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Im not feeling good ... Not trying to deny anything but Im tryind to distract my mind....

How do you escape your mind from undesired situation??
What's up?

If you need to use flights of fantasy to step away, in mind, you already have a rich store of all you need: great memories of lovely times with special people in lovely, amazing places. In memory, you can revisit, relive, savor whichever events you wish, with no equipment, etc.

You can think of music you love, replaying it in your head...I used to be able to go through Tchaikovsky's [i]1812 Overture[/i] in my mind and come out within ~90 s of the recording I had burned into my memory...but you can stretch out the beautiful bits, compress/skip over other are the producer of your mind's experience.

You can think of poetry you've read or written...and write more!

You have an amazing can use it as your chariot to a better place.


Grateful for you... and to you...
Grateful4you70-79, M
@SomeMichGuy Beautifully said, I couldn't have expressed this better.
@Grateful4you Why, thank you for your very generous words. 馃槉
Abstraction61-69, M
I tell myself that I'm not in a good place. So today I'm not going to evaluate my life, myself or make any decisions. If negative thoughts come, I let them come and then basically put them aside because I'm not in a place to assess anything right now. I only do that when I'm centred.
This creates some space. It was one of my key strategies for getting out of fifteen years of chronic depression.
So from there I go easy on myself for today, knowing tomorrow might be better. I'm usually not in a creative space because of how I feel (otherwise I would turn to that) and so just any indulgent distraction, take a nap, go for a walk - especially in nature if I can. Go and see someone. Go out and sit in a cafe and do not much...

That required self awareness, a focused mind, experience and more ..... you certainly have them all and I appreciate you.... I want to get there and I gradually will...

Thank you... 馃檹馃檹
Abstraction61-69, M
@Soossie Ah, a social problem. I was following that (if I've understood, which I probably haven't) and thinking about you.

Thank you.... I know that you guessed right... 馃馃馃檹
i listen to soothing piano like Phillip Glass.
Daniel LaMois just came out with something new called Player, Piano.
He produced for Peter Gabriel, U2 and Bob Dylan.

This is lovely .... that list includes all my favourite musicians... no wonder...

Thank you dear Pfuzy... 馃馃
My google feed told me about Daniel LaMois yesterday. He has a new release come September 23rd. I do hope you enjoy and distract your mind my friend. 馃

Will look for it.... thank you.... but before that Im going to fix myself a drink... 馃馃
HikingMan51-55, M
Music of a positive nature and dancing alone in my living room.
It sounds as weird as it probably looks.
But one thing I've learned in all of my years is that it's very hard to be despondent when you're dancing.

As weird as it sounds, I'd suggest you try it.

Uh!!! I do that all the time.... specially when feeling down.... feels really good... thank you... 馃馃

Writing poetry or a short story.

Designing (no money but the act of designing is fun, includes materials research):
- an eco-house I'd love to build and live in
- renovating the shack we're in
- a superlight and strong horse float
- an easy clean free-range chicken shelter, snake, rat & fox proof
- raised permaculture no-dig veggie-garden beds.

Time with friends.

Volunteering - helping with green community projects.

In no particular order.

Well done.... you certainly know what to do to distract your own mind .....
I hope by now you're feeling a lot better and shaken out of that feeling.
When I don't feel good, I tend to just sit with it and maybe try to get to the root of why I am feeling that way. But it can be unpleasant sometimes and when it's too much, I can just do mindless things like TV or if the mood takes me, read something.

I know you are strong enough to realize the way it helps.... My situation right now is out of my control and I dont know how to deal with it.... 3馃馃馃尮馃槝
@Soossie Soossie, you're very strong too. If a situation is out of your control, 'breathe through it', pray, take one day at a time. Maybe even one hour at a time. Talk to trusted people so it's not all becoming too big in your head, or write it out. See if you can find a way of observing it without attaching to it, or with detaching from it.
All of this has come out as advice/preach and I apologise for that. I'm sending you positive vibes and lots of love.

Oh darling!! Why are you apologizing fir being a good friend to me?? I asked, because I wanted advice.... In fact, I believe that praying and writting (what you have suggested) are going to help a lot.... 馃馃馃槝馃尮
Sorry you're not feeling well.....What do I do...I guess meditate,or put on a movie,go for a walk...and always music.....stay strong ya never know what tomorrow brings馃

馃馃 cheers... thank you....
@Soossie I don't know if that emoji is milk or water but sure beats dry mouth

My guess is milk.... milk is good... thanks.. 馃槝馃
JustNik46-50, F
Oh poor dear - I鈥檓 sorry to hear that! You had just recovered, too. 馃馃馃 If I鈥檓 reasonably functional, I go for a book, a game, or making something. If I鈥檓 a useless pile of brainless goo, I find an old favorite movie or show and let it work its magic. I sure hope you鈥檙e better soon! 鉂わ笍

Thank you beautiful.... I guess Im going to gaze at a movie... 馃槀
Busybee33326-30, F
Breathe there for a while. Accept your feelings as they come. Remember that you have greatness in you and that although you are in discomfort, it is temporary. If a person is making you feel bad - try to first spend time with yourself apart, so that your own light can whisper to you what to do next. Do not be afraid to feel it all. If it is too heavy, do not be afraid to let it out (express it) in any form possible, even abstract. Do something that makes you relax. Anything. Try to take a walk - there is this magic about fresh air. These are the moments to take care of yourself and show love to yourself. when you feel better, try to observe the situation from 3rd perspective -the solution might just pop! Wishing you to feel lighter and livelier again soon :)

Thank you..... it is about a social matter about which I have even less control... having said that, your solution which is a much better than escaping from it all, can help me to deal with my feelings...馃馃馃檹馃尮
I went thru something traumatic a few months ago.
What helped me was to set up flowers and hummingbird feeders to attract hummingbirds.
I felt so relaxed and peaceful sitting on my deck. It really helped!
I hope you feel better very soon.馃馃檪馃尫

Thank you.... what a beautiful way to calm and relax... 馃馃馃尮
ChampagneOnIce51-55, F
Read, listen to happy music, dance, go for a walk outside, spend time with friends

I'm so sorry you're not feeling well. Sending you a hug!

Thank you beautiful..... I will try some of those ... Im sure they will help... 馃馃馃尮
ChampagneOnIce51-55, F
@Soossie I hope they do, and you鈥檙e soon feeling better. 馃挅

Thank you sweetness... 馃尮馃尮
Music can help calm me down when I'm feeling anxious. Especially Christmas music. Perhaps your own faith has holidays that utilize calming musical collections as well?
@VeronicaPrincess Mariah...[i]All I Want For Christmas Is You[/i]

No dear Veronica.... we dont have any... but music of any kind can help.... thank you.. 馃馃馃尮
Tracos51-55, M
I go for a good bicycle ride with some engaging music to burn off the black energy...

..and typically by the time I get home again most of the darkness has cleared

I love this solution..... really, I do.... thank you....馃馃
I hope you're feeling better by now, sweet Soossie.馃 馃挅

I'm in the same boat myself with anxiety, even though I'm hopeful. Leave it to the enigmatic to have two contradictory feelings.馃槒

For me, I can't distract myself from these feelings. It isn't an easy task, but I think sometimes, we need to feel them for what they're worth for a reason. Growth comes to mind as such reason. Personally, time has proven this to be my truth...


Thank you so much sweet Moon Lady......馃槝馃尮

Im so sorry that you go through similar feelings... but Im also glad that you understand those feelings and know their purpose....

Through years and in different situations, I have learnt that I have to go through my feelings to understand them, so that I will be stronger and they will be less confusing each time they come back....

Distracting my mind is usually short .... it helps me find a way to face my feelings in a better environment....馃檹馃檹馃馃馃尮
@Soossie You're so very welcome.馃尫
But yes, we are on the same page with ideas and one I'd already planned to make a post about.

No matter how unpleasant the feelings are, they're there to guide us, so. It's our responsibility to find out why, so pushing them aside isn't healthy.. All the darkness I've ever went through has led me to light and growth.

I absolutely agree.... 馃馃馃尮
Here鈥檚 a hug for you! 馃 鉂わ笍

Listen to music. Write about the things that make you happy or that you鈥檙e thankful for.

Thank you beautiful friend... love you much... 馃馃馃尮
Reflective36-40, M
Connect to your heart 鉂わ笍 Feel the physical feeling that comes with an emotion without telling yourself a story about why you鈥檙e feeling bad.

It will hurt but once you feel it the pain will subside. Our pesky brains love having something to do and if you let it it will drive you in circle to try and understand why something is the way it is when really we just need to feel it and move on.

Better way to understand our feelings .... thank you... 馃檹馃檹
Being here is distracting...when here, I forget my troubles!

Im glad that we have SW to come to when we have small or bigger problems.... 馃馃馃尮
Barny5256-60, M
Headphones music then keep busy while dancing

Good solution..... love it ... thank you... 馃馃
Sweetpoison36-40, F
It depends what the problem is

Thank you... 馃檹馃檹
Soosie, so sorry you're not feeling so good. The situation unfolding in some regions can make one feel so helpless. It's truly tragic.
Your mind must be in turmoil.
Thinking about you and hoping you keep safe..

You know what is going on, about which I cant talk in here.... thank you for understanding.... thank you for your comforting words... 馃馃
@Soossie Yes I do. I'm so sorry you have to hide your emotions and fear. I will say no more except your love has no boundaries. You are a beautiful lady in mind and spirit. Keep safe my friend...

Thank you....
rrraksamam31-35, M
I don't escape.
I write.

Good way to help.... I feel my mind is paralized that's why I cant write... thank you tho.. 馃檹馃馃
I鈥檓 so sorry, my friend. If I鈥檓 up to it, I sometimes will watch a movie or tv show I enjoy. If I can eat, I鈥檒l fix something light and delicious. Sometimes a hot shower, glass of wine and a nap helps. I hope you鈥檙e feeling better soon. 馃

Thank you lovely Bijoux.... I think I will drink a glass of wine and listen to some music... thank you again.. 馃馃馃尮馃槝
xbandoleerx56-60, M
It all depends upon the nature of reality being faced. From some there is no escape. One has to face them squarely

It's not a personal situation... it's a social one and it's killing me to see what's going on....

Thank you....
xbandoleerx56-60, M
@Soossie In that case there is no point in comparing the existing with the past. Accept it as it is.
@xbandoleerx 馃檹馃檹 I will try...
Mrod7841-45, F
Hi sorry you are not feeling good.. When I am really down I distract myself by walking outside in nature. The exercise helps..when the body moves it helps move the stress and trauma away. 馃.. I learnt this from my therapist

Hi kind Mrod... I wnt to gym and did some exercise today ... It really helped... thank you.. 馃馃馃尮
Mrod7841-45, F
@Soossie Yes great. It always helps 馃グ

If I can concentrate... thank you kind lady... 馃馃馃尮
@Soossie try a book you have read before and that you love

Such a good idea... thanks... 馃尮馃挅
ShadowWorker61-69, F
I can't. 馃様 I have an unquiet mind.
But I've learn that time and patience can solve many ...undesired situations.
That in itself helps me.
Blessings to you.
ShadowWorker61-69, F
@Soossie just got on here seconds after your reply. Thank YoU! ....
I have a few years on you. Hopefully I'm growing old gracefully 馃檭
You are a beautiful soul. Take care of yourself! 馃槝鉁

Why, Thank you so much... 馃檹馃檹馃挅馃尮
ShadowWorker61-69, F
@Soossie 馃檹馃挒
JoyfulSilence46-50, M
So sorry you are not feeling good.

When I get like that, I go to bed.
JoyfulSilence46-50, M

I will ask my landlord for help.

In the meantime whenever I hear ice fall, I swap the bin with a large bowl to catch the water. It is only for a few minutes. Then I swap back.

But it is off now, since I am away, at this place:


Awww!! Beautiful.... Hope you enjoyed... 馃馃
JoyfulSilence46-50, M

That fountain and shapes had a Middle Eastern / Islamic feel to it.
I make lists of positive aspects of my life. I walk in nature, which helps me to connect with my [i]own[/i] nature. I meditate, watch an enjoyable movie, listen to some of my favourite music. I talk with a loving friend.

馃馃 馃挄馃槝

Good ways... I should try some of them... 馃檹馃 thank you...
Set priorities
Do some activities to get rid of thoughts
Learn something new (language or read a book)
Go out for a walk
Many things 馃檪

A very good helping list.... thank you..馃馃
@Soossie welcome. I really hope you can feel relaxed 馃

Thank you.. 馃檹馃檹
Grateful4you70-79, M
I will listen to the Les Crane version of the "Desiderata" this wonderful work of music set to inspired lyrics usually works to change my focus to a more positive mindset. Love you.

Fantastic taste in music... good choice.... thank you and love you too dear David... 馃馃
Grateful4you70-79, M
@Soossie Glad to hear you liked it honey. Hope you're in a bit better mindset tonight. Love you.
With me I listen to music, walk, look on the internet for holiday offers, drive, try to think positively but realistically about things. Hope things look brighter for you soon. 馃挌

Thank you dear alan.... a good list... 馃馃
Purplehaze7890-99, F
I may be the weird one but when i get undesired situations, i clean 馃樄. I swear anything i clean gets really clean and sparkly 鉁笍 馃榿.
Hope you find comfort and the distraction you need 馃馃馃.

Lol... I used to be like that until I aged.... 馃槀

Thank you sweet lady... 馃馃馃尮
AstroZombie31-35, M
Try doing something you enjoy to take your mind off it.
AstroZombie31-35, M
@Soossie You're welcome. I hope you feel better soon. 馃

Thank you kind Zombie... 馃檹
AstroZombie31-35, M
@Soossie You're very welcome.
Jenny123451-55, F
I find getting outside and going for a walk or run really helps as does just going to the store or walk around the mall.

Thank you..... I love your list... 馃馃馃尮
HeavenBesideYou56-60, F
Read something light.

Hope you feel better soon sis 馃

Social situation.... getting more intense... sweet and bitter moments.... sad and hopeful... 馃尮馃尮馃
HeavenBesideYou56-60, F
@Soossie Big hugs and strength to get through it ok, from me to you. 馃挆馃槝

Thank you beautiful.... 馃馃槝馃尮
LostNForgotten31-35, M
Read, run, or just walk around outside. I also recite poems and quotations in my head.

Glad to see you have so many ways to distract yourself... 馃馃
LostNForgotten31-35, M
@Soossie I've had many reasons to
OldBrit56-60, M
Music. Listening or playing.
Just keeping busy in someway with cleaning, gardening, DIY etc

Mostly, I've been doing cleaning, garfening,music and tv... they are helpful... thank you my friend... 馃馃
Eddiesolds56-60, M
I chain smoke and hold my stomach. Or i take pills to make me pass out , if i can.

Then I really hope that you will never feel bad.... 馃馃
Eddiesolds56-60, M
@Soossie Thankyou Soosie.馃
calicuz51-55, M
Usually come to SW, and wait for politicos to lose their stuff...................... always entertaining.

Lol.... do they ever lose their stuff??

Thank you dear Calicuz.... 馃馃
calicuz51-55, M

Yes, when they can start a good
Justme2251-55, M
Walk outside or listen to music. It is like a warm blanket for my mind and soul.

That sounda lovely... music is going to be my choice too.... 馃檹馃檹
Livingwell61-69, M
That's a tough one. I try to think or even better, work on a hobby.

Thinking of you. 馃

Thank you my dear friend... 馃馃
Streamy41-45, M
Sorry to hear Soossie, music, reading films, my usual ways of coping.

Hello.... thank you..... I with certainly try that list... 馃檹馃檹
pearllederman61-69, F
how come you dont feel good, maybe you should see a doctor

Nothing personal..... just some social problem.... thanks sweetie... 馃馃馃槝馃尮
Sepia31-35, F
By walking away.. somewhere where I can own my space.

Wonderful way to deal with an undesired situation.... thank you... 馃馃馃尮
Change the playing field.

Thank you.... I will be travelling in a few days... 馃檹馃檹
@Soossie 鉁岋笍
I empty the fridge 馃憖

Lol... that is why I dont go grocery shopping when I feel bad... 馃槀

Thank you.. 馃檹馃檹
Read a good book.

I will.... thank you... 馃檹馃檹
I find being in nature helps but sometimes just a good night's sleep too

Both sound helpful... thank you... 馃檹馃檹
Virgo7961-69, M
Get well Soossie馃
Hydrate will help
I cut firewood with a chainsaw , load it in my truck, unload and split it with an axe.

Physical activities can get you exhausted which is good during undesired situations....

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