. If you didn’t expect it at all… but she needed a break…she was already conflicted about just having one partner.

GohantheThird · M

@lim1212 bro, that's what you do on a break: you date other people. It's not fair to judge her for exploring her sexuality. What if you had a threesome, or a reverse gangbang, or really got into voyeurism, or something totally whacky that got your sexual awakinging going and THEN she judged you for it?
It's not fair dude, and honestly you can't judge her for it. Besides, there are crazier things than a threesome.

SmileOnYourBrother

Yeah, take her back. Buy her a new car too. 🙄🙄

Northwest · M

What really bothers you? That she had sex with someone else, or that she had a threesome? Have you been celibate?

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@Northwest we were together and were not celeibate. But the fact that she had sex with someone else I already disheartening. And she did it for fun not because she found better long term relationship is shocking.

Northwest · M

@lim1212

we were together and were not celeibate

I meant YOU personally. Were you celibate when the two of you were on a "break"?

she did it for fun

That's why people have sex, isn't it?

Anielka · F

All breaks during a relationship whether being married or dating mean that one or the other wants to try something different, as you can plainly see this was true in her case, it's up to you if you want to continue with that relationship but take my advice if it happened once it'll definitely happen again.

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@Anielka I feel the same. Especially when I get to know she's full into sugarbook 24/7. All that money she's getting now, would be hard make sure this doesn't happen again.

Caballero · 31-35, M

If you have any respect for yourself you'd move on.

Donotfolowme · 51-55, F

@Caballero this

eMortal · M

Her sex drive might be above your league. Don’t let her quiet demeanor fool you now. Let her go.
I mean you can take her back, she probably needs some comfort but she’ll be bored again etc etc

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@eMortal All I know is that she got into sugarbaby lifestyle by sugarbook then start start dating. Who would have thought it would be this bad?

eMortal · M

@lim1212 Yeah don’t take her back.

hunkalove · 61-69, M

Take her back. That kind of thing isn't important, it's just for fun. Maybe the next time you can make it a foursome!

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@hunkalove Ain't a my kink

SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M

She had a threesome while on a "break"?

Unless that is your kink, I would move on. This person clearly doesn't care about you all that much.

JesseInTX · 51-55, M

BatmanIRL · T

I mean my ex slept with another guy and I took her back so I can’t say don’t but at the same time it didn’t work for me

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

No if she cheated on you to have her 3some then she's not worth it and doesn't value the relationship with you

Freeranger · M

Hypothetically, you then decide to get married and later on that year she decides she attracted to a co-worker and then sleeps with him. Ya still all in bud?
Make your own way in the world obviously, but when sewing the wind be prepared to reap the whirlwind.
Just my .02

Jimmy2016 · 61-69, M

@Freeranger This exact thing happened to my friend years ago. His wife fucked a coworker.........They are no longer married.........

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@Freeranger @Jimmy2016 Trust me she didnt look or make me feel like someone who would do that.

Jimmy2016 · 61-69, M

@lim1212 His wife either......it was like Really? It's always the ones that you think would never do that, I guess.........
Sorry to hear that about her doing that to you.......

riseofthemachine · 41-45, M

Take her back and you’ll always be insecure till u be with her .
You might be in pain now .
Wait till u take her back u know all about pain and insecurities then .
30 seconds of pleasure and years of pain .
That depends on the situation u are in and depending on the break I went on and why u went on the break , but the vast majority of them ends in pain and usually the males feel it more than the females . Trust me on that one .

nameless1 · 36-40

You werent together so she could do what she wants

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@nameless1 Not fair when we already have some understandings on what we do not expect from this break.

SW-User

I am going to assume it was a MFM 3some. Not that it matters . A break is not a break up unless specified. This sounds like just an outright reason to have her dream 3some. Personally it's going to take a strong person to get forget this cheat

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@SW-User I wish I'm strong

SW-User

@lim1212 i personally would not go back. Make the break a permanent one

PinkMoon · 26-30, F

You were on a 6 month break?

Fluffybull · F

@PinkMoon Yep, not a great relationship to begin with.......

Fluffybull · F

Find another girlfriend.

Iwantyourhotwife · 22-25

OF COURSE she'll be on good terms with you when she feels like it again

LEAVE HER bro
Gracefully carry yourself on. Did she initiate this break, too? And you accepted it?

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@Iwantyourhotwife yes, but she made sure it was just a break/pause not a break up

Stillwaiting · M

M.O.V.E. O.N.

Poppies · 61-69, F

Sounds like she saw a good opportunity to check something off her bucket list. I don't know her or you well enough to suggest where you should go from here, though.

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@Poppies I know some women would enjoy this. My question is why is she so inconsiderate of my feelings for her even though well informed

Adogslife · 61-69, M

Seems to me she proved you were on a break.

You don’t “take” someone back. You both have to want to be together. I think you both failed this test.

nevergiveup · M

Why are you even asking this Question here. Its your life so make your own decisions and get on with it

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@nevergiveup What would you do if you faced this?

nevergiveup · M

@lim1212 again with the question. I would do what i would do and live with my decision. If you listen to people on here you may regret it or thank them

SW-User

that would be fair. you failed to set parameters and it was a break. if you can't hang, then no

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@SW-User in what world setting parameters like please dont fck anyone while we are taking some time off is necessary. This is what comes in any relationship, no explanation required.

SW-User

@lim1212 this world. people set parameters breaks all the time and then they either live up to them or not. if you don't talk about your expectations for a break , then you face the possibility for your current situation. see how that works?

ViciDraco · 36-40, M

I guess the question is: What does being on a break actually mean to you? What is the goal? What are the restrictions as you see them?

Communication is important, and ensuring you have the same definitions for things as nebulous as "a break" is pretty important to establish before doing such a thing

Tetsuya · 56-60, M

SW-User

Just channel your inner Ross. You were on a break; you were free to see other people. Did you see anyone?

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@SW-User No never had the thought.

GerOttman · 61-69, M

Take her back, but only if she brings a friend. Fair is fair after all..!

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

@GerOttman eww that would be so toxic!

GerOttman · 61-69, M

@zonavar68 This has toxic written all over it, go with the flow!!

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lim1212 · 36-40, M

@jshm2 Wife material I assumed earlier. That's the heartache

Snuffy1957 · 61-69, M

I Love a Lady with a sense of adventure... don't let that one get away !

GrinNude · 61-69, C

Nothing wrong with that. You were on a break. At least she told you about it. She didn't have to. She is honest. You can't own people. Strive for unconditional love. Nothing she has to do. Nothing she can't do. You are free too. We are spiritual beings having a human experience and we function much better when we are happy joyous, honest and free.

Whatawebsite · M

Whats her name?

DunningKruger · 61-69, M

Yes, if you can put your concerns aside. I had a friend who got bent out of shape when he learned his wife had a threesome before they had even met. There were other issues, too, but that was a major factor in them getting divorced.

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@DunningKruger Nver feel the same after that.

Shaveit · 61-69, M

Was it MWM, WMW, or WWW

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@Shaveit All men except her

NoGamesTolerated · F

Don’t walk but run! 🏃‍♂️

Tres13 · 51-55, M

Have 3sum

Nihiless

It doesn't sound promising, although you were both on a break and like someone else commented, why did you take a break in the first place? I'm assuming you hadn't had relations with anyone else during that period, therefore it seems prima facie, she wanted to test the waters implying doubt on her part in the relationship.

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@Nihiless I dont get what you mean? Why test the water, could be just direct

Nihiless

@lim1212 Because if you were both on a break she could have been keeping her options open. It could be the reason why she did it.

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GrinNude · 61-69, C

In my humble opinion, honesty trumps fidelity. Fidelity makes a nice gift but it must be freely given not a requirement. The best love is unconditional. The way God loves us.

SW-User

Nah yo

Thevy29 · 41-45, M

Yes.

SW-User

move on

SW-User

Dude, relationships don't have "breaks" you're either with someone or not.. She didn't cheat on you, you weren't together.

lim1212 · 36-40, M

@SW-User learn this the hard way

Morrowind · 26-30, M

Well I did something similar. Was drunk though. I don’t see it as a reason to not be together. It’s the other reasons that would be

Pfuzylogic · M

If you did I would degrade the emotional attachment if that is possible.

Spotpot · 41-45, M

Whores ´like your former girlfriend arent meant to be girlfriends.

Spotpot · 41-45, M

She showed she is no girlfriend material.

Spotpot · 41-45, M

Just forget about her she is a whore.

MarineBob · 56-60, M

Has she had one with you?

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