What do you do?

I dont think we stop grieving people we love we just learn to live with the hurt and build a life around their absence. So sorry to hear that you lost your mom. Its a terrible loss
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Perhaps write her a letter, tell her how you feel. Don't be afraid to sorrow. Cry if you feel like it. Weep, let your emotions flow. Find a good friend to talk with. Don't be afraid to grieve. You loss is real and it tales time to resolcve it. Cling to your precious memories and smile at the little things that were special to the two of you. Share your feelings with people who care for you. May God bring you Peace and Comfort in Your time of sorrow. Joseph

*hugs* i just went through exactly.. all of this not too long ago myself.. my mother passed away christmas of 2021.. it happened suddenly also... im convinced the moderna jabs killed her..
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But this isnt about me..
I did all the same things.. the disbelief.. the voicemails.. dissasociating.. somehow i made it through all of her funeral arrangements and everything before i finally broke down.. i think i held it all in until it was over with so i could just get through it.. it has been a year and a half now and i can say it has gotten easier over time.. it still hurts.. but i don't think that will ever go away.. the scar makes me wonder if this is what holocaust survivors must feel like... it is a deep scar and i don't know if it will ever heal.. but it does get easier to bear over time.. i promise.
*hugs* you will make it through this.
We may be strangers.. but you are not alone.

My deepest heartfelt condolences. I know this is so hard on you. I will keep you and your family in prayers. I am so sorry this happened.

You said you won't see her again but your mom is in heaven so you'll see her again. Don't concern yourself about how long grieving takes. There's no set rule so you shouldn't rush this and don't allow people to tell you how long you should grieve. There's no wrong way. If you need an ear, send me a message. I don't have all the answers but I'm a very good listener and I want you to know that I do love and care about you. I will definitely pray for you and the family. I'm sure there are people that love you here as well and let's get through this together, okay? You're not alone and the best thing of all is that God is with you, he understands you and what you're going through, and He will comfort you and give you the strength to get through this, I pray. Most of all please take good care of yourself during this time and please don't feel guilty about anything. Take one day at a time , one moment at a time and you will do fine . Remember family will be there for you as well . But most of all God will be there with you at all times. ❤🤗🤗🤗😘😘😘🌹🌹🌹

Grieve her,, don't try to shut it in..

And yes the process does finish in time.. Different times for different people.. And later on you will be going about your normal day and suddenly something will spark a memory about her and there will be a small moment of pain but these moments will quickly pass..

May the LORD be with you in your grief and may He help you through it.. May peace return to your heart..

I am so sorry for your loss. The first thing to do is contact her immediately family. Then the coroner to get a timeline for releasing the body, you can help with all of this. Stay in contact with your loved ones and be there for each other. The grieving process is just beginning..

Everyone grieves in their own way, and for different periods of time. Don't feel you have to meet other people's standards, with one exception. Do attend her funeral, but not because your absence would be so jarring to others; because you will regret it the rest of your life. Assuming you have a say in her funeral arrangements, focus on making sure it is what she would have wanted even if it was not having a funeral. My late wife did not want a funeral, a rosary, or any other "death ceremony" with what she called the "professional Sicilian wailers"; that a celebration of life would be OK as long it included food, drink and laughter. So that's what we did. When my subsequent partner of 10 years died, her youngest son made the arrangements for graveside services. Nothing like I would have done, but figured it was not my place as the johnny come lately -- he represented her real family. The point is, get involved in how to HONOR her as she deserves rather than grieve for her, which is about you not her. Do you ever get to the point of not missing them, feeling you can pick up the phone and call them, think "I need to remember to tell her about this". Nope. And it was particularly so a couple of weekends ago when our granddaughter graduated from college, but I knew somewhere she was smiling and very proud.

Everyone is different, there is no right way to deal with this. In time you will find it less raw but it wont ever go but you will get used to it

So sorry. It must be the "same" yet different for all of us when we love. @Sequoia51 has given some good advice.

Sorry for your loss, it's always a big shock, every day will feel different, some harder than others, there is no time scale for bereavement, it does get easier just don't rush yourself to feel better. Can you reach out to friends or family to talk? Take a day at a time with things, it took me years to get used to not having my Mum anymore and now I'm still dealing with not having my Dad anymore. Be kind to yourself and think about the good memories you have of your mum

aw, i'm so sorry for your heart break🫂 and you're in shock right now, you poor dear. i do know how it feels. it's normal... and brutal. i was in shock for about 24 hrs when my father died in 2019, then i cried for 18 hours straight and had to be medicated to sleep. then i cried for 4 days straight whenever i wasn't sleeping. i cried while i showered, while i ate, and i had to have a diagnostic test done on the 3rd day and wept through it and didn't even care what people thought. they were kind and gentle and didn't ask what was wrong. after the fourth day, i cried on and off for a few more weeks. the whole first year was hard. each year after got easier, and i was finding joy in remembering more and more. four years on, i can still get teary at certain times of the year. mostly, i just love my dad and you will go on to love your mother the rest of your life, enjoying her memory, feeling that she is living through you in many ways... eventually. be kind to yourself in the coming days, and i hope you will receive all the love and support you will need to get through the hardest part of your grief.

My mom passed away two years ago now, and it took about a year for me to even begin the grieving process. It just felt so unreal, like she's not actually dead, and I will probably see her around and we are gonna go grab a coffee some day or whatever. Those were thoughts "from the heart", and when the brain ultimately corrected those thoughts and said it's never going to happen ever again because she's dead... that hit me like a freight train.

You can still talk to her. Write her letters, like, by hand. Let your feelings pour into them. It helped me at least, I'm notoriously bad with dealing with emotions and stuff, but maybe it will also help you.

I'm so sorry for your loss, it's fucking bs

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My mom passed away a few years ago. There is no set time line for grieving. I still have those times where I just want to talk to her. They’re just maybe not as frequent.

You mentioned not going to the funeral. I think that you absolutely should go. Have your bestie (or several) there with you to give you hugs and tissues. It will be the worst day of your life, but avoiding that will not help with the closure you need and the grieving process.

Bless your heart! I'm so sorry to hear this. Everyone grieves in their own way and in their own time. You grieve in whatever way is best for you. You don't have to stay strong throughout this. Allow yourself to breakdown if necessary. You have to let your emotions out for the healing to begin. I'm here for you if you need someone to talk to or a shoulder to lean on. Just let me know if I can help. I'll be praying for you.

First, I’m sorry for your loss. That’s said there are actual grief studies that show that 22 months after a loss like this an individual has largely come to terms with things. Obviously there is some variability but you will move on. Be stronger than you want to be.

So sorry to hear. I lost both parents when I was 24-25. It was hard. My brother, sister and I got close. I relied on friends. Felt like shit. But time made the pain fade a little at a time. Holidays sucked for a couple years. I hope you do ok it gets better.

I'm so sorry.
(((HUGS)))

My condolences. Big hug.
Nothing wrong in grieving. You will always remember all sweet memories. You have her voice mail. Save on USB so you can have it for future.
God bless you with strength to go through this difficult time of your life.
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I am sorry to hear that . Just don't lock yourself in such circumstances and move on for the best for you . No body can stop death but though you still have your memories for your best moments . May your mom RIP 🤗

So sorry for your loss. I know the feeling as my mom passed suddenly also just after christmas. All you can do is keep her in your thoughts. I still grieve you may need to find someone to talk to.

So sorry.

The funeral might be good, since people will talk about all the good times with her. I hope it will be a celebration of her life.

Everyone grieves on their own way. You will recover, but never forget her.

I am so sorry for your loss. 💔😢 I have lost both of my parents.

Breath and come talk . It takes a bit

Omg!!! So sorry for your loss. I am the same with my Mom, God bless Moms they are just irreplaceable. Please take your time, it does take longer. I still cry thinking of my late Dad who passed away 7 years ago. So sorry, please take care. 😢