Why did my therapist keep suggesting that i dont do anything towards my bully?
She said to just walk away and they will leave you alone.
Huh?
Huh?
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UndeadSona · F
Fishy · 36-40, F
Depends on the context,
sometimes doing something about it can cause more problems because they know you're upset, and then they have you right where they want you.
Other times if you embarrass them, they will come after you harder.
But on the other hand, sometimes doing something about it can send them running with their tail between their legs.
Really depends on the situation and the particular bully you're dealing with
sometimes doing something about it can cause more problems because they know you're upset, and then they have you right where they want you.
Other times if you embarrass them, they will come after you harder.
But on the other hand, sometimes doing something about it can send them running with their tail between their legs.
Really depends on the situation and the particular bully you're dealing with
TheOnlyTribalChiefRomanReigns · 56-60, M
I was bullied most of my life and I always took action against them sure these therapists can say walk away but it's easier said than done I have even got cyber bullied by grown adults and it hurt me but most of them websites have been taken down because simply of money situations I wish you the best.
NaturalBeautyQueen · 41-45, F
It’s hard to say. Can you ask your therapist what she means? I was bullied, but never got it really resolved. I just relocated and that took me away from the situation. “Walk away” could mean many things. It’s her job to elaborate. So in your next session, maybe see if you can revisit the subject?
Miram · 31-35, F
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When you're not confident with your therapist's approach, it is best to get a different professional perspective.
Most people on the internet can't really evaluate which side of the conflict is a threat, unless they have more a detailed look.
When you're not confident with your therapist's approach, it is best to get a different professional perspective.
Most people on the internet can't really evaluate which side of the conflict is a threat, unless they have more a detailed look.
Selah ·
That's not how bullying works and I would question her ability to facilitate results in your life. You can always ask her to explain herself since she has more insight into your situation than us.
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
Its good advice if it works. These things can escalate..😷
SW-User
So you’re in your 30s letting someone bully you
Gusman · 61-69, M
@SW-User People go through their whole lives being bullied. Usually because of a lack of self esteem.
Maybe their early life was not the best and the bullied regressed into themselves, becoming introverted.
They may not have had positive role models so never really learnt the ways of the world.
Personally it took me until my mid 40s before I finally had the courage to stand up for myself.
Once I realised that everyone is entitled to be treated with dignity and respect, once I realised that bullies really are cowards and if you constantly call them out on their bullying then they eventually crawl under a log.
Maybe their early life was not the best and the bullied regressed into themselves, becoming introverted.
They may not have had positive role models so never really learnt the ways of the world.
Personally it took me until my mid 40s before I finally had the courage to stand up for myself.
Once I realised that everyone is entitled to be treated with dignity and respect, once I realised that bullies really are cowards and if you constantly call them out on their bullying then they eventually crawl under a log.
Rolexeo · 26-30, M
I don't think they're allowed to suggest you resort to violence.
OogieBoogie · F
Well it depends on what part of your life the bully takes up - a bully boss will continue to bully people, but if its an acquaintance....walk away. If its a co-worker, ignore....if it's family - face up to them.
Bullies LOVE victims - so your therapist has a point there. If you stop reacting and caring about what the bully does, they usually go find someone else to pick on.
But only you can gauge the situation and what to do .
Therapists 'say' a lot of things 'in theory'.
It doesnt mean it works in reality.
Bullies LOVE victims - so your therapist has a point there. If you stop reacting and caring about what the bully does, they usually go find someone else to pick on.
But only you can gauge the situation and what to do .
Therapists 'say' a lot of things 'in theory'.
It doesnt mean it works in reality.
TheOneyouwerewarnedabout · 46-50, MVIP
Yeah nah.. judo neck chop
caccoon · 36-40
Because bullies can only be made significant by our reaction to them
LordShadowfire · 46-50, M
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