when you help someone out financially

If I were to get back all the money I've let people borrow from me, I could pay my house off.
That's fun when they turn it around like you're the one who owes them something, or my absolute favorite, is how quickly they turn on you the second you won't give them anymore money.

nope.
just one bum family member

loaned money once - never paid it back and asked for more

told them nope, still hadn't paid the other back.

in a way it was a good way to get rid of them - I would have paid twice as much - they just didn't know it

Definitely experienced it. Though I did get the money back it took alot of effort on my part.
When they asked again, my answer was an immediate'NO'.

Nephew calls after years and is in a desperate situation. Has no rent money, the van is in the impound, no job. So I lend him thousands. I could hear the relief over the phone, he seems grateful and communicates over the phone for a few weeks but then he ghosts me. He made the decision that it wasn't worth paying the money back. The relationship wasn't worth paying the money back. That hurt.

Yeah, whenever I lend people money I do it knowing that not getting paid back is a strong possibility. The attitude was inappropriate though.

I have seldom helped anyone financially. When I have done it, I considered it a gift because I knew I would never see the money again.

So many times 4 different ppl owe me a total of 550$ rhey play as soon as i get paid card that day comes and goes they never pay keep showing up though begging for money and wanting to eat my food. I dont lend money anymore

I wonder the example set by america and our former president (ie borrow and borrow and borrow cut corners to only get out of the debt without paying or simply never paying but without consequence. Does this perpetual example inspire deliquency? Probably

Yup I had a friend do this once, I finally got the money back from her but I wouldn’t lend her money ever again. Now if someone needs any I just gift it to them then there’s no wondering when I’ll get it back.

Lending money is very risky :(

Did it once and had the same experience, never lent money to anyone again since, so awkward saying no to someone in a situation like that though.

never lend money youre not willing to give away or expect back lol

I don't lend money for the same reason I don't borrow it. If you don't have it, you don't need it.

Ugh, yes! That's why I've taken the attitude that money lent is money spent.

I dress and smell poor, so no one ever thinks to ask me in the first place

Thing is if someone doesn't have the money now, what makes them think it will magically appear in the future?

Typically when "loaning" someone money, it is best to assume we won't see it again.

I once loaned someone £50 and he swore he would pay me back the very next day.
He left me his guitar worth approx £400 against the loan.
He didn't pay me back the next day so I kept the guitar. Result!

I learned never to lend money unless you can live with never getting it back.

I never lend money. It is a recipe for disaster. If I offer money, it is always a gift.

It's also known as charity. Your call.

Even if someone says they'll pay it back, I don't count on it 🤷
If they do then cool, they're good people. If not then oh well.. at least you helped em out. But they for damn sure don't have the right to give you attitude about it. If they do then they ain't a friend anymore

You just learned why they're in trouble to begin with.

I've rarely loaned money to anyone. When I have, it's always been a disaster. In the unusual circumstance where I do such a thing, I consider the money gone; this way, it's easier on my brain and nervous system.

Yep which is why I don't give my family money anymore and if they do pay back they are slow to pay but when you need help they come up with excuses to not help.

No.

But Im guessing they're embarrassed about having to borrow in the first placeand arent sure how to react.

But maybe that's just me.

No because I don’t lend money to people or let them stay in my home. I did let a friend stay once, never again.