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Found out he’s messaging other women

I’ve made a couple of posts about how I’m struggling with my relationship, however it somehow got even worse tonight after I caught him messaging other women and he absolutely flipped out on me and called my disgusting for getting upset and crying over it, he made me feel like dirt for wanting a monogamous relationship with him like he promised me when we first got together.
I’m trapped and have no idea how to get out.
I can’t live like this, he makes me feel so horrible about myself, yet I still love him and want him, it’s tearing me apart.

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SW-User

all men are the same, just different flavors. find a new one and replace him

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bijouxbroussard · F

@SW-User If they’re all the same, what’s the point of getting a new one ? The hope is for a better one.

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SW-User

@bijouxbroussard bc the desire will always be there. just find a new one every time you use up the old one. “better ones” rarely ever come along. live your life until he finds you.

bijouxbroussard · F

@SW-User But the point is, they’re not all the same. If a woman thinks they are, she’ll accept the same kind of treatment.

SW-User

@bijouxbroussard and if you think that “this one is different” you’ll end up looking stupid like the last time. i’d rather be guarded and safe.

bijouxbroussard · F

@SW-User Don’t date at all and really be safe. Or just keep your eyes open and react accordingly. The way one lives life in general.

SW-User

@bijouxbroussard again, the desire will always be there

IloveJ · M

@SW-User thanks for labeling all men because there are a few jerks out there

SW-User

@IloveJ you're welcome

bijouxbroussard · F

@SW-User Desire and behavior are not the same thing. I’ve had some pretty good experiences in 61 years. Maybe it’s been a combination of careful and lucky. But it hasn’t involved cynicism and bitterness—nobody, man or woman, wants to deal with that.

IloveJ · M

@SW-User they say

You reap what you sow

TheArbitrator · 36-40, M

@SW-User And you use up yourself too, by the time you are 45, you have slept around with 50 men and nobody wants you.

SW-User

@bijouxbroussard you'd be surprised. i get the right to be bitter after getting torn down so many times. i don't believe all men are the same. it's too rare that that they're not. so i'll go in with the assumption they are the same until he proves otherwise. idrc if it's toxic, literally no man in my life has been a so called "good man." they'll always fold under the right circumstances.

SW-User

@IloveJ they also say that

i don't give a single fuck

SW-User

@TheArbitrator ah yes, the slut shaming flavor of men. one of my favorites, a shame that i'm a teenaged virgin so you just look foolish

nowic2 · 61-69, M

@SW-User I feel sorry for your limited experience if it tells you all men are the same. There are definitely some good men out there who will support their partner to grow rather than abuse her & blame her for his limitations.

SW-User

@nowic2 i agree, they def exist but it's too rare.

TheArbitrator · 36-40, M

@SW-User What are you talking about? She's obviously not a virgin if she's living with the man so your situation is irrelevant. You are the one who claim that all men are the same and if she finds another man, she will inevitable have to deal with the same BS, hence, she should just whore-hop the rest of her life. Is that your plan? Or do you plan on becoming a lesbian?

SW-User

@TheArbitrator this is my comment and you used the word "you" so yes, you were talking to me sir.

and yet, you still slut shamed.

thanks for proving my point. all men are the same, different flavors.

TheArbitrator · 36-40, M

@SW-User

I'm not slut shaming. I'm just telling the truth; if the slut feels shamed, maybe she should stop being a slut.

TheArbitrator · 36-40, M

@SW-User It was your suggestion that she become a slut.

SW-User

@TheArbitrator r/cuckold

SW-User

Conclusion to this thread is men are trash now move along

bijouxbroussard · F

@SW-User I’m sorry that’s been your experience, especially so young. Older men who prey on young women are not the best representatives of the gender.

SW-User

@SW-User yes ma’am

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