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I used the cane and I now wonder if I was right to do so.

I was a teacher from the late 1960s until the late 1980s - a fairly short career as these things go although I was quite successful - spent my last few years as a Head Teacher.

Part of my job was to use corporal punishment. I believed then that I was doing this in the best interests of the children I taught and I'd like to continue to believe that. But I find myself in a world now where we're constantly being told this was bad for children and that worries me immensely. I just can't reconcile it with what I saw as a teacher. I saw it work. I saw it turn children around. I saw it help children. I really do think that's true. But I take psychological and pedagogical research seriously and I can't reconcile it with what I saw myself.

I am honestly horrified at the idea I might have harmed these children.
It was child abuse. Basically, hitting children teaches them that if you’re bigger and stronger you can justify striking someone to make them do what you want. So, of course you get compliance initially—kids are scared and humiliated. When I was a kid, especially in parochial school in the 60s, corporal punishment wasn’t illegal or unusual. But I believe it’s why so many people now have weird fetishes about being beaten or beating others. So clearly it isn’t healthy. I’m grateful that by the time I became a teacher it wasn’t being done at most schools anymore.
patioratio · 70-79, M
@bijouxbroussard Yes, I am - joined here today on the recommendation of somebody on Quora. Who also warned me of the same thing, but thank you, I will be aware.
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@patioratio Look at this poster’s groups, full of S&M themes. So it begins.
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patioratio · 70-79, M
@SW-User That's part of what I'm wondering about.

All my experience tells me this was positive or neutral at worst for my students. Overwhelmingly so. I know about quite a lot of my students and their lives after they left my care. I know how they turned out.

Yet, I'm constantly seeing things suggesting it should the other way around.

And I wonder why.
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That was abuse even if you didn’t know it.
Pfuzylogic · M
In Ohio you would have been arrested.
Pfuzylogic · M
@patioratio
I am chatting with a troll!
I ignored your previous.
patioratio · 70-79, M
@Pfuzylogic I'm no troll and I have no idea why you think posting a picture of me suggests I am.

What 'previous' are you talking about? At this point, have a clue what you're going on about.
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Brand new account, this is first post and manages to add ‘Corporal punishment’ ‘Sex’ and ‘Education’ out of just 9 groups. WEIRD!
Pfuzylogic · M
@PrettyFlamingos
He has earned 5 downvotes so far.
patioratio · 70-79, M
@PrettyFlamingos I am a retired Head Teacher who came here yesterday to post something about corporal punishment after this site was recommended to me. So choosing the Education group seemed an obvious choice. I didn't specifically choose the corporal punishment group - I got associated with that when I did a topic search as it was suggested I do and posted this message.

I did choose the 'Sex' group. Guess what? I have sex sometimes. I enjoy having sex. I am glad that I am in my 70s and still have an active sex life. I am not ashamed of this, I am not embarrassed about it. The site asked me to choose a certain number of groups - that one caught my eye while I was looking through it. I was actually looking for 'History' but that wasn't in the list I was being offered to choose from.

And I don't know why the obnoxious twit above is obsessed with how many 'downvotes' I have. Get a life!
cycleman · 61-69, M
you taught kids to be intimidated.

I am very thankful you were not in any schools I was in during that time.
Racism is another thing that was once considered to be acceptable - of course, we know better than to insult people based on their race today.

As far as punishment goes, as you are patiently trying to get across, what you did was in keeping with the times back then - and obviously, you know better than to do it today.

That's more than can be said about the teacher who hit me with a stick and got away with it after the practice was made illegal.

As for the good and bad of it, that's something that we can spend the rest of eternity debating because of what was acceptable at the time as far as punishment goes... not just at school, but at home, too.

As hard as it is for you, I think that the best thing you can do is to work on forgiving yourself for doing what you did... you were trying your best, within the framework of what was considered to be acceptable at the time.
Slade · 56-60, M
@HootyTheNightOwl Racism - the most meaningless, tiresome irrelevant term ever.

Shouldn't be. But its fetishists have made it so. YOU are at fault.

Great work virtue signalers
@Slade Go take a nap, Gramps... maybe, after you wake up, your one brain cell may function better and you will see exactly what I'm getting at with the comparison.
Slade · 56-60, M
@HootyTheNightOwl Bite me limey. Now get in line for your country's one orthodontist to straighten out your mocha colored tooth.

I stand by my statement on the meaningless of that term. Not good, but the truth
MrDobson · 70-79, M
I started teaching at an all boys school in 1976. At that point the cane was still used for discipline but only by a senior teacher, such as the Principal, Deputy Principal or Dean.

In 1981 I became the dean for third form (first year of high school). I think I was responsible for around 4 classes of 13-14 year old boys. I was glad that when my two years came to attend. As a Dean I was focused so much on the negative that it overshadowed any of the positive moments. At least with a senior dean one is writing support letters for scholarships and university housing applications, and helping boys select subjects and define potential career paths.

When I became a Dean again in the 90s I put in a reward system, where each week students were recognised and celebrated for their successes. This is something I wish I had championed sooner, but early in my career I was guilty of just following the system.

Corporal punishment in New Zealand schools was banned in 1987 and formerly abolished in 1990. I was glad when this law was passed. There are other teaching and discipline techniques that can used. I question how effective the cane really was in maintaining discipline because there were boys who saw the cane as badge of honour. I also remember a boy that was given after school community service saying he would have preferred to have been caned (not that he had ever experienced it). The community service was a more effective punishment than any caning would have been and he was giving back to his school community.
ServantOfTheGoddess · 61-69, M
People are very different from one another and I can imagine that for some specific people in a particular community under particular circumstances, yes, corporal punishment could have been helpful.

I also really feel your horror at the thought that you might have harmed the children you were responsible for and cared about.

But we all make mistakes and may have to confront unhappy truths. Supposing some of these children were helped, but others at best have unhappy memories about it and at worst, some level of trauma. Can you consider that you may need to repent in some way for the harm you did do?
patioratio · 70-79, M
@ServantOfTheGoddess If I could identify a single student who I believed I had harmed, I would be trying to do everything I could to contact them to apologise. But I can't. I honestly can't. That certainly doesn't mean they don't exist - I taught thousands of children and was head teacher to thousands I didn't directly teach. I caned hundreds of times over twenty odd years - even ten a year (and on average, it was more than that) would be two hundred - and most of the time I didn't cane any individual child more than once or twice (because if I had to keep doing it, it obviously wasn't working) so there'd probably be at least two hundred out there I caned and I haven't encountered all of them in adult life.

But I have encountered quite a few of them and none of them have ever complained about this. And quite a number of them have thanked me for what I did.

So I don't even feel like I can try and track them all down and apologise them because I think more of them would actually thank me than complain based on past experience, and that would just leave me even more conflicted about all this.

My own experiences as a boy as well - I was caned. And I was definitely personally somebody who I think it helped overall.
ServantOfTheGoddess · 61-69, M
@patioratio You [i]could[/i] try to contact as many of them as possible. But short of that you could just consider in your own mind that what you did, believing it was right, might actually have harmed some of them -- as psychological and pedagogical research, not to mention a lot of anecdotal evidence including from people in this thread -- suggests. That perhaps you really are not blameless, and that perhaps you have done some harm even while trying to do right.

I have to say that if I met up with one of the teachers I had who used humiliating corporal punishment on me, I don't think I would bring it up. What would be the sense of that? But if he asked me about it directly, I [i]might[/i] answer honestly. That it was awful and I see no good in it.
patioratio · 70-79, M
@ServantOfTheGoddess The idea of contacting people on some sort of fishing expedition about this doesn't really sit well with me. If I did harm any of them, I'd be worried I'd be more likely to reawaken things they wouldn't want to revisit.

As for the other - while no former pupil I've encountered has ever complained about me caning them, some have certainly complained about other things I did and with some justification. There were other things I definitely got wrong and regret. I wasn't perfect. My attitude towards children who had what we'd now call learning difficulties was - misguided to say the least during the early part of my career. I certainly do agree that there may be even more of them who haven't spoken up - and I have asked some who did answer one way or the other when I've had the chance, but I do feel that this should have come up and it hasn't.
nedkelly · 61-69, M
quite successful - at child abuse


If you had ANY BALLS you would not have used the cane in the first place


weak as piss as long as you got satisfied at hurting children
pentacorn · F
you should be horrified, and furthermore, this post is fodder for pedophile child-abuse fettishists. you should delete it immediately.
pentacorn · F
@Pfuzylogic exactly. and bingo!
patioratio · 70-79, M
@pentacorn I'm not a troll, nor am I a 'pedo'. Why do some people feel it so necessary to hurl foul imprecations at those they disagree with.

I can live with 'child abuser' because while I absolutely disagree I can understand why somebody could sincerely believe that any form of corporal punishment is abuse.

But thousands, if not millions of teachers, used corporal punishment until quite recently. In quite a few places they still do. Maybe there were some who did it for sexual gratification. Almost certainly. But most did not. They did it - as I did - because it was part of our job. Some of them may have even disagreed with it and still done it because it was expected - you don't always get to choose what your job requires you to do. Others - like myself at the time, even if I'm not sure now - actually believed we were doing good.

I'm not into 'child abuse fetishism' but it's hardly surprising if that's what this site is full of, when others are attacked in an obvious attempt to drive them away.
pentacorn · F
@patioratio because you're a child abuser.

of course you can live with it, because what's the alternative?

we're not talking about anyone but you.

so go away already. we don't want your kind here.
Caning was still legal when i started teaching in the early eignties and two kids that were causing problems in one of my classes were caned.
Didn’t think anything of it at the time and the threat of the cane was enough to keep me from misbehaving.
And the vast majority of us thought a caning was preferable to a more long drawn out punishment.A a show of hands amongst the sixth form when debating this very subject showed just one of us had not experienced corporal punishment.And all the staff had.Some of them had been caned in school.
But times change....and wnen it boils down to it the cane is a bit of a barbaric instrument of punishment.Causes more than just pain.And now i’m totally against corporal punishment.But i don’t think any of us who grew up in the sixties and seventies had any complaints about it at the time.It was just normal
I don’t think too many teachers from that time or earlier are worried about what they did either.
Dispite the bleeding hearts here I am going to say I am glad I got the cane at school and it was very well known form of punishment we all knew was there and some thought they can beat the system and be a smart arse.

I was one of them and getting the cane made me think of my future if I continued my wayward ways and would of most likely ended up in Jail
patioratio · 70-79, M
@Robynthebeautiful You do seem to be in the minority.

But I wonder how much of that is because it's quite obvious that anybody who expresses any view contrary to the mob on this site is likely to face bullying, and people trying desperately to dismiss them as 'trolls' because they can't actually come up with any real arguments.
ArishMell · 70-79, M
I admire your courage in questioning what had been considered normal in your past career.

Assuming you were sparing, just and careful; not just some cane-happy sadist, any you damaged were probably a small minority of those you punished.

The worst long-term damage physical punishment seems to inflict on children is to make them grow into adults with an ingrained desire to beat children - their own or others'. That's been known for ages, too: Charles Dickens touched on it in his [i]David Copperfield[/i].

Corporal punishment was a rare, fairly sparing last resort in the schools I attended (lines and detentions were the usual punishment) yet overall discipline was generally good. I think it was because the staff were able to instil respect rather than fear masquerading as "respect", in an atmosphere of mutual respect.
Piper · 61-69, F
I was a student in the 60's and 70's, and no teacher in any schools I attended hit students with a cane. I have no doubt that it happened in schools, and seriously doubt that such a practice really "turned children around" for the better.
Stick with you saw it turn some around. It’s Biblical…
patioratio · 70-79, M
@NoGamesTolerated Sorry - I shouldn't have implied that is what you said. But I have had the Biblical argument brought up before and while I'd like to claim that as some sort of justification, in good conscience, I can't.
@patioratio okay whatever.. feel bad… fine by me.
patioratio · 70-79, M
@NoGamesTolerated I'm sure you're trying to help - but if faith was going to reassure me on this one, it would have done so long ago. I've prayed on this many times. It helped me with other things. But not this. And I can't lie and say it has.
Caned4doz · 61-69, M
The fact that you have been questioning yourself about this demonstrates that you are basically a decent and caring individual. We all live in the world as we find it and we adapt/change with the times. There is no point in you judging and questioning your actions 40-60 years ago through today's lens. The world, attitudes and opinions were vastly different back then.

I attended six schools in my time, 3 in England and 3 in Australia. I received corporal punishment at all of them in some form or another, ranging from hand smacks on the back of bare legs when I first started at a Convent school in England, through to canings at my last school (a private Catholic boys school). Corporal punishment at the time was normal, expected and generally, accepted. I knew the rules and I also knew the consequences if I did not abide by them, so it was ultimately my choice.

I can understand your thinking about 'harming' and that can take various forms. Only the one on the receiving end of cp knows how it affects them, physically and mentally. The vast majority of kids that lived in the times when cp was normal have survived very well and gone on to lead fruitful and productive lives. You can't change the past.
ButterRobot · 51-55, M
It was the conventional wisdom at the time. Obviously we have moved on from there. I think its right to feel bad and reflect on it. .. but it was the times.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
It was wrong. Many kids who act out and are badly behaved at school are facing some kind of abuse elsewhere, usually at home. For many of those kids, school is the only place they feel safe. By giving them the strap, or caning them as you call it, is just another person abusing them and now they are no longer safe at school. There was so much ignorance over this subject decades ago. These kids, while they are the hardest to manage, need the most love and support and kindness
Sharon · F
CP was banned in UK state schools in 1987. Did you teach in a private school?

Some schools and teachers had a sexist policy of only beating boys. That was clearly abuse as they must have had some other way of disciplining girls that they could have used with boys too. The fact that they [b]chose[/b] to beat boys instead is strong evidence they were abusive perverts.

Some teachers (male and female) were just sadists who got their kicks from beating children, of either sex.
Miram · 31-35, F
Although I am not going to flag this thread because perhaps you're honestly trying to evaluate your past actions, comments in this thread justifying or encouraging violence against children will be flagged because it is against the TOS.

Whoever recommended this website to you for THIS particular topic should have explained you need to moderate this thread.
patioratio · 70-79, M
@Miram I'm happy to try and moderate. I was worried I'd be accused of trying to silence people.
Miram · 31-35, F
@patioratio

You will be accused of many things.

But one has to consider the bigger picture. The aggression you're facing comes from having to fight and limit a base of sadists that been taking advantage of anonymity to normalize behaviors that affect many negatively.

We have three groups.

-People who need to discuss this to make amends with their past actions.

-And we have people recovering from trauma, using this place as an outlet. And some of them responded to this thread.

-And we have people who hinder that recovery through many means.

The first group has to be considerate if they truly care to process the consequences. They are faced with much more responsibility because they have to be aware that some will without a doubt use this as an outlet to victimize those who were harmed by past notions of discipline.

As someone with a background in didactics and psychopedagy, I understand that many questions sadly required time and research to be answered to. Yes, yesterday such methods were seen as an ordinary part of classroom management but today we know better.

Saving just a few kids from life long trauma is worth it, even if there are those who weren't harmed by those ways.
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It was abuse. Striking a child, much less with an object, is never the answer. It will only leave scars on them.
purplepen · 51-55, F
Thank you for sharing. I am glad you are concerned although conflicted. My parents both used corporal punishment, both overdid it, but my mom overdid it worst.

My dad also cared about his children and taught us a lot of good things. I was traumatized by being over-punished, but I also appreciated the things he taught me. Sometimes one of the teaching methods is abusive, but that doesn't nullify whatever good they did otherwise.
GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M
It was just a different time. People were different then. What worked before might not work now because of how our society changed our beliefs over time. After living along time you see the way we conduct ourselves dramatically change when they younger generation cant because they only know whats current. You believe you did good by people and you saw it in them. Let go and focus on whats currently in your life.
Dombaby · 61-69, M
All sorts of harm: In 1975 my form room as a pupil was next to deputy head room, and we regularly heard the cane being used. If either deputy head had approached me outside that school, they'd have got an earful. One tried to approach and talk but I stopped him. I am sure he wanted to 'rewrite history' as in retirement he was a successful author. Teachers who want caning back have no place in the profession.
patioratio · 70-79, M
I'd like to thank the people who have commented on this post who have questioned what I did in the past, or even outright condemned it. I question it myself and if I was wrong, I may deserve to be condemned.

But as somebody who is new to this site, I wonder at the people who just seem to want to shut discussions down and who are willing to resort to some rather odd tactics to try and achieve this.

Yes, this is my first post. Everybody had to post here for the first time, everybody would have had a first post. I posted on this subject first because that was what I was discussing elsewhere when somebody recommended this site to me. I do intend to post about some other things, given time, but discussion here (both valuable and... less so) has taken much of my free time online over the last day. I haven't got around to posting anything else yet.
davidlewis · M
I am 63 - I remember many school beltings - over hands as was common in Scotland and other punishments. Often it was the best teachers who used the belt more. The very teachers who helped pupils above and beyond duty. One teacher taught Technical Drawing he was feared and respected. But worked hard to ensure all the boys leaving had jobs to go to and many boys enjoyed meeting him after leaving. Another teacher taught boxing at a club - I learned well from him as did others. He was a belt first and ask questions later man, When two former pupils goy in trouble with the law - car theft. He spoke on thier behalf in court. I think you would have a very similar approach.
jackcros · 70-79, M
@davidlewis i had teachers like that. They were strict and didn’t hesitate to give us a strapping, but, provided that we were trying our best, they would go out of their way to help us with our studies.
smiler2012 · 56-60
{@patioratio] you appear to be having a crisis of conscience over what you did whilst teaching .i am sure you never did this with any excess or malice and was the right thing to do at that precise time as a form of discipline
I wonder how you would feel if I started caning your head?
patioratio · 70-79, M
@AwakeningConfession221122 All right, maybe I got that wrong and it wasn't a threat.

But I certainly know what it was like to be caned as a child and I've never felt I was abused by it. If I did, I might be less doubtful about that being as common as people claim it is. But it doesn't match my experiences, or those I grew up with as far as I can see.
@patioratio but back to my question, hypothetically….. if I cane you’re head, do you think it will be abuse especially if I hit you hard?
patioratio · 70-79, M
@AwakeningConfession221122 It's an odd question but fair enough.

If you hit me hard enough in the head, I would consider that an assault. Abuse... not necessarily. Not in the way I'd use the word.
stepdaughterpunished · 31-35, F
u did fine. honestly, the academics know s**t.
loving caring discipline provides children with the knowledge that they matter
abuse that fulfills the perverted pleasure of the abuser is one thing
caring discipline structured for the concern of a Childs wellbeing is what is seriously lacking in todays society and we are now seeing the detrimental effects of it
your students benefited greatly from your care.
Justme264 · 70-79, M
I think it might be helpful if you could enymerate the numbers of children that cp appeared to help vs the numbers that did not change at all vs the numbers whose behaviuors worsened.

Otherwse, we jst get the "fors" and "agaist" bickering on with their fixed opinions that will never change
Sharon · F
@Justme264 A lot of the things my friends and I did were solely because of the adrenaline rush from the risk of getting the cane. The thrill would have been absent if we were only risking a severe telling off so we probably wouldn't have bothered misbehaving.
Justme264 · 70-79, M
@Sharon that is a powerful sensation certainly!
kodiac · 22-25, M
Do you think maybe what you were teaching them was if someone doesn't do what they want them to it's ok to hurt them? Seems odd it never entered your mind at the time it might be wrong.
patioratio · 70-79, M
@kodiac Well, yes, that is what I was teaching them. More specifically I was teaching them that children were expected to do what the adults in charge of them told them to do, and if they didn't, they would be punished. This wasn't a mystery to me. This was what society expected at the time.

And I'm still not sure it's wrong. The method I used may have been. But I don't believe children can be trusted to always make the best decisions about their own behaviour, and I think the adults in their lives sometimes have to tell them what to do, and sometimes enforce that.
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nickir · M
@kodiac Hahaha. This tired-ass trope. 1st of all, he said that the kids straightened up after caning & backed it up with his own experiences, which you failed to address. 2nd he only have 2 canings to any 1 kid. Again,not addressed. 3rd failure to show the success of the no corporal punishment solution because,of course, it isn't successful. Again, not addressed. 4th make at least a token attempt to do the math. (I know it's racist ROTFLMAO, but do it anyway).
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Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M
So, what are you going to do to make amends to those "kids"?

Contrition to us isn't going to keep you out of a living hell. You need to find them all and apologize. Chances are you won't get a lot of thanks.
patioratio · 70-79, M
@Tastyfrzz This is part of the reason I have doubts.

Because I have received a lot of thanks. Many of the children I taught have thanked me as an adult for what I did for them. Including caning them. Some have specifically sought me out to do so, others, it has come up when I've encountered them in later life.

Not one of them has ever told me I did them any harm by caning them. Not one. That doesn't mean there aren't some of them out there who feel that way, of course - I haven't had contact with every single person I ever taught, and some of those I have might not have chosen to bring up such feelings for all I know.

But my experience really does support the opposite conclusion.
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May I ask are you from the UK
Most heads only used it as a last resort and has to think of the other students in the school.
Sharon · F
@SW-User [quote]Most heads only used it as a last resort [/quote]
That's only what they said, in fact it was usually the first or only resort. Some schools totally exempted girls so, obviously, they had other methods that they had total confidence in and could have used with boys too. The fact that they [b]chose[/b] to cane boys instead speaks volumes about their deceit.

That was futher demonstrated when, following the European Court of Human Rights' ruling, it was proposed that parents be given the right to prohibit schools using corporal punishment on their children. Headteachers dishonestly claimed it would put them in an impossible position as they could be faced with two students having committed the same offence but could only cane one of them. That was [b]exactly[/b] the situation they could face when they exempted girls and, what's more, as the two groups were of approximately equal size, had the greatest probability of occurring.
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JohnOinger · 41-45, M
At that time it was acceptable but not anymore it's abuse
a nun used to hit my mom with a ruler..
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
You were abusing them. You 100% screwed them up emotionally. This day and age, you would be put in prison and rightly so.

I had a teacher slap me across my hands with a ruler and I have never forgotten it.
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Pfuzylogic · M
@nickir I am not going to get into a conversation about your favorite deviant behavior. I should have noted your profile first and the depth of what you provide.
nickir · M
@Pfuzylogic But a careful perusal (that's reading) of your post cannot find 1 actual refutation of any point I brought up. Funny, hunh? An inarticulate bully. Where have I seen that before. Mostly in the schools following what you advocate. LOL
Pfuzylogic · M
@nickir
Again, develop your argument to where you look like you are serious. This “refutation” is that of a perv.
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patioratio · 70-79, M
@Mrsbetweenfatandfit I have no idea why your sensible comment was hidden - at least I can open it up.

I do wonder at what type of school environments you've taught in. I taught in very tough schools. I was made a head teacher with the specific instruction to turn a failing school with terrible discipline problems around. And it did turn around. I can't say what would have happened if I'd taken a different approach. All I can say is what I did shows every sign that it worked.

I also look at modern schools and while they may not use corporal punishment anymore they often seem to rely far more on suspensions/exclusions that used to be the case - not saying that's something you'd support but I think there are worse approaches with far worse potential consequences that are sometimes being used now far more than they used to be.

I've only joined this site today, but on another site I frequent, I have found it odd and disturbing how many adults do seem to be obsessed with corporal punishment in a way that doesn't seem healthy to me. But so many of the stories these people tell - frankly I don't believe most of them. They are so far beyond what I know was normal practice, I think most of them are just fantasies and if anything, they suggest to me that these people likely have very little real experience of corporal punishment as a child - if they did, they wouldn't be so out of touch with the reality.
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