Is being a virgin at 35 old fashioned?

In today's "anything goes" society, being a virgin at 35 shows that you are a person that has high moral values and there is nothing wrong with that. In fact, it is very commendable.
Waiting for the right man to give yourself to is also very commendable, but I have to ask, is the reason you are saving yourself for the right man out of fear that he will someday leave you or is it more because you haven't found that man yet? You shouldn't let fear of possible future events run your life for you.
The majority of married people marry with the intent to stay with their chosen partner til death do they part, but it doesn't always work out that way. I am all for life long marriages too, but it doesn't always work out that way.
Maybe you're being to hard on yourself. Maybe you've set your standards unreasonably high and virtually unattainable in selecting a partner. Think about this, but by no means rush into any decision either way.
I have always been of the belief that when you find the right person, you'll know it and it'll be wonderful.
Feel free to message me anytime if you just want to chat.

Old fashioned isn't really the concern about it, but rather the very extreme amount of weight you are placing on this for yourself. Relationships and marriages fail even with the best intentions, because people make legitimate mistakes and have real blind spots.

Waiting to be sure it will last forever is likely to make it never happen at all.

Instead, choosing to be with someone who you believe is genuine and authentic in their relationship with you is pretty much the bar you can realistically hope for.

It may fail in the future, and as long as the reasons for that are honest and not coming out of a place of malice, neither of you has any reason to suffer regret over it.

No decent man will shame a woman for having sex with someone she loved in a real relationship, no matter how old fashioned he is.

You are woman.
Having sex doesn't make anyone a man or a woman.
Teens do not become adults just because they are having sex.

It's an old fashioned idea,I suppose,but doesn't mean it's bad.

My wife was a virgin when we married 45 years ago. And yes, there are other couples like that, including ones where both parties were virgins when marrying.

At any rate, whether it is old fashioned or not shouldn't matter: if you want to wait until you feel confident that you have found the right man, then do so!

I'm 31 and still a virgin!

Yes that’s still possible, it shows you have values and that’s a rare quality these days to hold on to what’s dear to you and give yourself fully to YOUR person.

Do what fulfills you and is in line with your own convictions, irrespective of what the rest of the world thinks of it.

Is it outdated not to be able to drive at 35?
Same type of question. Ofc not. It's your choice.

In the 2020s it might actually be intimidating for a guy to find out a woman is still a virgin. Ironically, it might make red flags go up in his head. I'm not judging or criticising you, I think it's wonderful that you feel that way. But we're so used to people having multiple partners these days, that to find a woman is 'saving herself' for her special man adds a certain amount of responsibility and pressure on the shoulders of that man. It's almost like a challenge - are YOU special enough for me? I know that's perhaps ironic (and I might be wrong), but four things could happen. The guy gets intimidated and figures the stakes are too high. The guy takes your virginity but you eventually realise he's not the one. A guy actively enjoys being the one to take your virginity, in the knowledge that he's fake and has no intention of honouring his promises to you. Or, you find your prince. It's a crazy world. There's all types out there. Good luck!

It may seem old fashioned to some, but I'm with you. I'm keeping myself intact!😉

Yeah, everyone needs to stop pushing your ego to self actualize on virginity at age 35, for a woman 35 is the latest you should be pushing this virginity thing if you ever want kids. If you don't know, or even slightly want them, go get pregnant now.

I don't understand why everyone is trying to screw you over here with nice talk. You are in a bad situation. Time to panic. Go take your three remaining eggs and go find a man to fertilize them before they spoil.

Also, anyone with cancerous tumors who don't know if they want to live or die, go get chemotherapy now. If you live, but decide to change your mind later, you can always off yourself. But if you decide you want to live on your death bed with cancer, it's too late to seek chemo therapy.

I don't know about society nowadays and the obvious stuff.

My opinion is that you are missing out on a lot by saving yourself for that special someone who may never show up..
Life is short, sex is a priceless pleasure.
Enjoy life

It may be old fashioned but you should be old fashioned if that is being true to yourself.

It’s possible but rare. Not all relationships will last forever. In fact many will fail.

I tell you the answer " Your name says it all on the site . Stop doubting yourself .

I believe many of us lost our virginity to the person we thought were “the one”. Unfortunately, we cannot predict the future. Lady…woman…they are the same in the context of sex. And having it or not does not change that.

I don’t believe you’re old fashioned. I just hope you are not depriving yourself of a good relationship just because it may not last.

According to society it is, but I do not think it's outdated or old fashioned at all. Do not be afraid to wait for that special man who will commit to marrying you forever. Take a look around the world with the chaos and confusion. I wish I was still a virgin even at my age since I never married. I Have emotional scars and regrets from this.

Maybe the real question is why?

There's no right or wrong answer I'm afraid. Your personal preference may cause stress to your potential partners or partner in general but in the end, your decision is what makes you comfortable. Is it old fashioned? Yes. Is it outdated? Never, because you have a line of reasoning.

What I can say is my perspective on it is stress relief and a show of affection. Eternity doesn't exist for me, this life is all that matters and I could die tomorrow so I live in the moment. It's a different perspective and I have no issue with sex but its only comfortable with someone I love.

Hello, my opinion is: best to wait until engaged or better yet, be legally married first and you'll at peace in the long run because you waited and feel you did the RIGHT thing, no regrets 😇

yes...for you a beautiful sentiment...but chose a partner soon and bore him fruit

good luck!! dont feel forced or be manipulated to giving in

i was raped at 19 by a bus driver i wish i did not lost it that way

It’s possible but statistically unlikely that the man to whom you lose your virginity will be the man you spend the rest of your life with. For what it’s worth, I don’t see virginity as that big of a deal, and losing your virginity does not in any way decrease your value as a potential romantic partner.

Only to liberals... and who cares what they think?

It is your choice and there is nothing wrong with it.

I am glad that you had the resolve not to give this precious gift to just anyone. Relationships are unpredictable, you never know what the other person is actually thinking and scheming.

Recently it's been a subject between my friends. Since they all know, I am Virgin at the age of 40( not a saint). Ironically, I met 42 years old and 55 years old virgin in just last week. Which diverted the talks away from me.

Not it's absolutely normal and one who value her self/ his self.

no

its a personal decision

In the age we live in, it’s not that common but far from unknown.
Please quantify this: transit from a lady to a man“
Finding Mr Right the first time out can happen, but one has to drop all pretences when looking.

Im right there with u

It was never a fashion to say it's old fashioned, because it transits to celebacy and spinster category.

Transit from a girl to woman..


All you are in for is deception..
And whose eternity?

It is possible and very commendable of you wanting to save yourself for that one special man.
You do what makes you happy and stand by your conviction. There's nothing wrong with that. I hope that all works out for you.

Hang in there. You are right. Wish we had waited.been married to that guy for 56+ years. Had other between losing our virginity and getting married. Unfortunately no doovers

It is a personal choice. You are not doing anything wrong, if you want to stay virgin. It should be shared with that special one and hop it should be for life long.

It's your personal thing. And I think it is possible but it rather exists as a part of ideology in catholic communities, very rarely by natural attraction.

Yes. It is possible.

But to be a girl or to be a woman is a mindset. It doesn't have anything to do with one having had sex or not.

No, men like women who are virgins and usually prefer it. I'm a 34-year-old virgin and have no intention of having sex.

What if you don't find anyone? And if you do. Do you think he is still a virgin? Or is that not important?

There is alot of preassure on young females this days to not be a virgin females are very sexulised today.

It’s probably a bit unusual. But everyone should be able to make their own decisions about their own body

So, you're waiting for marriage. That's of course your choice. No such thing as for eternity though.

Well better not wait too long
Better to loose your virginity and enjoy than to remain a virgin

If being a virgin is outdated, then I'd never want to get with the times.

Yes, but a lot of values are considered old fashioned. Does that matter?

Its aint old fashioned

Its just being for one the right one

You don't need a man to lose your virginity. A toy can do the trick.

Naa just means ya cant find right person or yr lazy is all lol

Have you considered being a nun?

Possible but difficult.