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1954zebedee · 70-79, M
You need out ASAP. Find a partner who makes allowance for your feelings.
nowic2 · 61-69, M
He flipped out because you were upset about his cheating behaviour & he wants you to feel disgusting. The longer you are together the worse it will get as he continues to lose respect for you, if he really ever had any. Get out now before it degenerates into physical abuse. That's on the way if you stay.
All the best.
All the best.
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@SW-User yes ma’am
@SW-User
No dear, not all men are the same any more than all women are the same.
No dear, not all men are the same any more than all women are the same.
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@Pikachu irdc what other people think, i can assure you that
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Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
I think you know all the answers, it's just really hard to act on them....
If you were promised a monogamous relationship then that's what you both agreed to.. he can't just change that without consulting you. And if you disagree and want what was promised then that does not make you disgusting in any way!
It's a classic manipulation technique to get angry and blame the other person when you have been caught doing something you know you shouldn't...
If you were promised a monogamous relationship then that's what you both agreed to.. he can't just change that without consulting you. And if you disagree and want what was promised then that does not make you disgusting in any way!
It's a classic manipulation technique to get angry and blame the other person when you have been caught doing something you know you shouldn't...
TheArbitrator · 36-40, M
@SweetMae Women's shelter? Have you ever been to one? They're horrible.
smiler2012 · 56-60
{@kindaneedhelp] there there this is none of your fault and do not let him send you on a guilt trip when he has been caught red handed cheating . i assume he is your partner / boyfriend and you are not married if you have no financial ties involving the both of you i suggest you pack up your thing and go back to either your parents or see if you can stay with a friend until you can get back on your feet.you need to kick this guy into touch rapid as any relationship involving him will never work as he lacks any total commitment and just wants to play the field . he is basically a louse who is a waste of oxygen
Spoiledbrat · F
He just asked why more people aren’t asking for clarification. Some people are really jealous. He (the so) may not have meant any harm at all. @smiler2012
smiler2012 · 56-60
@Spoiledbrat so basically we are jumping on the band wagon to give this woman help and advice she has asked for without knowing both sides of the story
TheArbitrator · 36-40, M
@Spoiledbrat Some people enjoy ruining other people's relationships, especially when they've been hurt and have the mindset that they will never find happiness. A lot of relationships/marriages that could have been salvaged, have been wrecked because of someone giving bad advice. I'm not advocating that anyone remain in an unhappy relationship but as the says goes - the grass isn't always greener - and often times, it isn't.
I have seen bitter single mothers convince other women to leave their husbands - tearing the whole family apart - no consideration for the kids who are involved. I'm not saying anyone should remain in an unhappy marriage solely for the kids, but when children are involved, I do believe they should be considered. I have also seen couples who were at brink point make a decision to work things out and now they're happy.
Sometimes people are just unhappy no matter who they're with and they blame their significant other. They enter into the next relationship - it works for a while; then again, they're unhappy. They find reasons to accuse and leave. This cycle doesn't end until person realizes they're the reason for their own unhappiness.
I have seen bitter single mothers convince other women to leave their husbands - tearing the whole family apart - no consideration for the kids who are involved. I'm not saying anyone should remain in an unhappy marriage solely for the kids, but when children are involved, I do believe they should be considered. I have also seen couples who were at brink point make a decision to work things out and now they're happy.
Sometimes people are just unhappy no matter who they're with and they blame their significant other. They enter into the next relationship - it works for a while; then again, they're unhappy. They find reasons to accuse and leave. This cycle doesn't end until person realizes they're the reason for their own unhappiness.
kindaneedhelp · 26-30, F
I have no one else, I’m heavily pregnant with his child and can’t think of a way to fully get away from him @ozgirl512
BadLion · 51-55, M
Talk to him straight forward about your feelings.
If you can't or don't find a way to let him know your feelings, then this relationship is not real.
If you can't or don't find a way to let him know your feelings, then this relationship is not real.
bijouxbroussard · F
@BadLion Read her post rather than making her repeat herself:
I’ve made a couple of posts about how I’m struggling with my relationship, however it somehow got even worse tonight after I caught him messaging other women and he absolutely flipped out on me and called my disgusting for getting upset and crying over it, he made me feel like dirt for wanting a monogamous relationship with him like he promised me when we first got together.
I’m trapped and have no idea how to get out.
I can’t live like this, he makes me feel so horrible about myself, yet I still love him and want him, it’s tearing me apart.
I’m trapped and have no idea how to get out.
I can’t live like this, he makes me feel so horrible about myself, yet I still love him and want him, it’s tearing me apart.
Nobody00 · F
Just leave and find someone better period. Life is too short for lousy man and you will never be 25 again. Don't hang on to that promise in the beginning...its like air poof and gone
Northwest · M
I’m trapped and have no idea how to get out.
Why do you believe you're trapped? Do you have kids? Are you married? Are you financially dependent on him? Are there are circumstances that make you dependent on him?
Raine · F
You will have a lifetime of hell if you stay with him. Some people have to carry on this way to give themselves a weird sense of confidence, and destroy the confidence of others. You are young and can start again.
So... sit him down and talk through it, without getting angry. Effective communication can solve most relationship problems if you are both prepared to put the work into it. 🤷♀️
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
Get out. Get away from this guy as fast as you can, anyway you can. Put aside any feelings you have for him and understand that he doesn't care about you. He's just using you.
Spoiledbrat · F
Our they platonic conversations?
It doesn’t sound like your happy together. Can’t you go back home?
It doesn’t sound like your happy together. Can’t you go back home?
Earthwrap · 41-45, M
Trapped is being in a North Korean prison.
SW-User
Dump his ass. Get a vibrator.
ViciDraco · 36-40, M
Sounds like you either need to embrace that he is going to be seeing other women or cut things off here and find someone else who wants the style of relationship you are seeking.
I'd lean towards cutting out. A polyamorous person who loves and cares about their partner is going to be willing to spend the time to understand and communicate with them. This is a guy who neglects you until he wants something and is running around behind your back. That makes him trash. I can't make you take the garbage to the curb, but your home is going to stink if you don't.
I'd lean towards cutting out. A polyamorous person who loves and cares about their partner is going to be willing to spend the time to understand and communicate with them. This is a guy who neglects you until he wants something and is running around behind your back. That makes him trash. I can't make you take the garbage to the curb, but your home is going to stink if you don't.
bijouxbroussard · F
TheArbitrator · 36-40, M
99% of these women on here who are telling you to leave have probably discovered their own boyfriends messaging other women at some point, or probably oblivious to the facts. You caught him messaging another woman; okay, I understand your concern, but why is everyone here so ready to condemn this guy? 🤣 What did he say to the other woman?
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
@TheArbitrator you seem to be overlooking his reaction....
TheArbitrator · 36-40, M
@ozgirl512 I'm not overlooking his reaction but we don't have all the facts. What did he say to the other woman? Did he say something inappropriate? And why was she snooping through his phone to begin with? I'm not going to condemn someone or take sides without all the facts.
Spoiledbrat · F
I suggested she move out because of how unhappy she seems. Even if he hasn’t cheated or crossed a line, she seems unhappy. How long is she going to stay this way. She’s putting herself in limbo. @TheArbitrator
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