Is it your fault when someone falls in love with you?

I think what I'm really asking is this:

Is it our job to dull our shine, so other people don't catch feelings? Or should we just shine, and navigate those situations as they arise.

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calicuz · 56-60, M

I believe it is if we understand how love, sex and other things work.
Take me for example. I was fully aware when a young, attractive coworker was attracted to me, and I her. I was not interested in an affair (I'm to old for that crap) and I'm not interested in all the drama of leaving my wife, starting a new relationship, establishing visitation with my son, child support payments, and any other drama one can think of that goes along with a situation like that.
So what I did, I was very nice and cordial with her, I let myself slip into the "friend zone," and we are still great coworkers.

We don't have to dull our shine, but we are responsible for not leading others on, especially in the game of love.