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I used the cane and I now wonder if I was right to do so.

I was a teacher from the late 1960s until the late 1980s - a fairly short career as these things go although I was quite successful - spent my last few years as a Head Teacher.

Part of my job was to use corporal punishment. I believed then that I was doing this in the best interests of the children I taught and I'd like to continue to believe that. But I find myself in a world now where we're constantly being told this was bad for children and that worries me immensely. I just can't reconcile it with what I saw as a teacher. I saw it work. I saw it turn children around. I saw it help children. I really do think that's true. But I take psychological and pedagogical research seriously and I can't reconcile it with what I saw myself.

I am honestly horrified at the idea I might have harmed these children.
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I wonder how you would feel if I started caning your head?
patioratio · 70-79, M
@AwakeningConfession221122 I wonder why you feel the need to threaten somebody with physical violence, absolutely secure in the knowledge, you'd never actually have to face them.
@patioratio I said imagine, dickhead. Or “wonder how you feel” just wether you think it may be abuse.
patioratio · 70-79, M
@AwakeningConfession221122 All right, maybe I got that wrong and it wasn't a threat.

But I certainly know what it was like to be caned as a child and I've never felt I was abused by it. If I did, I might be less doubtful about that being as common as people claim it is. But it doesn't match my experiences, or those I grew up with as far as I can see.
@patioratio but back to my question, hypothetically….. if I cane you’re head, do you think it will be abuse especially if I hit you hard?
patioratio · 70-79, M
@AwakeningConfession221122 It's an odd question but fair enough.

If you hit me hard enough in the head, I would consider that an assault. Abuse... not necessarily. Not in the way I'd use the word.