Consenting adults can do what they want and it is none of anyone elses business

No. To each their own. As long as they’re consenting adults why should an age gap matter?

@HannahSky and @deadgerbil

Nope. My half brother married a girl twenty years younger than he at 55. Had two kids even.

I never married.

If it works for both, then it's none of my business.

Wait until your 44..
sex with a 20 year old might seem cool.
But the conversations are left wanting…
Like OH EM GEE.. I can’t even right now

I think they're fine .

I wouldn't go for one myself but aslong as both parties are cool with it, then I'm not really bothered.

If both parties are of legal age and consenting then it's not predatory. Gross is subjective...I respect that you think that but many people do not.

What 2 conscenting adults do to themselves isn't my concern.
When i was 17 she was 34 and i wasn't manipulated or preyed upon.

All relationships make me want to puke

Before learning the psychology behind grooming predators I said like everyone else "Not my business" "Age is just a number" "As long as they're 18+ I don't mind"

But now with all the facts out on the table I do react on people who deliberately wanna date someone 10-15-20 years younger than them.

People think grooming only can happen to a minor but that's false. Grooming can happen to young adults too. Where the other partner deliberately choose an insecure younger person to easily control and manipulate them in to a marriage. And lock them in.

I'm turning 32 soon and I could never even consider dating a 19+y old who just graduated high school. To me that's still a kid. It feels really weird that I as a 30+y old don't wanna meet a partner my own age who has the same amount of time and life experience as me and so we are equals in the relationship instead of one adult and one kid.

Everyone I know who have been groomed as young adults or as teens have a history of sexual abuse or other kinds of abuse from childhood. Easy targets by predators as they are so easily manipulated and don't know what boundaries are or that they have a fawn response rather than their own will and they don't even know it.

So long they're consenting adults, it's not really hurting anything. There are far worse things that are actually predatory to vomit over...

If the younger person is 18+ then no it doesn't make me sick. As most people at that instinctively know if they wish to have relations with someone older.

Also Contrary to popular beliefs it's very often the younger person who does the pursuing & it's the older person who has to be convinced .😉

An 18 year old crushing on someone older is kinda normal. Someone my age crushing on an 18 year old is -fucking weird-.

I don't care if say, a 35 and 50 year old get together the power relationship ain't a thing at that point.

as long as they are both legal, its none of my business. however, they arent for me, i prefer to date women closer to my own age.

who are you to judge if it's legal?

No it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

no. My boyfriend is 43 lol

yup, i can't imagine myself dating an 18 year old (i'm 20) maybe i'll care less when I'm older. but i grow a lot every single year so it's hard imagining wanting to be with someone younger by even just two years.

My parents started dating when my dad was in his 30s and my mom was in high school. Until just recently, I thought nothing of it, but now I find it extremely unsettling

My first thought "I bet this person is young."
18-21.
Yep!

[b]how big of a gap are you talkingg about?[/b] from people in your stated age croup age gap sometimes means like 3 years. a High School attitude so are you worried about a freshman/Senior kind of thing?
or is it more


that is what they USED to say about
Homosexuals
Lesbians
and people that dated "out side their race"

right up there with "Homos are pedophiles, "
it assumes there is no consent between persons of different ages
tho there can be power inequity issues for some
for others, there are many additional issues

tbh i have "dated" my age,,and, younger than me, and older than me, [i]over 20 years[/i]
lets talk more about this?

Are they consenting adults, free to make decisions on their own, without any kind of pressure? If so, it’s no one’s business but their own.

What makes me gag is the reason for the age gap! Like very old men with very young women, and they simply want money and would do anything to have it! It could be a boy with a rich woman as well.

Other than selfish reasons like I’ve listed, if they are both of age and consenting adults, tho it may seem weird, it’s none of my business.

Someone told me a while back: “ Love is hard to find in this old world, and one must seize it however it presents itself if both parties consent and are adults”.

I could not refute it.

You need a hobby

There are many types of relationships. Platonic, professional, romantic, sexual. Then of course, there's friendship and that also includes intergenerational friendship. Back when I was in grade school, I had the rare opportunity of knowing a part-time teacher's assistant who prior to his teaching career, was a soldier in the Canadian Army in the Second World War, having served in the North African Campaign.

There is a 10 year age gap between my brother and his wife. That's not so bad.

Generally yes unless both are well into adulthood like 30 & 45
or 40 & 60

Yes, they do. And the nausea gets worse the older I get

I'd like to believe its true love but the money flow says otherwise

I don’t give a shit honestly ..

As long as it's legal it turns me on.

Depends on how big the age gap is

Oh, we won't see everything eye to eye then

The woman I love and want to marry is 23, I'm 40

She's been my best friend since she was like 17 (we were friends since she was 16, lived at the same apartment complex and were part of the same friend group there)

My ex, well I don’t know if I can really call her an ex since i never saw her irl. She was 26 years older. I was sick in the head I guess. Wouldnt happen again

i got to take exception to this.
why should I date "inside my age group" when there are those outside it that are enthusiastic about being with me. more fun, less "couch time"

It becomes a bigger issue when one individual is into declining years and the other is thriving. It doesn't make me sick, but I'm sorry for them.

It’s very likely that those relationships have nothing to do with love and everything to do with reproductive desires.

Depends on the ages of the people involved. As long as they started dating AFTER becoming and adult, I don't see the problem.

Depends on the ages and the gap. I'm personally not into them I prefer someone my own age or a little older.

No, my fiancé is 11 years younger.

Now, would I date someone that’s 20? No, never. They’re too immature.

Not really. Depends on how big the gap is and how predatory either side may be

My girlfriend is 7 1/2 years younger than me. We have an incredible relationship.

even if it's a 40 year old woman and a 25 yr old man ?

How much of a gap are you talking about here?

It doesn't have to be the way you are describing 🙃

Makes u wonder how do they even work

As long as they are both adults

I agree very disgusting