It's impossible to work men out because all men are different. Every time you meet a new one, you have to start with essentially a blank slate and work from there. There are social trends which are broadly applicable across most men, but even they act more as a guideline for figuring out a man and aren't reliable.

Sure. Both are quite straighforward. However, you have to be able to frame them in terms you arent comfortable with and think outside your comfort zone. First, know that both genders come with a double decker personality. The instinct animal, and the evolved human and they interact. Women instinctively seek good genes and security for themselves and their offspring. Which is perfectly understandable. But here it gets complicated, The evolved woman wants to do what she wants..And that changes according to a bunch of factors I wont blame on her time of the month. (but some might). Basically, she wants one of two things. More, and something else. She keeps wanting more, until the moment comes when she wants something else, Now guys. You need to go figure out what that is.. Good Luck!
Now for the guys. At the animal level, they desire to breed with anything they can catch. Some more than others, but its still there in the background. The better looking and smoother (or richer) a guy is the more opportunities he will get and dont expect him not to take advantage. Really ideally a guy seeks the perfect woman . Once he finds her he will settle down happily enough hoping she never changes,. But she does. Kids, career, age, boredom. Life is change. So he will adapt one way or another. A large part of that will be how much she wants to improve her perfect man. Because he will never really change..Just put on a Husband suit when she is around. If you dont believe me, watch him carefully when he is watching football, boxing or playing sport with his old male friends. The guy you first took up with is still in there, Just less hair and more gut..So letting him be him sometimes will help him he happy with who he has become for you..That wont stop him looking at other women. But it will keep him happy to just look..😷

I can say, based on my own experience, that players never stop playing, and they will usually die before they grow up and realize that love is sacred, and that it should be valued.

Maybe it's arrogant of me,
but I think it's usually best to think of people as just people, irrespective of x or y genes.

Most of us have an ego. If we mature, we eventually discover that ego issues aren't that important. What matters most is empathy, kindness, honesty, responsibility and making the best of our circumstances.
We all have pretty much the same basic drives, depending on age and health.

If we do something simple, liking asking others what they need, with a little practicality and creativity, we can usually find mutually satisfying ways to meet them.

We suffer most when we let ego, power issues, greed, anger or ignorance rule us.

My experiences. My ex was anything but honest, and I was naive which is exactly what she was looking for. I value honesty. I will tell women where they stand. I will tell them they may not like what I say but I will not lie to them. It works better this way.

Sort of. Definitely cannot treat women the same way you treat men. Women are more emotional so you have to take greater care with your words. Take notice and say something nice if they changed their hair or are wearing a new outfit. They're sense of humor is usually different, in my experience men prefer sexual humor whereas women like corny or dad jokes. Women are more vain than men, we simply dont care abou our appearance. But i feel like women also have more patience than men. Theres a lot more. It varies from person to person.

I have no time for mind games there is no point to them.

Those who play head games seem to also be more likely to cheat. Playing games is nothing but deception, and lies go hand in hand with unfaithfulness.
My first husband was a big player. It frustrated me no end, and I finally saw it for what it was, cruel and deceptive. He was also a liar and a cheater.

its like the joke, a man walks along a beach, finds a lantern, he rubs it and a genie comes out., he thinks wonderful i will be rich, he asks for his three wishes, the genie says .''im not that kind of genie, i can answer any question in the world, the man thinks hard, hmm ok clever guy, explain to me the israel /palestine conflict, the genie says'' oh that's too complicated, asks me something else, something simpler'',, so the guy thinks then says' explain ot me how a woman's mind works' and the genie says' ok in 1948 israel invaded palestine,

I have been asked how I stayed married 51 years. The answer is don't get divorced. A perfect marriage is two imperfect people who refuse to give up.

I do not understand them at all

Yes iv worked women I’m always wrong always in the way. And you are always right lol 😂

Thank you so much for all your replies it was most interesting.🥰🥰

trick Q.. nobody can work woman out 🤓

I avoid men in that way. They confuse the crap out of me, along with relationships. I don't know how it gets so complicated, or why it's so difficult to be thoughtful, but I am happier alone. I have a son so I kinda am starting to understand guys, but he's the only one I can handle.

People too easily let their insecurities affect how they treat others, especially in relationships. They do this because they don’t understand how the mind actually works and how they actually have these insecurities that are causing this behavior to begin with. They can choose to acknowledge what’s really going on in their own mind, acknowledge that the insecurities are their own fabrication, and choose to pick a different thought pattern and path. But most don’t.

Part of the excitement and attraction is in not being able to work them out. Women are mysterious creatures. That's why I love 'em.

It’s awful isn’t it? I don’t understand it or men. 😕

To quote my brother ... "As long as my stomach is full and my balls are empty, I'm happy"

Men are not that complicated. It's rather scary they run the world.

Ive learned that anyone who says it's complicated..is making it harder than it's needed ..this includes me ...it's bullshit really

I’m too Autistic to be anything other than extremely blunt and also I ask very direct questions.

I chose to remove myself from the equation. The bachelors life for me!

I worked out they do not approach things the same way.

welcome back, loooooong time no see.🌷

I dont bother. 😏

I always approached it from the premise that our similarities as human beings [b]must[/b] override any gender differences, which are surely mostly social mores, anyway ?
Could be why I never remarried. 🤔

Yes, it's quite simple really. Communication. I have started to open up (slightly) more and find that people respond to that.

Be honest open seek common ground confirm everything and expressive gratitude. And avoid assumptions.

I've tried everything and given up.

Pffft, total freakin mystery.