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sad news--wife had stroke

Sadly, my wife of many years, who was already in poor health, just had a massive stroke. I sit with her in the hospital, but she does not wake up or respond, 8 days in now. Need hope...not knowing is so difficult. Thank you.

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Docdon23 · M

Update--getting worse. No responses at all. Doctor said she very likely may never wake up, and if she does it will be with severe brain damage. probably meeting with doctors in a few days to discuss next steps...and the quality of life is a real consideration. My kids will help. Thank goodness for them, and our grandkids.

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Docdon23 · M

@Patientlywaiting Thank you so much. There are so many kind and supportive people on here and in our lives. I truly appreciate that. maybe someday when we have gotten through this we could talk.

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

@Docdon23 so sorry, but, you know that you have our support. If she has no brainstem function, she is already with the angels.

sally1981 · 41-45, F

@Docdon23 So sad.

Docdon23 · M

She just passed away, March 18...over four months battle to recover but never got there. Too much brain damage. But she is at peace now, no longer struggling.

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GLITTER · 36-40, F

@Docdon23 I am so sorry to hear this sending you lots of strength during this heartbreaking time

Docdon23 · M

@GLITTER wake tonight, hundreds of people...funeral tomorrow...it is exhausting but then it will be over, and emptiness will be there...and we move on...

GLITTER · 36-40, F

@Docdon23 I hope all goes as well as can be for the funeral. She’ll always be with you buddy, never forget that 💖

PoetryNEmotion · F

I am sorry for your loss. It is most severe to wait by the bedside of someone you love who has had a stroke. I feel for you. The world goes on in its way. You sit in silence, waiting. Waiting for a sign. Hoping something improves. Worrying. Lost. Alone. Vulnerable. Please take good care of you. This is so vital to carrying on. My thoughts are with you. I know things will never be the same for either of you again.

Docdon23 · M

@PoetryNEmotion Wow, you describe my days perfectly here. I still sit there and hope. But all these emotions are starting to crop up. Thank you.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@Docdon23 You are most welcome. I am a health care professional as well as my ex- bf had a stroke years ago. I know what this feels like from both sides of the bed. Take care.

1pebbles · 56-60, F

Talk to her… even if unresponsive… she can still hear you… touch her, hold her hand… she’ll feel your presence… pray… the angles will comfort her…

Docdon23 · M

@1pebbles Thank you, Pebbles. I have done all of that and more. Still hopeful but after 8 days it gets tougher. i do appreciate this.

SethGreene531 · M

Some case histories and personal accounts of survival
As well as hope for future recovery -- TED Talk

Covid survivor who suffered stroke while in a coma learns to read and write again

https://www.facebook.com/ITVWales/videos/951932135611289/?t=1

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tFhPwOMzjek
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NplLk3hjgyk

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Resources/breakdown of massive stroke process and recovery outcome:

https://www.flintrehab.com/coma-after-stroke/
[quote]Previously, experts thought that individuals in long-term comas could not recover. However, recent research suggests that late recovery is possible thanks to the remarkable plasticity of the human brain.

If a patient recovers from a coma, they may regain consciousness slowly, moving through the stages of coma including a vegetative state and minimally conscious state. The eyes may regain movement first before other voluntary responses slowly appear.

There is no doubt that waiting for a loved one to wake up from a coma can be distressing. The uncertainty can create anxiety and stress, making it important for loved ones to seek their own support during this time.

The good news is that there are steps you can take to maximize chances of recovery for your loved one in a stroke-induced coma. We will discuss those steps next.
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MORE
https://clinicalconnection.hopkinsmedicine.org/news/innovations-in-stroke-care-and-rehabilitation

https://www.saebo.com/blog/9-ways-help-elderly-recover-stroke/

https://www.aplaceformom.com/caregiver-resources/articles/stroke-recovery

You and your wife continue to be remembered in prayer. That the Master Surgeon presides.
And through the resilience and adaptation of the human body; a relentless medical team, whose skill and innovation is lead by a higher power, she will prevail.

God Bless.

Docdon23 · M

@SethGreene531 Thank you for all of this. I will look it over when i can. Been sitting with her in hospital for 8 days now. She has not woken up at all...but we wait...

SethGreene531 · M

@Docdon23 You're quite welcome. I hope it brings you some reassurance and comfort.
Do not give up, continue researching.
At her bedside is where you're needed most right now. Hang in there, don't lose faith.

1pebbles · 56-60, F

Praying…. That she shows signs of awareness… the doctors can assess correctly… therapy… her will to recover and regain loss abilities and memories…. You and your families strength… a long road ahead… an unsure outcome and a new normal….

Having “recovered” from a traumatic brain injury… coma…. Relearning all my life skills … I know what she’ll be overcoming…

Docdon23 · M

@1pebbles Wow--I hope you are doing well now! I do still hold out hope. But the days are mounting with no improvement. We will see.

4meAndyou · F

Your best source of information is her doctor. He or she can tell you her chances of recovery.

There are also programs for caregivers of survivors of stroke. One is the National Stroke Association. There is also the American Stroke Association, and the Stroke Network.

All of these have educational outreach, and you can find out more about strokes and the rehabilitation process.

If you local hospital offers it, you might be able to join a support group and meet other people who are helping their loved ones recover from a stroke.

Docdon23 · M

@4meAndyou Thank you so much. Yes, I listen to her doctors, who are very good and honest. They say it is still too early to know...but the last 3 days seem to have been worse. I will certainly seek out one of the groups you mention--right now i sit with her all day....but the sadness and uncertainty are starting to sink in.

4meAndyou · F

@Docdon23 i am so sorry. 🤗

Grateful4you · M

PLEASE! Disregard stories of other hospital visitors who may be trying to be a comfort by sharing their experience, of course they mean well and I applaud those who try and offer peace and hope...stories of spontaneous healing, and other stories meant to give comfort.

Many such stories are true and indeed, probably did happen, every event has it's own unique circumstances, it's own outcomes for whatever reasons. Just remain in the moment, loving the person in front of you and cherish the beautiful times spent together. Affirm your gratitude that this beloved person has been a part of your life and will remain so forever.

She may not wake up...she does hear, she knows your touch, Those eyes that have seen so much of you over the years,...see you still. Eyes open wide, or eyes tightly shut, either way, they can still search the room and see you still. She knows you as you know her, She is as the ocean, the tides reaching forth, then receding then back again, thus it goes, out and in. It's good. It is life. Sad news, Happy news...Embrace each breath, Celebrate the happy news Aho. Celebrate the life Aho✌️🏽

Docdon23 · M

@Grateful4you Thank you. This is helpful. And I agree with you. I know people are well-intentioned--but some say, "don't worry she will get better" do not know how she is doing at all. And yes, nature and life are vibrant and alive, but also include death of every living entity, and births of new ones...

Vivaci

Sending you prayers….and hugs. 🫂

Hope she wakes up soon…hold her hand and talk to her. She’s hopefully able to respond to touch…

StarLily · 51-55, F

So very sorry to hear this news. Prayers and thoughts of healing being sent your way.🙏

TheOrionbeltseeker · 36-40, M

Sorry to hear that. She would be in my prayers.

Docdon23 · M

@TheOrionbeltseeker thank you

Ryderbike

Dying is a part of nature . Everything and everyone dies . It sounds like she had a good life, a good family and now it’s her time.

Carazaa · F

Please God, heal her. And give this man peace that he will be ok.
In Jesus name AMEN

UnderLockDown · M

Any improvements?

Docdon23 · M

@UnderLockDown no--day ten now--not awake at all...but I sit and hope. Thank you.

JimboSaturn · 51-55, M

So sorry to hear that.

Docdon23 · M

@JimboSaturn Thank you.

ShadowWorker · 61-69, F

My prayers for your wife and you.

Mooed78 · F

I am so sorry to read this..🙏

Gangstress · 41-45, F

So sorry 😞 🙏

DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F

i am so sorry

Iwillwait · M

I'm so sorry.

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

so sorry, have they given you any word about prognosis?

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samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

@Docdon23 is she breathing on her own?

Docdon23 · M

@samueltyler2 no--she is on a ventilator

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

@Docdon23 is she triggering the ventilator, have you had that discussion with the staff?

sunsporter1649 · 70-79, M

Oh my, had one myself, good recovery, I hope and pray your wife recovers soon like I was able. She will be in my prayers

nedkelly · 61-69, M

I am very sorry to read this about your wife, I believe she is at peace and is now waiting to be asked to come to heaven

Eddiesolds · 61-69, M

Gosh im so sorry. I pray for you two. I hope thing look up soon for you both. This is a heart breaker to read.🤗

carpediem · 61-69, M

That’s awful. So sorry for her condition. I advise seeking a therapist with grief experience.

robingoodfellow · M

So sorry to hear.
This is a small world here at SW but our prayers are big with you at this time.

Patientlywaiting · 46-50, FVIP

Sorry to hear this. Praying for you right now. Hope she wakes up and rehabilitation isn't too long ❤️

Carissimi · 70-79, F

I am so sorry. This must be so hard for you. I pray that your wife makes a full recovery. {hugs}

rrraksamam · 31-35, M

I'm so sorry to hear that.

I hope and pray that she will recover quickly

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

My sincerest condolences, I cannot imagine how you must feel. 💔
My prayers are with you

DunningKruger · 61-69, M

I'm sorry to hear it. This is tragic news. I hope you get news soon.

RubiesandButterflies · 51-55, F

So sorry to hear this I will pray for you both.

GovanDUNNY · M

I will get my mother and aunty to say prayers for you both and have candles lit as well .what are your first names

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Docdon23 · M

@PoetryNEmotion seriously?? You kick someone when they are down? What difference does it make what my real name is. I am in pain and you continue this nonsense? For shame.

Docdon23 · M

@PoetryNEmotion and I did not delete anything

GovanDUNNY · M

@Docdon23 its done and I also lit one myself and prayed . My Mother said it was a wonder I didnt burst into flames entering the church🤣

QCDog2659 · 61-69, M

I am sorry for these troubles

skybubble20 · 56-60, F

I hope she wakes up soon. Take care of yourself, too. You are very strong and your love for her will do good. Will pray for both of you. 🙏

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RubiesandButterflies · 51-55, F

@Docdon23 if you need someone to talk to about it feel free to message me. I don't like to envisage anyone in pain. Do you have any family with you?

Docdon23 · M

@RubiesandButterflies we have two grown kids and they are there some days...we have 5 grand kids but they are not allowed in, too young, probably the best.