Is it your fault when someone falls in love with you?

I think what I'm really asking is this:

Is it our job to dull our shine, so other people don't catch feelings? Or should we just shine, and navigate those situations as they arise.

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DunningKruger · 61-69, M

That depends. Do they fall in love with you because you're just being you, or did you make an effort to get them interested in falling in love with you? If you didn't do anything, then no, you're not responsible for anything. If you did do something, then yes, you have some responsibility, even if it's just to tell them that you don't feel that way about them.