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I was a bully [I Was Bullied]

I was a bully at school and bullied one person for a couple of years. Apparently I made his life a nightmare he told a girl I was dating (they were both in the year below me.) I came home from university at Christmas last year and saw him, he’d started going to the gym, he literally picked me up and threw me in a huge pile of mud. All his friends cheered and clapped as I got up, covered. I can’t stand them. I cried for days afterwards, I was so upset. Do you think he was right?
Everyone thinks I deserved it and that he’s so great as he didn’t hit me.

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SubstantialKick · 36-40, M

You have the audacity to cry about he did to you, when you made his life miserable for about two years?

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Strongtea · 22-25, M

My situation is horrid, I do realise that I did bully people first, but honestly I just thought it was funny. Now I’m unpopular and it’s awful. @BigGuy2

BigGuy2 · 31-35, M

@Strongtea ... the payback iincident that he did to you, it made you feel afraid/bad

... now expand that feeling over a two year period that you Bullied him, that is what he was going through for 2 YEARS

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Ok ok, I get your point. 🥺@BigGuy2

Mamapolo2016 · F

What goes around comes around. You reap what you sow. Turn about is fair play. You get what you earn.

Pick a cliche.

Judging from the comments below, you haven't got the idea yet.

Another cliche: "Don't dish it out if you can't take it."

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Strongtea · 22-25, M

I do just wish people would see my side, but ok, I do know I wasn’t the greatest person. If I could go back in time to stop him doing it to me I would in a heartbeat. @BigGuy2

BigGuy2 · 31-35, M

@Strongtea

"...If I could go back in time to stop him doing it to me I would in a heartbeat..."

... my emphasis

I do hope that is a typing error, if not, you seem to be ONLY lamenting what HE did to YOU ... i don't think i've come across any comments from you lamenting what YOU did to HIM

Strongtea · 22-25, M

No no, obviously I would go back in time and not do it to him! I suppose what he did to me did really upset me, but it has made me take a look at what I did to cause it. 🥺@BigGuy2

Sepia · 36-40, F

Don't do unto others what you don't want to do unto you.

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Like2play · M

@Strongtea such intelligent responses from you.

Kimberly4Princess · 18-21, F

@Strongtea You obviously haven't learned anything.... what a shame

Strongtea · 22-25, M

I do wish I hadn’t done it as I really hate what happened to me.@Kimberly4Princess

LadyGrace · 70-79

I'm not for fighting, but I think you got what you deserved, and in your comments, it sounds like you're still defending what you did. Bullying is not cool.

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Strongtea · 22-25, M

I didn’t do anything that bad, I only said stuff to him or about him, I didn’t hit him or anything@LadyGrace

LadyGrace · 70-79

@Strongtea I wouldn't call being a nightmare to someone as "being that bad". Put yourself in his place and see how you would have felt if the tables were turned. It may not have seemed bad to you, but what if someone had done that to your brother or sister if you had one? You would have seen the torment and I don't think you would have liked it. Verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. You are lucky he did not kill himself. Then how would you have felt? You don't know what went through his head. This is how people end up committing suicide, from people who bully them. It's not just an amusing past time. It's serious.

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Strongtea · 22-25, M

Oh whatever, loser.@SW-User

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Strongtea · 22-25, M

No, sorry.@SW-User

Nitedoc · 51-55, M

You got off easy you little punk, I would have FUBAR you! I've done it before to some people I hate, and I really hate bullies.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Oh shut up@Nitedoc

bijouxbroussard · F

You’ve been seeing the answers. This is why bullying is a bad idea, even verbally. You’re just lucky you were only embarrassed and not physically harmed.

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Like2play · M

@Strongtea and yours is worthless

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Shut up@Like2play

Like2play · M

@Strongtea again you make such a great comment. You just sound so intelligent.

BritishPerson · 41-45, M

I don't condone what he did but I can certainly understand it.

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Strongtea · 22-25, M

What does?@Subalugirl

Subalugirl · 22-25, F

@Strongtea bullying !!

Subalugirl · 22-25, F

@Strongtea Check your message

Philth · 46-50, M

It seems incomprehensible that any person could be so lacking in the astonishing levels of self awareness seen in your posts. Therefore the only possible explanation for the nature of what you post can surely only be that you seek validation by making an absolute cnut of yourself. Honestly mate and I say this with the greatest respect, seek professional help. You're still young, you have a life ahead of you. Get help, stop making other peoples lives a misery, and you might just find that you feel better about yourself too.

JohnOinger · 41-45, M

You kinda,had it coming since you bullied him servers your right he stood up to you

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Ok, whatever@JohnOinger

Piper · 61-69, F

Hmm...let's see. You chose to demean and "bully" a classmate just because he looked like a good target and couldn't or wouldn't defend himself. You did this for a couple of years. A girl you were dating said he told her you made his life a nightmare.

He sees you a few years later and throws you into a pile of mud. No, I don't think he was necessarily "right" to do that...just justified to.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Ok ok fine, whatever. He (and her) got me back.@Piper

SW-User

You bullied him for 2 years? Not only would I have thrown you in the mud I'd have probably made you eat a bowl of it too.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Yeah, cool whatever🙄@SW-User

BlueVeins · 22-25

warranted

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Honestly, whatever.@BlueVeins

BlueVeins · 22-25

@Strongtea 💋

LadyJ · F

Yes i think you did ...hopefully you can just learn from it and never bully again

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Oh ok, I don’t think it will be happening again.@LadyJ

LaylaTheTallGirl · 22-25, F

Hahahahahahahahahaha
You got what you deserve! What did you expect? You’re gonna cry after you bullied him? It’s what you get for being a horrible bully. No sympathy for you!

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LaylaTheTallGirl · 22-25, F

@Strongtea well too damn bad that’s not my problem.

LaylaTheTallGirl · 22-25, F

@Strongtea OK then. What do you mean well done?

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Please stop please you’ve totally made me look stupid, i’m Really sorry@LaylaTheTallGirl

Thecollective · 100+

Oh how turn the tables reapth what you sow

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Shut up@Thecollective

Thecollective · 100+

@Strongtea ouch such strong words

SStarfish ·

I think you were wrong to bully him .. now he is living his dream of getting back at you.. at least mud is soft and harmless and you didn't get injured just dirty? But you owe him an apology for bullying him all those years and making his life hell.. why did you do that to him anyway?

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Lukeman · M

@Strongtea No. You deserve it. You come on here to feel sorry for yourself. Get a grip. The world does not revolve around you. Wallow in self pity, but you brought this on yourself. Cheers to your victim. I admire him.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Yes but he made me look like some kind of joke and has basically ruined my social life, that’s what I find unfair@Lukeman

Lukeman · M

@Strongtea Good to know.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

His girlf now works in the Tesco a couple of streets away from me. Everytime I go I she says something to me, other staff, customers. She even has told my parents what I did. It’s so so humiliating, I wish she would just keep quiet.

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Strongtea · 22-25, M

No we don’t really have them, there are other shops but they’re more difficult to go to (I live in quite a small town.)@trackboy

BritishPerson · 41-45, M

@Strongtea Have you tried sincerely apologising?

Strongtea · 22-25, M

I have apologised, but after what he did to me, I really think I shouldn’t have done@BritishPerson

Strongtea · 22-25, M

I wrote this post when I first joined this site and I was a very different person.

I now realise that I was wrong. I just want to say that I spend a lot of time feeling very scared that I meet people who I used to bully. It has really affected my life.

SStarfish ·

@Strongtea maybe when you see them, bow and ask their forgiveness and say you are sorry? And they can forgive you 🙂 hopefully

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Ok, that’s what I think I need to do. I’m just so so scared to even see them, I just freeze, but I’ll try. I actually feel like crying. @SStarfish @SStarfish

Lukeman · M

I don't feel sorry for you so you must have deserved it. Verbal abuse is unacceptable. Now the bullies go on social media and drive their classmates to suicide. I see their random mean posts all over Facebook and wish they had never been born.

Adrift · 61-69, F

@Strongtea Well your bullying had its lasting effects on him too.
Enough so that he felt the need to join a gym and gain the closure he had always dreamed of by turning things around.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

How fantastic of you to remind me.@Adrift

Adrift · 61-69, F

@Strongtea whats funny is you dont seem to want to take responsibility for it so that tells me you haven't learned anything.

BizSuitStacy · M

Well, if the story is true, and you harrassed him for 2 years, consider yourself lucky you only got tossed in the mud. I got bullied by a guy for a couple of days at camp until I got fed up and beat the living shit out of him.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Oh, ok. 😳😬@BizSuitStacy

canusernamebemyusername · M

You are one of the factors that cause school shootings so be thankful he didn't blow you brains out. Who cares if it made you look weak. You are weak. And probably always will be from the looks of it.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

That’s a little bit harsh don’t you think?@canusernamebemyusername

Adrift · 61-69, F

An old saying, The tree remembers what the ax forgets.
Think about it.
You say you were bullied and how did that affect you?

Strongtea · 22-25, M

It was awful, my social life was ruined.@Adrift

SW-User

No. He wasn’t right for doing that. You weren’t right when you bullied him. And unless he was actually defending himself physically in that moment, neither was he.

Carazaa · F

OfCourse not, but you can understand him, right? If someone had bullied you, how would you treat them now. I hope you apologized to him.

braveheart21 · 61-69, M

Hell yeah he was right.. You are lucky he didnt beat the crap outa you

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Omg I can’t believe no one sees it from my side!@braveheart21

braveheart21 · 61-69, M

Verbal or physical... YOU were the bully and now you are crying and wanting sympathy because he retaliated and made YOU look foolish.... Grow up baby boy.. Get over it @Strongtea

SW-User

Honestly yeah from your reactions here, and how you phrased the question. You are playing the victim card when really it was karma.
And from your other posts you seem very shallow and arrogant if you present yourself that way people are not going to like you.

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SW-User

@Strongtea and I would love to have seen how that went wouldn't have been mud you'd have ended up in 😜

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Oh whatever, I think I could handle u@SW-User

SW-User

@Strongtea Most can't 😜

trackboy · 22-25, M

how were you able to bully when you are a skinny boy? usually, muscular boys bully skinny boys. 🧇🍟🍔🍪🍝🍫🥓🥞🍓

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trackboy · 22-25, M

@Strongtea how did he look like he was stupid and easy to pick on??

Strongtea · 22-25, M

It’s hard to explain, he was actually always a little taller than me, but it just seemed like he wouldn’t fight back. Everyone now thinks that he’s really great as he could have hit me and hurt me really badly but he chose to do what he did and make everyone laugh@trackboy

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CestManan · 46-50, F

The answer - you two should kiss and make up. 😁

Strongtea · 22-25, M

I have tried to apologise to him and I am really really polite if I see him. His friends and family really don’t like me though.@CestManan

jimjim1969 · M

Got what you deserved

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Whatever@jimjim1969

Sepia · 36-40, F

stop denying lol @Strongtea

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Shut up, I only verbally bullied him. I didn’t deserve what he did to me as now everyone thinks it’s funny@Sepia

JohnOinger · 41-45, M

Did you apologize & become friends

Strongtea · 22-25, M

No @JohnOinger

sirenofthesea · F

Don’t be a ponce.

trackboy · 22-25, M

@sirenofthesea what is a ponce??? 🍪

trackboy · 22-25, M

were you pushing him around? beating him up? other things???/

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trackboy · 22-25, M

@Strongtea @Strongtea never know he might have had a friend that would take you on or one of the muscular boys would see you bully him and take you on.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

He ended up doing it in the end 🙁@trackboy

trackboy · 22-25, M

@Strongtea how muscular did he get that he was able to pick you up and throw you??

Split100 · 56-60, M

110% right, Im glad he did

Budwick · 70-79, M

Do you think he was right?

Yes.

Fishy · 36-40, F

I mean, did you realise that you were bullying him or that your words effected him when you were at school together?

Or did you have no idea until he brought it up recently?

Strongtea · 22-25, M

No, I did realise what I was doing, but I thought it was funny, I don’t think that I realised quite how much I upset him. @Fishy

Carazaa · F

Were you bullied at home? or why would you hurt someone for 2 years?

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Carazaa · F

@Strongtea Well that's good, because how kind we are is what matters in life.

Carazaa · F

@Strongtea I would apologize to him in person and in a letter if I were you.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

I have recently sent him a message on Facebook apologising but haven’t heard back. I’m very scared to see him in person. @Carazaa

Mahesh · M

Absolutely right thing he did

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Mahesh · M

@Strongtea are you getting my message

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Yes, but I don’t really talk about that stuff@Mahesh

Mahesh · M

@Strongtea which one

jake60 · 61-69, M

Yes

Lacemaker · 41-45, F

Are you a Christian?

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Strongtea · 22-25, M

OMG Whatever, like I care what you think. Loser.@Lacemaker

Lacemaker · 41-45, F

@Strongtea You really are a total fuckwit.
I only unblocked you the other day and you come back with this crap.

RE-BLOCKED!

GanglandCriminal97 · 26-30, M

Yeah man, no offense, but you look like the guy who goes to prison and drops the soap on purpose

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Shut up@GanglandCriminal97

th3r0n · 41-45, M

To be honest, revenge isn’t good, vengeance belongs to the Lord

You were more wrong than him though

TheSandman01 · 22-25, M

Don't they say you'll get what you deserve.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Yeah, a lot of people have said that to me. I just think he took it too far.@TheSandman01

BritishPerson · 41-45, M

@Strongtea He did but I can still understand why he did it.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Oh ok.@BritishPerson

Mindful · 56-60, F

Probably yes

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Strongtea · 22-25, M

No he just did it the one time I suppose. Ok I see your point@Mindful

Mindful · 56-60, F

@Strongtea great, so to grow…use your imagination and travel back in time this time pretending you are the person getting bullied if you try to put yourself in his shoes, and carry that humiliated feeling back in time, pretend you were him, and feel those feeling for two years in your mind…That might help you grow compassion and understanding of him and others. So we learn as a society that this is not wise to do…it is not wise to bully. You are lucky he did not go crazy and decide to use a gun to teach ALL bullies… you’ve gone too far. You are lucky/blessed he chose a healthy way to teach you a lesson.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Yes I suppose you are right, it could have been a lot worse for me. I’ll think about this. Thanks again.@Mindful

JoeyFoxx · 56-60, M

Did you walk over and congratulate him?

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Certainly not!@JoeyFoxx

JoeyFoxx · 56-60, M

@Strongtea maybe you aren’t mentally strong then?

Subalugirl · 22-25, F

Was you a skinny boy ?

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Yes, I still am@Subalugirl

Subalugirl · 22-25, F

@Strongtea You should Gain Weight ! Check your message 💁‍♀️

Strongtea · 22-25, M

I’ll try!@Subalugirl

Snuffy1957 · 61-69, M

Yessssss he was right !!

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Oh, can’t you see my side though?@Snuffy1957

Snuffy1957 · 61-69, M

@Strongtea
No I can't... you got off easy... i used to beat the hell out of bullies when I'd see them picking on others...

Bonnie · 41-45, F

Do you think you deserved it?

Strongtea · 22-25, M

To be honest no, I think he went too far, but a lot of people think I did.@Bonnie

thomassa · M

well deserved!

Strongtea · 22-25, M

OMG I can’t believe no one sees it from my side. It was so embarrassing it’s hard to live down. ☹️@thomassa

thomassa · M

@Strongtea you were bullying him, so i think its right for him to fight back!

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