Do you think many men equate love with S*x?

The younger the man, the more it's about sex - with the exception of some very sweet 18+ year olds who have no interest in sex except in the context of love. Worldwide, they're rare. For most, their testosterone in youth is like that of a young stallion, a constant nagging drive selectively leashed by human cultural values.

As they get a bit older, 28+, most begin to prefer to combine sex with a loving relationship, but it will start with feeling physically attracted. He wouldn't consider a relationship with someone with whom he didn't feel the instant spark. For him the relationship starts and evolves because of that attraction.

By the time a man is 80 to 90 he mainly wants love - a cook, housekeeper, nurse, clothes mender, laundress, chauffeur, confidant & big ear for his interests, a shopper, secretary and accountant all in one package, preferably free with marriage.

I've been blessed. My man does love me. I'd say he's one of the 15%.

But for those hunting for love, 15% of around 150 milion men in the USA is still a fair bit of choice.

Women are ruled by estrogen, men by testosterone. When we come together for differing initial motivations, we end up sharing hormones via kissing and other activities. Not a lot of hormonal exchange, just enough to bridge the gap. Men develop more of a soft, loving side and women's sex drives go up. Hopefully, we meet in the middle. The love bond happens gradually for both during courtship.

I equate "love" more to being able to enjoy a simple evening with someone without all the tedious dating rituals/cons, genuinely sharing interests/goals/hobbies/beliefs without it being "forced" for the sake of a relationship, and just enjoying each others company without a bunch of needless talk...

I can't speak for other men, but as for me, if she isn't attractive, then I'm NOT interested in sex with her!

What is attractive?
(1) intelligence
(2) humorous
(3) caring
(4) honesty
(5) loyalty
(6) curvy

Probably a lot of men, maybe most. Love, for me, is a lot more than sex. I loved her for years before we had sex together.

Yes I believe this to be true for the men that don’t understand what true love is

I certainly don't. A relationship is the whole human package, sex is just a small part of it.

I’d take the 85% thing with a grain of salt. This site is full of trolls and home of the diaper lovers and whatnot.. I guess I could see how some guys might mix up lust and love, especially if sex happens fast, but I don’t think most men only want sex. Some just don’t know the difference yet

I don't think they have much to do with each other. Sex is for fun. Love hurts.

A lot of men don’t know the difference. I have a high sex drive and men crave me at the start of relationships. They think they’re in love and I fall for it every time.

SW isn’t a good sample to draw conclusions from honestly.

But I think many men do conflate intimacy with sex.

I think more women seem to equate the two while men seem more bale to separate them.

I remember some when I was young that fit that picture. I could never imagine having sex unless as part of love.

Interesting!

Most would definitely want to look at sex before looking for a friendship or a partner to share everything with. So I would say, Yes

I can only speak for myself but who cares what I think?
Besides, I need to shave before I head out to the bar... 🤭

If the lust isn’t there the friendship won’t last. You can’t build chemistry.

I dont know but i do

Not for me, it was just about sex. I didn't really know what love was for a long time.

Maybe the younger generation do more than they should.

Men come from MARS WOMEN FROM.. it's not that men don't have feelings ,it's their approach is different than women no wonder most men are so possesive of their women.

I think men are smarter than you suggest

If you like each other, its enough ,sex isnt a sin

SEX. Say it loud and proud. There’s nothing dirty or taboo about it.

Men need sex to feel loved.

Love is but sex misspelled.

younger men, no. as they get older, its about 50/50

I know what sex means, but do you know what love means, Coralmist?

I’d sex a sausage McMuffin

Men use love for sex, women use sex for love, according to Dr. Ruth Westheimer in the 80's.