Is it your fault when someone falls in love with you?

Shine!! I don't think we can "make" anyone fall in love with us. Are we always supposed to be on guard and think that we "caused" someone to fall in love with us? I don't think so. But I do say this. Neither party should play games with each other's feelings... each should be genuine. But of course that falls into another category and that's not always the truth. People are not always genuine and that's where the problem comes in. Some never present their true selves. However, speaking in general, we weren't made to be people pleasers. If somebody falls in love with us I don't think it's because we forced them. They should take responsibility for their own feelings and actions. People could always use that as an excuse to support their own obsession, or blackmail somebody, but we can't force anyone to love us.

I believe it is if we understand how love, sex and other things work.
Take me for example. I was fully aware when a young, attractive coworker was attracted to me, and I her. I was not interested in an affair (I'm to old for that crap) and I'm not interested in all the drama of leaving my wife, starting a new relationship, establishing visitation with my son, child support payments, and any other drama one can think of that goes along with a situation like that.
So what I did, I was very nice and cordial with her, I let myself slip into the "friend zone," and we are still great coworkers.

We don't have to dull our shine, but we are responsible for not leading others on, especially in the game of love.

If we are grooming someone, striving for someone's approval, directing our attentions to someone in order to evoke warm feelings toward us, using someone's admiration of us in order to boost our self-esteem, etc., then yes we have to own up to our part in that person falling in love with us, even if we tell ourselves "oh, I didn't mean it that way."

But barring that sort of thing, no I don't think it is our fault for simply being ourselves.

I never had that problem after high school, but my wife had to deal with it in college. She couldn't hide her shine, so she just told all the guys she dated that if they fell in love with her, she was dumping them. It happened several times, and they got dumped but remained friends. All of them made a point to meet me, so they knew she didn't have an imaginary boyfriend somewhere.

No...it's not our fault. AND we need not try to dull ourselves so that others don't "catch feelings"...but I will say that in the past, when someone has developed a horrible crush on me, I FELT horribly about it. I never knew quite how to handle having to hurt someone.

No. It’s our job to live our lives and be who we are, as long as we’re not trying to harm anyone. Some people may be put off, others may be attracted. I think the only obligation is to not lead anyone on—if there’s no chance of reciprocal feelings, that should be made plain.

That depends. Do they fall in love with you because you're just being you, or did you make an effort to get them interested in falling in love with you? If you didn't do anything, then no, you're not responsible for anything. If you did do something, then yes, you have some responsibility, even if it's just to tell them that you don't feel that way about them.

You are only responsible for yourself. Sparkle when you shine. Accept yourself when you don’t. Just be yourself.

It's not your fault if you are just being yourself and minding your own business.. it's only one's fault if they are intentionally leading someone on for some reason.. but i don't think that's the type of case you are talking about?

Since men fall very fast, and can fall inlove with just a smile, we should not flirt and lead them on if we don't want a serious relationship.
And men should not lie and seduce women if they do not want to commit.

Be yourself and shine. You’re not responsible for nor in charge of other people’s emotions.

I am just myself for better or for worse.I don't know how to be any other way and I would not want to anyway

im\n my experience, love or infatuation is totally on the other person. now if i flirt, its on me

✨Shine✨

Always shine

People who catch feelings with me are questionable and should seek therapy.

As for you, go shine! 💎💕

I used to hide my shine. I'd give anything to have that back

I tend to avoid ppl im not interested in to stop that happening because those tend to be the ones who like me the most.

I think these are two different questions. Both very complex.

Probably.

You are never responsible for the feelings of others. Shine on!

Be yourself but don’t confuse just with love.

I never ask anyone to love me.

No. It's a beautiful thing.

Lol i dont think people just fall in love with me.

No, I'm no flirt!

Maybe but i get aroused and hard when they beg and get very needy....

Shine on you crazy diamond.