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I was a bully [I Was Bullied]

I was a bully at school and bullied one person for a couple of years. Apparently I made his life a nightmare he told a girl I was dating (they were both in the year below me.) I came home from university at Christmas last year and saw him, he’d started going to the gym, he literally picked me up and threw me in a huge pile of mud. All his friends cheered and clapped as I got up, covered, with my outfit totally ruined. I can’t stand those people, they made me feel so stupid. I cried for days afterwards, I was so upset. Do you think he was right?
Everyone thinks I deserved it and that he’s so great as he didn’t hit me, but no one thinks about how horrid the experience was for me.

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SubstantialKick · 36-40, M

You have the audacity to cry about he did to you, when you made his life miserable for about two years?

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Oh whatever, I only verbally bullied him@SubstantialKick

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@Strongtea you asked, and people are telling you the truth. You deserved it.

Neoerectus · M

@Strongtea Still got the bully mindset. Slow learner, it seems.

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Strongtea · 22-25, M

Then you’re worse than I am.@Like2play

Split100 · 56-60, M

@Strongtea so? you still bullied him and got what you deserved, (should have been a lot more)

Strongtea · 22-25, M

🥺 Yes, I see that I deserved it now, but it is very hard to deal with. Everyone thinks I’m horrid and lame. @Split100

Split100 · 56-60, M

@Strongtea because you are

Kstrong · 56-60, F

@Strongtea words can hurt worse than physical abuse, they play in your mind for years.... damaging thoughts, self image, self esteem.... cudos to him when he fought back, standing up for himself and defending himself. If you dish it out, you gotta take whats given in return. Dont dish it, if you cant take it!

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Ok, I do understand that now, I still feel very upset about it all, but after what everyone has said, I get that I probably deserved it. @Kstrong

Kstrong · 56-60, F

@Strongtea true that!

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Also, I’m sure it’s spelt Kudos.@Kstrong

BigGuy2 · 31-35, M

@SubstantialKick ... well said and so true

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Ok I am sorry for what I did, but what about me, it’s really affected my life. @BigGuy2

BigGuy2 · 31-35, M

@Strongtea GOOD ... how many people, so girls/boys have committed suicide due to bullying, but it never gets identified as 'Suicide due to Bullying', it just gets recorded as 'Suicide'

... even if the victim tells people - {teachers are the worst} - the victim doesn't get believed, they ALWAYS believe the Bully, because if they believe the VICTIM, that means they have to do something about it

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Everyone I picked on seems to be doing fine in their lives, it’s only me that is suffering. I’m almost some kind of social outcast because of it, everyone thinks I’m so lame. @BigGuy2

BigGuy2 · 31-35, M

@Strongtea ... because you are, because you were a Bully - i do hope now that your VICTIM does 2 YEARS of payback on you ... that's not Bullying ... it's called REVENGE

Strongtea · 22-25, M

My situation is horrid, I do realise that I did bully people first, but honestly I just thought it was funny. Now I’m unpopular and it’s awful. @BigGuy2

BigGuy2 · 31-35, M

@Strongtea ... the payback iincident that he did to you, it made you feel afraid/bad

... now expand that feeling over a two year period that you Bullied him, that is what he was going through for 2 YEARS

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Ok ok, I get your point. 🥺@BigGuy2