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Found out he’s messaging other women

I’ve made a couple of posts about how I’m struggling with my relationship, however it somehow got even worse tonight after I caught him messaging other women and he absolutely flipped out on me and called my disgusting for getting upset and crying over it, he made me feel like dirt for wanting a monogamous relationship with him like he promised me when we first got together.
I’m trapped and have no idea how to get out.
I can’t live like this, he makes me feel so horrible about myself, yet I still love him and want him, it’s tearing me apart.

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smiler2012 · 61-69

{@kindaneedhelp] there there this is none of your fault and do not let him send you on a guilt trip when he has been caught red handed cheating . i assume he is your partner / boyfriend and you are not married if you have no financial ties involving the both of you i suggest you pack up your thing and go back to either your parents or see if you can stay with a friend until you can get back on your feet.you need to kick this guy into touch rapid as any relationship involving him will never work as he lacks any total commitment and just wants to play the field . he is basically a louse who is a waste of oxygen

TheArbitrator · 36-40, M

@smiler2012

he has been caught red handed cheating

messaging another woman means he's been caught red handed cheating? How old are you really?

smiler2012 · 61-69

@TheArbitrator that quote came from the person who posted this . for your information it is a common occurence in some of us men i know from my sisters partner who was doing precisely the same until my sister found him out so please do not try to be too clever in future

Spoiledbrat · F

He just asked why more people aren’t asking for clarification. Some people are really jealous. He (the so) may not have meant any harm at all. @smiler2012

smiler2012 · 61-69

@Spoiledbrat so basically we are jumping on the band wagon to give this woman help and advice she has asked for without knowing both sides of the story

TheArbitrator · 36-40, M

@Spoiledbrat Some people enjoy ruining other people's relationships, especially when they've been hurt and have the mindset that they will never find happiness. A lot of relationships/marriages that could have been salvaged, have been wrecked because of someone giving bad advice. I'm not advocating that anyone remain in an unhappy relationship but as the says goes - the grass isn't always greener - and often times, it isn't.

I have seen bitter single mothers convince other women to leave their husbands - tearing the whole family apart - no consideration for the kids who are involved. I'm not saying anyone should remain in an unhappy marriage solely for the kids, but when children are involved, I do believe they should be considered. I have also seen couples who were at brink point make a decision to work things out and now they're happy.

Sometimes people are just unhappy no matter who they're with and they blame their significant other. They enter into the next relationship - it works for a while; then again, they're unhappy. They find reasons to accuse and leave. This cycle doesn't end until person realizes they're the reason for their own unhappiness.