Is it your fault when someone falls in love with you?

I think what I'm really asking is this:

Is it our job to dull our shine, so other people don't catch feelings? Or should we just shine, and navigate those situations as they arise.

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DrWatson · 70-79, M

If we are grooming someone, striving for someone's approval, directing our attentions to someone in order to evoke warm feelings toward us, using someone's admiration of us in order to boost our self-esteem, etc., then yes we have to own up to our part in that person falling in love with us, even if we tell ourselves "oh, I didn't mean it that way."

But barring that sort of thing, no I don't think it is our fault for simply being ourselves.