Do you think many men equate love with S*x?

Not all ...but many?

I remember many men here at SW said they believe 85% of men roughly, try to enter a relationship, for mainly sex. It saddens me because many men and I will not be on the same wavelength. I need friendship and a true loving Bond FIRST.
Do you think many also feel they love someone but Really are feeling lust, if they are getting frequent s*x?

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hartfire · 61-69

The younger the man, the more it's about sex - with the exception of some very sweet 18+ year olds who have no interest in sex except in the context of love. Worldwide, they're rare. For most, their testosterone in youth is like that of a young stallion, a constant nagging drive selectively leashed by human cultural values.

As they get a bit older, 28+, most begin to prefer to combine sex with a loving relationship, but it will start with feeling physically attracted. He wouldn't consider a relationship with someone with whom he didn't feel the instant spark. For him the relationship starts and evolves because of that attraction.

By the time a man is 80 to 90 he mainly wants love - a cook, housekeeper, nurse, clothes mender, laundress, chauffeur, confidant & big ear for his interests, a shopper, secretary and accountant all in one package, preferably free with marriage.

I've been blessed. My man does love me. I'd say he's one of the 15%.

But for those hunting for love, 15% of around 150 milion men in the USA is still a fair bit of choice.