What age did you realize your narcissistic parent/s were hypocrites, and when did you start rebelling because of that?

@Queendragonfly that's the best thing to do. Acceptance is definitely the answer.

@S33K3R Yeah. It took some strength to learn to shut up all the "But , come on, after all she's your mom" from people who don't understand and have this image that family must always stay together no matter what. Which I believed too for quite some time.

But family is not blood related. To me it's who makes me feel safe, loved and at home whenever I'm with them.

@Queendragonfly that's so true... The depth of our pain can never be recognized by those who had it good. I'm so happy you have your true family.

I thought I was building that family too, but I need to work on who I label as supportive apparently lol

@S33K3R Thank you ❤️
It can take time to build up a support network. But so worth it.

@Queendragonfly hey, I’m a month late here but thanks for that. I really agree with you about that family part. I believed it so much that family should stick together too. It’s like you have to do things you don’t want to do because you’re family no matter what. I didn’t want to tell my mom about all her issues but I felt the need to because I thought it’s love. The problem with this woman is, she never listened to a word I said. I’m at the point where I’m like, fuck it, she can drive off a cliff if she wants to. It takes way too much effort to people who are trying to sabotage me and themselves. I am done talking to her.