Is being a virgin at 35 old fashioned?

Was just wondering if it's outdated and old fashioned of me to still be a virgin at 35? I ain't scared of losing my virginity at all because it's every ladies dream to lose her virginity and transit from a lady to a woman, but I am scared of losing it one man then later get dumped by that man then opt to another man. Because my desire is to lose it to just one man and that one man would be the one to spend eternity with me. Is it possible ?

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Richard65 · M

In the 2020s it might actually be intimidating for a guy to find out a woman is still a virgin. Ironically, it might make red flags go up in his head. I'm not judging or criticising you, I think it's wonderful that you feel that way. But we're so used to people having multiple partners these days, that to find a woman is 'saving herself' for her special man adds a certain amount of responsibility and pressure on the shoulders of that man. It's almost like a challenge - are YOU special enough for me? I know that's perhaps ironic (and I might be wrong), but four things could happen. The guy gets intimidated and figures the stakes are too high. The guy takes your virginity but you eventually realise he's not the one. A guy actively enjoys being the one to take your virginity, in the knowledge that he's fake and has no intention of honouring his promises to you. Or, you find your prince. It's a crazy world. There's all types out there. Good luck!

DrWatson · 70-79, M

@Richard65 A man for whom this is a red flag is probably not the man she is looking for. So, this is another reason to remain a virgin: it can act as a filter!