Is it your fault when someone falls in love with you?

I think what I'm really asking is this:

Is it our job to dull our shine, so other people don't catch feelings? Or should we just shine, and navigate those situations as they arise.

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exexec · 70-79, C

I never had that problem after high school, but my wife had to deal with it in college. She couldn't hide her shine, so she just told all the guys she dated that if they fell in love with her, she was dumping them. It happened several times, and they got dumped but remained friends. All of them made a point to meet me, so they knew she didn't have an imaginary boyfriend somewhere.