Anyone else get pushed into doing what others want for your birthday?

It’s YOUR birthday so they MUST listen

Put a stop to it. It's your boundaries being unset that let them do that. Years and months and weeks and days before, make sure they are aware of what YOU want.

Not just for birthdays, but for different aspects of your life...if you let others dictate it and control it for you, then it is a you problem and it will make you sad. It's your life. Set boundaries and make sure you are the one with control.

If they get mad, let them. But do you.

uhhh.no.

My button gets pushed every time some sold- out store clerk is forced to say HAVE A GOOD "ONE". when they don't know what THEY mean and YOU don't know what they mean but you are supposed to think its maybe Christmas and they just want u to have a good "ONE"

Except its not Christmas OR your birthday but you are supposed to pretend that its all ok to be jerked around verbally like this, JUST TO SEEM POLITE.

Will boycott any store that still does this next time I'm in there, and instead make everything myself, food, band-aids and beer too. Whatever they sell I can't use, especially this idiotic PHONY and INSULTING stab at what they think of as "intimacy".

I don't think anyone here understands this. I wrote about same thing in another post and got crickets.

same as usual.

Rejoice that anyone even knows you are alive and be grateful... if someone came on my birthday I would then do what WE wanted or they would leave and enjoy their nice day. Everyone here acts so POWERLESS. Maybe its just to feel admirable.

and "Have a nice DAY" would be a very welcome wish for me. Any old time. Even on my birthday.

Nope, I do my thing with or without them

I remember one time somebody dropped my cake and I was expected to just be ok about it. I even got in trouble for crying about it. I was 11.

Happy birthday twinnie ;)

I don't tell anyone its my birthday

I don’t. My sister’s tried that stuff and afterthought celebrations where they want to pretend something they were planning to do was actually for my birthday (despite it being something I’ve never enjoyed), and I’ve said each time that I was celebrating on my own.

You need fireworks for your birthday. And an all expenses paid trip to a spa wouldn't hurt either. Tell your people to get on that.

Happy birthday my friend. I'm sorry I missed this. It's just that I don't come on here as often as I used to and ignore those people guilt tripping you. It's your day and you deserve to be enjoying it.

Yes and no. I prefer to not celebrate my birthday.

I don’t, I never had interesting birthdays and I don’t like them… You just keep saying “no” and don’t mind them getting mad. Put yourself first🥹

Since mine is on a holiday we normally do it the same. But that must suck 😩

Yeah im like, fine. But dont expect me to socialize. Imma just eat cake and ice cream.

of course.
I dont recall ever having a choice.
but then, I share my birthday with others.

I just say I'm working and we'll catch up afterwards and it doesn't happen.

Fortunately no, btw when is your birthday?

I stopped giving a shit about it a long time ago. These days, I do whatever I please.

Usually but with some discussion at the least

Omg ! Yes ...not this year ...eff that ..

There is no they. And the day is just another calendar mark.

Every year. 🤦‍♂

Happy birthday btw!

Happy Birthday 🎂🎁🎈🎉🎊

Yes…but it’s a bit adult rated 😉

Happy Birthday! 🥳🎂🎈

Happy birthday!!🥳🎉

Happy B-Day Gurl 🎊

The last couple of years not much happened, except for one or two phone calls. My mother had been the one organizing birthday suppers.

Yes not usually though.

Yep
Happening now.

Haa Nope!!

My life:😷
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No? 😠

That’s so tiresome to deal with around people who can’t handle the word no.

I understand completely

But on the positive side the way I see is that they neeed to hear it and they need to return to their own lives and focus on that which comes from saying no to them

Almost like a counter productive assertiveness , eventually they should get the hint 🌹🥂

yeah my sisters did that to me all the time. that's why I don't even bother celebrating it with them anymore. a phone call or message is enough.

I am sorry Mel. No I don’t have that problem, usually no one acknowledges my birthday.

You should get to do what you want to do.

Happy Birthday to you!!!

So here's what you do. Next year, a month or two before your birthday, before anybody thinks to start planning anything, write down a list of stuff you want to do. Take your time and really think about it. Make sure it's all stuff you've always wanted to do. Submit that list, maybe with a fun heading like "MY BIRTHDAY DEMANDS".

I remember my 12th birthday. My mom baked a birthday cake for me on the day of my birthday, which happened to be a Saturday. When I came into the house about 1pm for lunch, nobody else was home. My parents were away grocery shopping. There, sitting in full view on the kitchen counter was my birthday cake, candles and all.

I was starving, so I poured myself a glass of milk, then got a knife and cut myself a nice piece of my own birthday cake, being careful to cut between the candles so as not to disturb them. Cake tasted great!

My parents came home an hour later. My Dad suddenly spotted a 2 inch piece of cake missing from my cake and went straight through the eff'ing roof, turned left in midair and then came straight down like a laser guided scud missile.

Holy fuk, was he pissed that I had the absolute audacity cut a piece from my birthday cake before he and my mom came home from shopping!

I reminded him who's birthday it was and who's birthday cake it actually was, noting as well there were only 12 candles on the cake and not 3 dozen, suggesting it was most likely my cake and not his. My cake, my rules... is what I said to him. Then he started his rant all over again....

I picked up the cake from the kitchen counter along with the dish it sat on, then walked over to him and mushed it right into his face, then slid the dish up onto the top of his head making him look like he was wearing a hat in a rice paddy.

He became so instantly shocked at my obnoxious behavior that my mom had to walk him out of the kitchen to our backyard where she hosed off his head with the garden hose, then stripped his cloths off leaving him standing there in his underwear and sock feet on the grass.

She came back into the house alone, took one look at me still standing there with my arms folded across my chest and burst into hysterical laughter like I've never heard from her before, nor ever heard since!

My birthday, my cake, my rules.

isn't that the tradition? 🤷‍♂ is there another way???