Has any woman worked men out yet and are there any men who have women worked out?

I watch friends & families marriages or dating experiences and there seems to be a lot of game playing and not in a good way. What are your experiences.

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travelguy01 · 41-45, M

People too easily let their insecurities affect how they treat others, especially in relationships. They do this because they don’t understand how the mind actually works and how they actually have these insecurities that are causing this behavior to begin with. They can choose to acknowledge what’s really going on in their own mind, acknowledge that the insecurities are their own fabrication, and choose to pick a different thought pattern and path. But most don’t.

Primnproper · 56-60, F

@travelguy01 but what if someone’s else’s action in that relationship causes those insecurities?

travelguy01 · 41-45, M

@Primnproper You can’t control their actions, only how you respond to them. You can choose to see it for what it really is: the other person has their own insecurities and issues that are causing them to behave this way toward you. Call them out on it, and try to help them take the steps to change their pattern. They should be trying to contribute positively toward others, and not trick or take selfishly from others, especially their own partner.
If they refuse, then it’s not the person you want or need to be in a relationship with.

Primnproper · 56-60, F

@travelguy01 that is exactly how I see it with this family member who is frankly taking the mickey out of the wife and their marriage but she refuses to accept it hence he just carries on as she’s enabling him.

travelguy01 · 41-45, M

@Primnproper Is he into drugs or alcohol, or cheating on her?

Primnproper · 56-60, F

@travelguy01 in the beginning 15 yrs ago it was alcohol and general trouble but she stood by him and fair play to him he settled down they had a son, married but he’s 35 and I think it’s spooked him seeing life passing him by and he found someone online who he claimed was just a friend which we all knew was not true.

travelguy01 · 41-45, M

@Primnproper Oh no, that’s going to be real trouble if he continues down that path. He’s unhappy for his own reasons and is choosing an escapist path with this online fling instead of accepting his responsibilities and doing right by his family. He needs to change his viewpoint on life.

Primnproper · 56-60, F

@travelguy01 I’ve tried to get him to see it for what it is from a different perspective but he has blinkers on. I know if he walks away from what he has he’s going to regret it but it looks like he’s going to have to find out for himself.

travelguy01 · 41-45, M

@Primnproper The even bigger issue is that he’s going to negatively impact his wife and child in the process of destroying himself too. Your daughter also needs to see this, and try to help him snap out of it. She needs to be confident in herself and her own instincts and not fall for any attempted guilt tripping or gaslighting from him.

Primnproper · 56-60, F

@travelguy01 I think they both got themselves into a rut and life became monotonous as it can in many long term marriages or relationships and instead of working in reconnecting it made him question whether his marriage was over. She had no idea as he said he had been acting normal for the last year when he had doubts.