Anyone else get pushed into doing what others want for your birthday?

Then they get mad you say no and put a guilt trip on you? And say things like, “Now my head hurts.” And they wonder why I don’t look forward to birthdays.

Do you experience similar?

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Casheyane · 31-35, F

Put a stop to it. It's your boundaries being unset that let them do that. Years and months and weeks and days before, make sure they are aware of what YOU want.

Not just for birthdays, but for different aspects of your life...if you let others dictate it and control it for you, then it is a you problem and it will make you sad. It's your life. Set boundaries and make sure you are the one with control.

If they get mad, let them. But do you.

MellyMel22 · F

@Casheyane I do, but then I end up annoyed from having to say no and their reactions.

Casheyane · 31-35, F

@MellyMel22 It's part of being human, girl haha. But yeah, I feel you. Sometimes, you got to teach people things they should already know by now. But life is life. And some people always choose to run faster, wisdom is unable to chase and catch them.

For all that's worth, I do wish you a happy birthday. I hope you get to do something that really makes you happy.

MellyMel22 · F

@Casheyane I know what you’re saying. Thank you 😊🤍