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TinyViolins · 31-35, M
It's very rare in the animal kingdom, but so are males raising offspring or taking on parenting roles. In species where males do, they often form monogamous pair bonds with the mother of the offspring. Humans are one of the few mammalian instances of this, and even we aren't perfect examples. It's just not that common for mammalian males to try their hand at being dads.
Even in species that do form pair bonds, they often aren't wholly sexually monogamous, but rather socially monogamous. Mostly looking at birds and fish for these examples. I think a few rodents do this as well.
I think it's a wonderful ideal, especially for the sake of child rearing, but it's definitely an exception rather the rule when it comes to mating. Many people manage to make it work, but how much of that is due to social stigma is up for debate.
It just doesn't seem like it's a very viable strategy
Even in species that do form pair bonds, they often aren't wholly sexually monogamous, but rather socially monogamous. Mostly looking at birds and fish for these examples. I think a few rodents do this as well.
I think it's a wonderful ideal, especially for the sake of child rearing, but it's definitely an exception rather the rule when it comes to mating. Many people manage to make it work, but how much of that is due to social stigma is up for debate.
It just doesn't seem like it's a very viable strategy
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Infamous607 · 51-55, M
@JimboSaturn
It's not that important my dude.
It's not that important my dude.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
I believe monogamy exists just like polygamy exists.
I don't assign either as being morally correct.
There are such things as hermits as well.
It's the society that forces the morality in anything.
Why is this a patriarchal society, instead of a matriarchal society?
This society had forced the issue.
Yes I would be a hermit in a matriarchal society as well.
And no I don't want to be.😔
Now ask why is being a hermit legal and not forced into a relationship? Either monogamy or polygamy.
Why? Because there are no norms in truth. Just being forced is the norm.
It's the forcing that needs to be changed. The societal pressure to conform to specific relationship structures limits individual freedom and choice.
I don't assign either as being morally correct.
There are such things as hermits as well.
It's the society that forces the morality in anything.
Why is this a patriarchal society, instead of a matriarchal society?
This society had forced the issue.
Yes I would be a hermit in a matriarchal society as well.
And no I don't want to be.😔
Now ask why is being a hermit legal and not forced into a relationship? Either monogamy or polygamy.
Why? Because there are no norms in truth. Just being forced is the norm.
It's the forcing that needs to be changed. The societal pressure to conform to specific relationship structures limits individual freedom and choice.
PDXNative1986 · 36-40, MVIP
I believe it can be done but is very challenging, as for myself Polyamory is not something I do, it's unfortunately my identity- I don't want to be but it has largely chosen me against my own will. I don't want to experience this attraction to multiple women at the same time but nature it seems has plans for me that don't really care how I feel.
LordShadowfire · 46-50, M
Monogamy was not considered normal by humans for 90% of our history as a species. We traveled in polyamorous troops like monkeys or gorillas, and even when we settled down in agricultural villages, it was not unusual for the members of the villages to be polyamorous. It is only with the advent of Christianity that a monogamous model was forced upon humans.
Now, I'm not knocking monogamy. If you love someone so much that you absolutely can't bear to share them with anyone, I'm not about to yuck your yum. And who knows? Maybe I'll find somebody like that one day. All I'm saying here is that it's not for everyone, and it's not natural for humans as a species.
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
Now, I'm not knocking monogamy. If you love someone so much that you absolutely can't bear to share them with anyone, I'm not about to yuck your yum. And who knows? Maybe I'll find somebody like that one day. All I'm saying here is that it's not for everyone, and it's not natural for humans as a species.
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
swirlie · 31-35
@LordShadowfire
What you've stated in your quote above is absolutely correct. The primary reason for Christianity hence monogamy becoming a mainstay in society during the time of Christ, was because of an epidemic of venereal disease which was killing-off society faster than they were being born.
This occurred as a direct result of the 'poly' lifestyle that was considered normal social behavior at the time which worked okay in small groups who never strayed from the village, but didn't work well at all when strangers entered the picture from other villages which then changed the social order of poly relationships.
The concept of Christianity wasn't really about society following God's way to a better life, it was more about the church having full control of society by instilling the fear of God in every living human being and declaring on behalf of God, that there will only be one man assigned to one woman with no exceptions, which meant no more wife-swapping between neighbors and no more screwing our husband's brother when he came to town for a visit.
Christianity was indeed forced onto society ever since the time of Christ, which then made monogamous relationships the 'norm' in society which was done through an act of marriage, which was then sold to society as being an Act of God which of course could ONLY be made a 'real' marriage by the church on behalf of God.
All of this was done in the name of stopping the spread of sexually transmitted diseases which resulted when society began to expand from small isolated villages while introducing new strains of STD's to new villagers who had not yet established natural immunity to those new strains of STD's because of the otherwise isolated nature of society at the time.
It is only with the advent of Christianity that a monogamous model was forced upon humans.
What you've stated in your quote above is absolutely correct. The primary reason for Christianity hence monogamy becoming a mainstay in society during the time of Christ, was because of an epidemic of venereal disease which was killing-off society faster than they were being born.
This occurred as a direct result of the 'poly' lifestyle that was considered normal social behavior at the time which worked okay in small groups who never strayed from the village, but didn't work well at all when strangers entered the picture from other villages which then changed the social order of poly relationships.
The concept of Christianity wasn't really about society following God's way to a better life, it was more about the church having full control of society by instilling the fear of God in every living human being and declaring on behalf of God, that there will only be one man assigned to one woman with no exceptions, which meant no more wife-swapping between neighbors and no more screwing our husband's brother when he came to town for a visit.
Christianity was indeed forced onto society ever since the time of Christ, which then made monogamous relationships the 'norm' in society which was done through an act of marriage, which was then sold to society as being an Act of God which of course could ONLY be made a 'real' marriage by the church on behalf of God.
All of this was done in the name of stopping the spread of sexually transmitted diseases which resulted when society began to expand from small isolated villages while introducing new strains of STD's to new villagers who had not yet established natural immunity to those new strains of STD's because of the otherwise isolated nature of society at the time.
swirlie · 31-35
@nazgul
Monogamy only exists until you decide that it no longer applies to you, at which point monogamy ceases to exist if we then seek a new partner. Monogamy isn't about what everyone else is doing, monogamy is only about you and what you're doing in your own personal reality.
Personally I prefer to devote myself to one person, so I know it exists. I can't be the only one!
Monogamy only exists until you decide that it no longer applies to you, at which point monogamy ceases to exist if we then seek a new partner. Monogamy isn't about what everyone else is doing, monogamy is only about you and what you're doing in your own personal reality.
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
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ToLivePeacefully · 31-35, M
Yes.
I don't want to tell a large bs story about why its not possible or possible.
You asked Do I believe in it ? Yes I do.
I don't want to tell a large bs story about why its not possible or possible.
You asked Do I believe in it ? Yes I do.
FreeSpirit1 · F
oogirl · 13-15, F
Yes I will be with Bobby forever
GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M
Yep.
TexChik · F
Yes, absolutely!
tallpowerhouseblonde · 36-40, F
AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F
YMITheWayIM · 46-50, M
Northwest · M
Yes.
Roundandroundwego · 61-69
I think some couples stay together for a long time.
Shybutwilling2bfriends · 61-69
Yes i do
Magicianzini · M
CountScrofula · 41-45, M
BrandNewMan · M
Degbeme · 70-79, M
I don`t know anymore.
phoenixrising · M
Yes, I prefer it that way
Infamous607 · 51-55, M
Of course.
basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M
As a concept or personally?
Also yes to both.
Also yes to both.
GuidanceCounselor · 56-60, M
No I do not
MyNameIsHurl · 41-45, F
Yes, Id either be alone, which is fine, or with someone I love. I don't need to entertain a bunch of gross men to feel good about myself.
swirlie · 31-35
@MyNameIsHurl
Monogamy isn't about entertaining a bunch of men, it's about having just one current partner at a time.
Monogamy isn't about entertaining a bunch of men, it's about having just one current partner at a time.
Zonuss · 46-50, M
I believe that whatever makes you happy as a human being is what you should do.
BigImo · 26-30, F
It is extremely outdated, controlling, and toxic. Plus it just makes more sense to have multiple partners in the modern world where everything is expensive
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F
meJess · F
It sounds better in stereo
hunkalove · 70-79, M
Apparently, it does exist. Not for me.
FeetAreFantastic · 41-45, M
ImperialAerosolKidFromEP · 51-55, M
Only in marriage. Before that, you wait
swirlie · 31-35
@ImperialAerosolKidFromEP
That's the funniest comment I've ever read! Keep up the good work!
That's the funniest comment I've ever read! Keep up the good work!
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AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M
Yes
LordBarbossa · 36-40, T
Yepp
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
Yes
Yes
Cigarguy · M
Yes
ElRengo · 70-79, M
Yes
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Yea ☺
ElwoodBlues · M
Yes