I was a bully [I Was Bullied]

I was a bully at school and bullied one person for a couple of years. Apparently I made his life a nightmare he told a girl I was dating (they were both in the year below me.) I came home from university at Christmas last year and saw him, he’d started going to the gym, he literally picked me up and threw me in a huge pile of mud. All his friends cheered and clapped as I got up, covered. I can’t stand them. I cried for days afterwards, I was so upset. Do you think he was right?

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Mindful · 56-60, F

Probably yes

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Oh, it just feels like he went to far@Mindful

Mindful · 56-60, F

@Strongtea did he do it for two years?
Back then, when you bullied him you were getting away with it… you had power over him. But you didn’t realize just how painful it was to him. Only NoW that he has embarrassed you can you begin to understand how you hurt him. That was his point… “how do you like me now” that I’m stronger. Hopefully you have both learned something … actually everyone… there was a time no one stood up to bullies, and perhaps you will learn to use your own strength for a better purpose than making fun of someone

Strongtea · 22-25, M

No he just did it the one time I suppose. Ok I see your point@Mindful

Mindful · 56-60, F

@Strongtea great, so to grow…use your imagination and travel back in time this time pretending you are the person getting bullied if you try to put yourself in his shoes, and carry that humiliated feeling back in time, pretend you were him, and feel those feeling for two years in your mind…That might help you grow compassion and understanding of him and others. So we learn as a society that this is not wise to do…it is not wise to bully. You are lucky he did not go crazy and decide to use a gun to teach ALL bullies… you’ve gone too far. You are lucky/blessed he chose a healthy way to teach you a lesson.

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Yes I suppose you are right, it could have been a lot worse for me. I’ll think about this. Thanks again.@Mindful