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I used the cane and I now wonder if I was right to do so.

I was a teacher from the late 1960s until the late 1980s - a fairly short career as these things go although I was quite successful - spent my last few years as a Head Teacher.

Part of my job was to use corporal punishment. I believed then that I was doing this in the best interests of the children I taught and I'd like to continue to believe that. But I find myself in a world now where we're constantly being told this was bad for children and that worries me immensely. I just can't reconcile it with what I saw as a teacher. I saw it work. I saw it turn children around. I saw it help children. I really do think that's true. But I take psychological and pedagogical research seriously and I can't reconcile it with what I saw myself.

I am honestly horrified at the idea I might have harmed these children.
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kodiac · 22-25, M
Do you think maybe what you were teaching them was if someone doesn't do what they want them to it's ok to hurt them? Seems odd it never entered your mind at the time it might be wrong.
patioratio · 70-79, M
@kodiac Well, yes, that is what I was teaching them. More specifically I was teaching them that children were expected to do what the adults in charge of them told them to do, and if they didn't, they would be punished. This wasn't a mystery to me. This was what society expected at the time.

And I'm still not sure it's wrong. The method I used may have been. But I don't believe children can be trusted to always make the best decisions about their own behaviour, and I think the adults in their lives sometimes have to tell them what to do, and sometimes enforce that.
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nickir · M
@kodiac Hahaha. This tired-ass trope. 1st of all, he said that the kids straightened up after caning & backed it up with his own experiences, which you failed to address. 2nd he only have 2 canings to any 1 kid. Again,not addressed. 3rd failure to show the success of the no corporal punishment solution because,of course, it isn't successful. Again, not addressed. 4th make at least a token attempt to do the math. (I know it's racist ROTFLMAO, but do it anyway).