If you need to use flights of fantasy to step away, in mind, you already have a rich store of all you need: great memories of lovely times with special people in lovely, amazing places. In memory, you can revisit, relive, savor whichever events you wish, with no equipment, etc.
You can think of music you love, replaying it in your head...I used to be able to go through Tchaikovsky's 1812 Overture in my mind and come out within ~90 s of the recording I had burned into my memory...but you can stretch out the beautiful bits, compress/skip over other bits...you are the producer of your mind's experience.
You can think of poetry you've read or written...and write more!
You have an amazing mind...you can use it as your chariot to a better place.
I tell myself that I'm not in a good place. So today I'm not going to evaluate my life, myself or make any decisions. If negative thoughts come, I let them come and then basically put them aside because I'm not in a place to assess anything right now. I only do that when I'm centred. This creates some space. It was one of my key strategies for getting out of fifteen years of chronic depression. So from there I go easy on myself for today, knowing tomorrow might be better. I'm usually not in a creative space because of how I feel (otherwise I would turn to that) and so just any indulgent distraction, take a nap, go for a walk - especially in nature if I can. Go and see someone. Go out and sit in a cafe and do not much...
That required self awareness, a focused mind, experience and more ..... you certainly have them all and I appreciate you.... I want to get there and I gradually will...
i listen to soothing piano like Phillip Glass. Daniel LaMois just came out with something new called Player, Piano. He produced for Peter Gabriel, U2 and Bob Dylan. [media=https://youtu.be/Lz9KhpRUhfY]
@Soossie My google feed told me about Daniel LaMois yesterday. He has a new release come September 23rd. I do hope you enjoy and distract your mind my friend. π€
Music of a positive nature and dancing alone in my living room. It sounds as weird as it probably looks. But one thing I've learned in all of my years is that it's very hard to be despondent when you're dancing.
Designing (no money but the act of designing is fun, includes materials research): - an eco-house I'd love to build and live in - renovating the shack we're in - a superlight and strong horse float - an easy clean free-range chicken shelter, snake, rat & fox proof - raised permaculture no-dig veggie-garden beds.
Time with friends.
Volunteering - helping with green community projects.
Well done.... you certainly know what to do to distract your own mind .....
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I hope by now you're feeling a lot better and shaken out of that feeling. When I don't feel good, I tend to just sit with it and maybe try to get to the root of why I am feeling that way. But it can be unpleasant sometimes and when it's too much, I can just do mindless things like TV or if the mood takes me, read something.
I know you are strong enough to realize the way it helps.... My situation right now is out of my control and I dont know how to deal with it.... 3π€π€πΉπ
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@Soossie Soossie, you're very strong too. If a situation is out of your control, 'breathe through it', pray, take one day at a time. Maybe even one hour at a time. Talk to trusted people so it's not all becoming too big in your head, or write it out. See if you can find a way of observing it without attaching to it, or with detaching from it. All of this has come out as advice/preach and I apologise for that. I'm sending you positive vibes and lots of love.
Oh darling!! Why are you apologizing fir being a good friend to me?? I asked, because I wanted advice.... In fact, I believe that praying and writting (what you have suggested) are going to help a lot.... π€π€ππΉ
Sorry you're not feeling well.....What do I do...I guess meditate,or put on a movie,go for a walk...and always music.....stay strong ya never know what tomorrow bringsπ€
I went thru something traumatic a few months ago. What helped me was to set up flowers and hummingbird feeders to attract hummingbirds. I felt so relaxed and peaceful sitting on my deck. It really helped! I hope you feel better very soon.π€ππ·
Breathe there for a while. Accept your feelings as they come. Remember that you have greatness in you and that although you are in discomfort, it is temporary. If a person is making you feel bad - try to first spend time with yourself apart, so that your own light can whisper to you what to do next. Do not be afraid to feel it all. If it is too heavy, do not be afraid to let it out (express it) in any form possible, even abstract. Do something that makes you relax. Anything. Try to take a walk - there is this magic about fresh air. These are the moments to take care of yourself and show love to yourself. when you feel better, try to observe the situation from 3rd perspective -the solution might just pop! Wishing you to feel lighter and livelier again soon :)
Thank you..... it is about a social matter about which I have even less control... having said that, your solution which is a much better than escaping from it all, can help me to deal with my feelings...π€π€ππΉ
Music can help calm me down when I'm feeling anxious. Especially Christmas music. Perhaps your own faith has holidays that utilize calming musical collections as well?
I hope you're feeling better by now, sweet Soossie.π€ π
I'm in the same boat myself with anxiety, even though I'm hopeful. Leave it to the enigmatic to have two contradictory feelings.π
For me, I can't distract myself from these feelings. It isn't an easy task, but I think sometimes, we need to feel them for what they're worth for a reason. Growth comes to mind as such reason. Personally, time has proven this to be my truth...
Im so sorry that you go through similar feelings... but Im also glad that you understand those feelings and know their purpose....
Through years and in different situations, I have learnt that I have to go through my feelings to understand them, so that I will be stronger and they will be less confusing each time they come back....
Distracting my mind is usually short .... it helps me find a way to face my feelings in a better environment....πππ€π€πΉ
@Soossie You're so very welcome.π· But yes, we are on the same page with ideas and one I'd already planned to make a post about.
No matter how unpleasant the feelings are, they're there to guide us, so. It's our responsibility to find out why, so pushing them aside isn't healthy.. All the darkness I've ever went through has led me to light and growth.
Connect to your heart β€οΈ Feel the physical feeling that comes with an emotion without telling yourself a story about why youβre feeling bad.
It will hurt but once you feel it the pain will subside. Our pesky brains love having something to do and if you let it it will drive you in circle to try and understand why something is the way it is when really we just need to feel it and move on.
Soosie, so sorry you're not feeling so good. The situation unfolding in some regions can make one feel so helpless. It's truly tragic. Your mind must be in turmoil. Thinking about you and hoping you keep safe..
@Soossie Yes I do. I'm so sorry you have to hide your emotions and fear. I will say no more except your love has no boundaries. You are a beautiful lady in mind and spirit. Keep safe my friend...
I can't. π I have an unquiet mind. But I've learn that time and patience can solve many ...undesired situations. That in itself helps me. Blessings to you.
@Soossie just got on here seconds after your reply. Thank YoU! .... I have a few years on you. Hopefully I'm growing old gracefully π You are a beautiful soul. Take care of yourself! πβ
Hi sorry you are not feeling good.. When I am really down I distract myself by walking outside in nature. The exercise helps..when the body moves it helps move the stress and trauma away. π€.. I learnt this from my therapist
I will listen to the Les Crane version of the "Desiderata" this wonderful work of music set to inspired lyrics usually works to change my focus to a more positive mindset. Love you.
I make lists of positive aspects of my life. I walk in nature, which helps me to connect with my own nature. I meditate, watch an enjoyable movie, listen to some of my favourite music. I talk with a loving friend.
Sleep Set priorities Do some activities to get rid of thoughts Meditation Learn something new (language or read a book) Go out for a walk Many things π
With me I listen to music, walk, look on the internet for holiday offers, drive, try to think positively but realistically about things. Hope things look brighter for you soon. π
I may be the weird one but when i get undesired situations, i clean πΉ. I swear anything i clean gets really clean and sparkly β¨οΈ π. Hope you find comfort and the distraction you need π€π€π€.
Oh poor dear - Iβm sorry to hear that! You had just recovered, too. π€π€π€ If Iβm reasonably functional, I go for a book, a game, or making something. If Iβm a useless pile of brainless goo, I find an old favorite movie or show and let it work its magic. I sure hope youβre better soon! β€οΈ
Iβm so sorry, my friend. If Iβm up to it, I sometimes will watch a movie or tv show I enjoy. If I can eat, Iβll fix something light and delicious. Sometimes a hot shower, glass of wine and a nap helps. I hope youβre feeling better soon. π€