What age did you realize your narcissistic parent/s were hypocrites, and when did you start rebelling because of that?

I doubt everyone's shitty parents are narcissists. In my 20's I started to realise that my mom is not a good mom. And never will be. In my late 20's I finally accepted that and stopped trying to fix our relationship or change her.

Probably around 1st grade. I'd seen enough of my family, neighbors and classmates' families to know that what was happening at our house wasn't normal. I didn't really rebel against it though.

Being raised in the Jehovah's Witness cult and all the narcs that borg attracts, I could tell fairly young that a lot of things were off and that brought me into inevitable conflict with adults in my life whether I wanted it or not.

At what age did I realize that my parents were fallible people and most likely are suffering from their own traumas and probably treated me the way they did because it was the best they could at that time? I was about 16. I still rebelled but I’m not going to stand there and throw stones at them no matter how bad they seemed when people most likely think the same thing about me.

I grew up fatherless and had a dysfunctional mother so Idk what to say

“When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.”

At 18 I started rebelling.

To be clear, my parents aren't narcissistic but my dad has borderline PD.

I'm sorry if you grew up with narcissistic parents.

I didn't even realize it until I was an adult in my mid 20s, a couple of years after my father passed away.

I never feel that my parents are narcissistic or hypocrites ever in my life till time , but when I was 19 there was an incident happened with me in my life after that I started feel that they are really very much self enter upon there own advantages and even by knowing about the fact they closed there eyes upon me as they knew that use of mine can help them to live a better life as am already became a spoiled child for them

I started rebelling when I was a few years shy of turning 30. Though, it took me soooooo long to realize that my parents don’t have my best interests. I thought because they raised me up, clothed me, and fed me, that they loved me. No… I had a few hints here and there that was telling me they are, like my mom never listened to me, praised me, or any kind of emotional support. My dad treated me like a slave all my life. Both of them gaslighted me. I was blinded from being their son because I never thought any parent would ever sabotage their own kids for their own gains.

After many years of self-loathing and depression, I realized these people were digging me into a deeper hole day by day. They didn’t want the best for me from what they’ve done and said, so I started doing my own things. I am not as close to them as I was before, but I’m finally free of their control in my early 30s.

Way too late. I was already in my 20s before I started rebelling.

On the whole, my parents are neither narcissistic, nor hypocritical. But they're not without their moments, either. And for the most part, I was a pretty well-behaved and eager to please child in contrast to my sister who was the rebellious one until she started becoming a mother. I didn't develop a rebellious streak until I was 17 and even then it was only slight.

Once they died 😔💔

I was 14

I was lucky,, My Mom married a good man, who treated us well
my bio dad is a unrepenant monster

so,, neither!~

They weren't narcissists but I started realizing they were very flawed when I was 11/12.

I’ve always been a rebel, but I’ve forgiven them as they were victims of their own circumstances

I've kind of always known, but I spent years telling myself that they were just trying their best and were actually trying to help. I was 19 when I realized they actually were narcissists and doing more harm than good. I never rebelled; I just moved out as fast as possible, spend as little time with them as possible, and know that even though I am "welcome" to move back in, I will lose all of the sanity I finally regained since leaving.

My god....at 13 I realized they didn't have a plan or a clue!

I never rebelled against my parents, I hate getting in trouble

My parents were largely absent and I was raised by au pairs.

How can you be a hypocrite with narcissism?

My late 40s, but it was a bit too late to rebel.

Did I ever think otherwise? I don't remember.

About 12

16

12

my parents are very noble people and i had a good upbringing.

Wouldn't consider them that really

The day my mother chose her second husband over me and threw me into foster care, I was 16 1/2, I have hated her since, I am now 53, my Dad died when I was ten.