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DaughteroftheMoon · 26-30, F
I really have this terrible habit of masking when I'm feeling bad or forcing myself to feel different... It seems like I constantly have to remind myself that I'm a human being and that it's okay to feel bad sometimes. No one is in a good mood every second of every day.. I feel even worse when I share my true feelings with someone and realize that that person doesn't understand me... I hide such feelings and it doesn't show on me.. Most of the time I'm happy and an incorrigible optimist and I spread that further, I don't just keep it for myself!
MariaMaria · F
@DaughteroftheMoon Same as you!
Miklee02 · 51-55, F
I eat them
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@Miklee02 Yeah that happens I just read this book called the binge cure that really helped me understand emotional eating. It’s very complex to overcome.
Docdon23 · M
Express them--even if it seems nobody cares, it is better for you to express them, let them out, feel them, experience them, welcome them...they are part of what makes us human. And you would be surprised at how many people do care.
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
Sleep them off often.
BrewCityBarfly · M
I've been questioning some of my friendships and the people I've been hanging out with for a while now. I mean, wtf do I want to associate with people that pretty much just want to give me crap, especially when I'm making a best effort to be nice and upbeat. A lot of my oldest friends were and aren't like that.
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BrewCityBarfly · M
@SW-User @GeistInTheMachine My daughter and I talked about this when she was experiencing some of the same things. She eventually ended some of her friendships. You can only bottle things up so long and then when you do say something, people think you're the bad person.
GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
@BrewCityBarfly I'm glad your daughter can talk to you.
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@GeistInTheMachine @BrewCityBarfly
Yes. Best we can do is be real with these kids.
People that take a lot love to make you feel guilty for having needs. It’s sick and I tell my son to be thankful we aren’t like that even though we still have to cope with it.
Yes. Best we can do is be real with these kids.
People that take a lot love to make you feel guilty for having needs. It’s sick and I tell my son to be thankful we aren’t like that even though we still have to cope with it.
GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M
I put them in different categories:
Sharing
Ignoring
Changing
Hiding
Sharing
Ignoring
Changing
Hiding
Fairydust · F
I feel them, process it all, otherwise I can’t move forward.
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I've been bottling up a lot of anger lately
Degbeme · 70-79, M
Try to pretend I don`t have any.
Ruth82 · 41-45, F
Find people that will listen to you and not judge. There are people out there who care and can help. Its just finding them.
Ruth82 · 41-45, F
@SW-User what about writing? Do you write? Like a journal?
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@Ruth82 I have composition books full of writing and poetry. But I never felt better until I settled with the fact nobody cares and help is not coming. I have to be a mom and for rn, no, my feelings don’t matter.
Ruth82 · 41-45, F
@SW-User Im sorry youve been made to feel that way about others. Youre feelings are valid and do matter.
JustNik · 51-55, F
The good ones I express. The others I just carry around like old friends. Although I’m told my feelings tend to be written on my face, I rarely find any value in expressing them otherwise. They’re mine to deal with.
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
I drink or smoke usually. Not the best way to deal with things I suppose.
Well y'know, even if people do care they still can't help. They might help by being there or distracting but nothing can really make you stop feeling your feelings. I don't vent to people in my real life for that reason too. But I vent on here a bit because sometimes I wanna say something & have no one to say it to. I just be here to talk really about nothing or anything
Well y'know, even if people do care they still can't help. They might help by being there or distracting but nothing can really make you stop feeling your feelings. I don't vent to people in my real life for that reason too. But I vent on here a bit because sometimes I wanna say something & have no one to say it to. I just be here to talk really about nothing or anything
Freeranger · M
It's not so much an analytical exercise as it is that management one for me. I'm very self-aware. You could say I subscribe to this old truism my mother used to quote out loud at times (I never knew if she was directing it toward me or not )
"And when he was good,
he was very, very good.
But, when he was bad
he was horrid."
Confessedly, this somehow, in a twisted way helps me smooth over my less than stellar moments within my soul [ahem].
"And when he was good,
he was very, very good.
But, when he was bad
he was horrid."
Confessedly, this somehow, in a twisted way helps me smooth over my less than stellar moments within my soul [ahem].
Stillwaiting · M
Have a couple people I can talk with about somethings when I'm struggling, more I can celebrate with when I've something positive going on.
Aside from that, I try to find a way to carry on and do what needs doing regardless of how I'm feeling. It was easier when our kids were at home full time and my jobs as husband, Dad and provider kept me busier and distracted my mind away from myself.
Aside from that, I try to find a way to carry on and do what needs doing regardless of how I'm feeling. It was easier when our kids were at home full time and my jobs as husband, Dad and provider kept me busier and distracted my mind away from myself.
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
Vent here on SW.
I can't talk to anyone in real life.
I can't talk to anyone in real life.
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Omg , venting here is an invitation to be bullied and harassed. @DearAmbellina2113
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
@SW-User doesn't faze me.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
I don’t make a big deal about them. Everyone has feelings. I choose to get mine out in conversation with friends or my fiancé, but in a more “matter of fact” manner - much like everyday conversation. Talk about things as they really are, normal.
What I don’t do is create drama. Ever.
What I don’t do is create drama. Ever.
chilloutab2 · 46-50, M
You have hit on the golden formula.... stoicism.
Feel... but don't be your feelings.
The more you articulate/give voice to your feelings, the more you wallow in them and sabotage yourself.
Feel... but don't be your feelings.
The more you articulate/give voice to your feelings, the more you wallow in them and sabotage yourself.
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@chilloutab2 it’s true.
I always felt therapy made it worse. I learned to face myself alone and now I feel very intune with myself.
The first few years I studied stoicism I had it wrong. I tried to not feel. But now I understand the meaning of simply being my own confidant because I know and like myself. Nothing changes my core. I think it will get even more mellow as time goes on and I gain experience.
I always felt therapy made it worse. I learned to face myself alone and now I feel very intune with myself.
The first few years I studied stoicism I had it wrong. I tried to not feel. But now I understand the meaning of simply being my own confidant because I know and like myself. Nothing changes my core. I think it will get even more mellow as time goes on and I gain experience.
chilloutab2 · 46-50, M
@SW-User Beautiful!
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I feel the exact same way. If I express them then some people belittle me and make me feel worse. I’m sure you don’t have a pleasant experience telling others about your feelings. I think we just need to try our best to not get too frustrated. Good luck
bookerdana · M
You could keep a journal/diary like I don't...all feelings have gone fishing till January 31st
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@bookerdana why Jan 31?
bookerdana · M
@SW-User A months recuperation from the savage Thanksgiving to New Years season..I was mostly kidding I let myself feel and I talk to friend who know me
GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
I supress them because of all you succintly said above.
That and other things I shouldn't mention because they are not politically correct.
That and other things I shouldn't mention because they are not politically correct.
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That may be less true than you think. Always happy to listen over in DMs. I'm not terrible at it and I give decent feedback.
I would like to do/say a lot BUT slowly day by day I might be breaking even more and cannot be bothered anymore
tired and fed up with how world and some people are..HA I am the bad one..psycho and more according to bullies, they do not seem to know what it does to someone! They harassed and did more but still on a website whereas I get permanently suspended so yeah might just...actually not not gonna say anymore to people on here and sometimes best to keep quiet about certain things with some people I think..
tired and fed up with how world and some people are..HA I am the bad one..psycho and more according to bullies, they do not seem to know what it does to someone! They harassed and did more but still on a website whereas I get permanently suspended so yeah might just...actually not not gonna say anymore to people on here and sometimes best to keep quiet about certain things with some people I think..
Henal · 26-30, F
I bury them and then ignore them. Definitely not good, but it’s just easier.
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I keep them bottled behind my walls if I am truthful. But that's ok .
TAReturns · M
I just allow mine to get hurt
Sometimes it’s all you can do
Sometimes it’s all you can do
Jlhzfromep · M
Bury them deep and build walls around them
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Why do you feel bad about expressing
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@SW-User It makes me feel worse. It reminds me nobody can help.
Like my parents are dead and I feel that pain, but it doesn’t really matter. New parents aren’t coming along. Nobody is going to take me under their wing. We don’t live in that society. Nobody cares about my kid either. I’m a parent and I’m alive, so I gotta do everything for him anyway.
Ultimately, I don’t matter except to my son. Which isn’t exactly fulfilling lol but I’d give my life for my kiddo anyway
Like my parents are dead and I feel that pain, but it doesn’t really matter. New parents aren’t coming along. Nobody is going to take me under their wing. We don’t live in that society. Nobody cares about my kid either. I’m a parent and I’m alive, so I gotta do everything for him anyway.
Ultimately, I don’t matter except to my son. Which isn’t exactly fulfilling lol but I’d give my life for my kiddo anyway
FloorGenAdm · 51-55, M
The squeaky wheel gets the grease?
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@FloorGenAdm No , no it definitely doesn’t
I try to not let them consume me
assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
Jeeez. That's harsh
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@assemblingaknob Reality often is
SUPERVlXEN · F
Somewhat the same
throughTheMotions · 51-55, M
I say express them.
I always care
Eddiesolds · 61-69, M
I hide them
smiler2012 · 56-60
{@copperfox420] it is good too express yourself get it off your chest rather than bottle it up . you need not too blow though if you can help that is a pity in a way nobody seems too care
Littlewing · 36-40, F
nevergiveup · M
I can express them to my wife but if i do to others i always feel bad after telling them
DreamyCrush · F
I try to process them by talking them out, even if it's to myself.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
Sometimes I write them out
Hold them all in.
There's no point in sharing.
There's no point in sharing.
Zonuss · 41-45, M
I express them. What else is there to do.
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@Zonuss there’s lots of different things to do if you browse the other responses
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
I cry a lot. Already cried once today and it’s only 8am
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@iamonfire696 I’m sorry sweet lady but it’s beautiful that you can let it out. I feel bad how crying has this stigma of weakness, but when you get pushed to the brink, crying is your bodies natural reaction.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@SW-User Yah you are right. I am good at letting it out.
MethDozer · M
Like another person said. I process them. Often I find talking about them at length just makes me dwell an become stuck in one emotion and unable to do anything about them. I do freely express them when I need to vent or to a person that a certain feeling or emotion pertains to. But at the same time I don't expect anyone to be able to say or do anything in response. I don't even expect them to understand really. They're my feelings, not theirs. Only I can process and deal with them at the end of the day.
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@MethDozer Right on. Sometimes when you tell other people, their input is completely counterproductive.
MethDozer · M
@SW-User Word, been there too.
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@SW-User it’s usually for the best